Text/Gao Xiaolan
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In the turbulent era of the Republic of China, there were many talented and beautiful people, and many touching love stories were also left.
Lin Huiyin, as one of the talented women of the Republic of China, has left a deeper impression on the world.
Hu Shi said: "Lin Huiyin is a talented woman of The Chinese generation. ”
Even BingXin, who was a little at odds with her, gave her a high evaluation: "She is very beautiful and talented. ”
I have to say that Lin Huiyin is really remarkable.
But in addition to the title of talented woman, her super-positive view of marriage is really admirable.
People whose three views are incompatible, decisively let go
16-year-old Lin Huiyin met 24-year-old Xu Zhimo in London, when she was excellent in learning, and at that time he was also prosperous, when the talent met the best person, a beautiful love was about to begin.
Xu Zhimo is good at singing the praises of freedom and love with beautiful words.
Just like the beautiful sentence in "Farewell to Kangqiao", anyone who reads it will be amazed.
"The golden willow on the river is the bride of the sunset; the bright shadow in the waves ripples in my heart; the green grass on the grass mud, the oil flaunting under the water; in the soft waves of the Kang River, I am willing to be a water weed."
The talented woman was attracted to Juncai, which was reasonable, but Xu Zhimo's wife Zhang Youyi appeared.
Until this time, Lin Huiyin knew that Xu Zhimo was married, and Xu Zhimo not only had to divorce his wife in order to be with Lin Huiyin, but also let her beat up the child she had just conceived.
When behind a man, there stands a deeply hurt wife, the same woman, Lin Huiyin can not do it to turn a blind eye.
Even at an age of ignorance, she still maintained her sanity and did not want to embarrass herself with such illusory feelings.
Therefore, she resolutely rejected Xu Zhimo:
"I lowered my sails, refused the temptation of the sea, and escaped the lapping of the waves."
The meaning behind this verse is intriguing.
Lower the sails and choose to stay in the harbor, because she is still an immature girl, so she does not dare to easily sail into the unknown sea, risking being involved in the whirlpool, causing people to misunderstand and accuse.
Lin Huiyin saw Xu Zhimo clearly, but Xu Zhimo did not understand Lin Huiyin.
He didn't understand her childhood nightmares, much less her views on marriage.
In the youth years, Lin Huiyin will also have a longing and yearning for love.
However, when a learned man makes a storm in order to pursue his resolute divorce, it is more frightening than the heartbeat.
Lin Huiyin soberly chose to leave, until many years later, she told her child about the past:
"Xu Zhimo's love at that time was not really loving me, but Lin Huiyin imagined with his poet's romantic emotions, and that was not the real me."
When she was young, she always thought that Lin Hui was too selfish and had failed Xu Zhimo, who loved her deeply.
Looking at Lin Huiyin's choice and view of marriage at that time, I can't help but admire it.
In "Thirty Only", When Wang Mani learns that Leung Cheng-yin has a girlfriend of seven years in Hong Kong, she breaks down.
Gu Jia, a good friend, said to her, "You must understand that only you love you in this world." ”
Therefore, when Leung Zhengxian proposed that Wang Manni and his Hong Kong girlfriend "one south and one north" take turns with him, Wang Mani, who once loved him, scoffed and left directly.
When women are clear about their position and attitude toward marriage, they will never dwell on people who are not suitable.
As Romain Rolland said, "You don't have to force love, you have to be responsible for marriage." ”
We will meet many people in our lives, and those who encounter three views of disagreement must dare to let go.
This is not only a respect for love, but also a responsibility for marriage.
People who have three views together spend their lives together
Under the arrangement of his parents, Lin Huiyin eventually married Liang Sicheng.
Legend has it that Liang Sicheng once asked Lin Huiyin: "Why me?" ”
Lin Huiyin replied, "The answer is very long, and I have to spend my whole life answering you." ”
Lin Huiyin did it, and she loved Liang Sicheng in her own unique way.
Shakespeare said:
"Love is not a sweet word in the shade of a flower, not a honey word in the peach blossom source, not a light tear, not a hard compulsion, love is based on a common language." 」
It can be seen that happy love is to find someone with a common language.
Lin Huiyin likes architecture, and Liang Sicheng is willing to devote himself to the construction business together for her.
Their work is neither simple nor romantic.
From 1930 to 1945, the two men walked through 15 provinces and 190 counties in China and inspected 2,738 ancient buildings.
Despite the hardships of life, Lin Huiyin always felt that she was the happiest person in the world because she and her lover were engaged in the work she liked.
When Liang Sicheng relapsed due to long-term fatigue and spondylosis, he could only do some simple needlework at home, Lin Huiyin took on the responsibility of taking care of the family. In order to subsidize her family, she has to travel a long way to make up lessons for students.
This woman, who combines beauty and talent, faces a pile of housework every day, but never regrets it, because she has harvested love and happiness.
After the outbreak of the War of Resistance Against Japan, the family had no fixed place to live, and Lin Hui, who had been troubled for a long time, relapsed again due to lung disease, and the threat was menacing. She could only lie in bed every day, eat badly and sleep badly, and thin into skin and bones.
During that time, in order to treat Lin Huiyin's illness, Liang Sicheng often went to the pawnshop, dropped his clothes, and even had his own watch, buying back food for Lin Huiyin to supplement his body.
In the case of difficult doctors and shortage of drugs, he learned to help Lin Huiyin with needles, skillfully using the stove to make a fire, and each time the utensils used tirelessly used the steamer to disinfect.
The hardships of life did not make the two people complain, and when one of them could not walk, they would always gently stop and take care of each other.
Lin Huiyin also proved with his own personal experience that the person who can agree with the three views in marriage is the person who can spend a lifetime together.
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Love can be romantic, but marriage needs reality.
For Lin Huiyin, Xu Zhimo is like "poetry and far away." ”
Liang Sicheng is like "chai rice oil and salt" to Lin Huiyin. ”
Lin Huiyin is happy because she has found a suitable partner and has enough security and happiness in each other's company.
Although life will also have bumps and bumps, it is a lucky life to be able to choose a long-term relationship and persevere.
As Shakespeare said:
"An unsatisfactory marriage is like a hell, a lifetime of chickens fighting with geese, on the contrary, choosing a satisfactory spouse can be harmonious for a hundred years and endless happiness." 」
May every woman, in the face of marriage, maintain a sense of clarity and sanity, and find a person who can grow old and be happy for a lifetime.