In recent years, the thesis on wanting to raise a rich daughter still emerges from time to time, but about the rich, many people only know the surface and do not know the fundamentals, thinking that the so-called rich nutrition refers to eating well and dressing children, taking them to live in five-star hotels, eating French Michelin dinners, using the best electronic products, wearing the most expensive clothes, and thinking that this is to give her daughter a long insight, which is to help her broaden her horizons and let her see the life of the upper class.
But this is all wrong.
In the long run, you may find that the child is becoming more and more squeamish, and even more and more material vanity and selfishness, only willing to be the best in everything, can not bear a little grievance, perhaps some parents will feel happy when they see the situation, and sigh that they have finally cultivated the noble and elegant temperament of their daughters, and the child's taste in life has also followed.
But this is only a superficial appearance, only know one does not know the second, do not know some hidden dangers behind, will add endless obstacles to the child's future life.
Lu Xiaoman, a famous lady of the Republic of China, was born into a noble family, his father Lu Ding was a high-ranking official of the Kuomintang, and later served as the director of the Ministry of Finance and the director of the Taxation Department, and his mother was a famous lady. Parents want their daughter to be a talented lady who can draw poetry.
Since he was a child, Lu Ding was intelligent, had strong learning ability, and had good homework, and once studied at the famous Waseda University in Japan. During his studies in Japan, he studied with the famous prime minister Ito Hirobumi, who also admired him.
Lu Xiaoman undoubtedly inherited his father's qualifications, was talented and intelligent, and learned everything faster than others. In addition, in addition to being born in this family, in addition to her prominent family lineage, intelligence and wit, appearance, wealth, etc., she also has all the love poured out by her parents.
Why?
Lu Xiaoman was lucky, but also unlucky. The benefits that her family lineage brought to her were not taken advantage of by her, but because of the family situation, she gained more favors, but endless pampering often damaged a person's blessings.
Lu Xiaoman's parents had a total of nine children, unfortunately, the other children of the couple died in infancy or youth, and only Lu Xiaoman was the only one who survived. In that era, because of the idea of son preference, many girls were not valued by their parents, but Lu Xiaoman's parents were not, because of those experiences, they not only did not dislike this daughter, but especially loved her, and poured all their love into her.
Lu Xiaoman is really the darling of heaven and the unique princess of the Lu family. However, this is not necessarily just a blessing, but it is also a curse.
Lu Xiaoman, who has grown up, is indeed very likable. It is said that when she was a teenager, she was already fluent in English and French, could play the piano, and could write a fly-headed letter. He also studies oil painting and reads martial arts stories in his free time. At school, she was a high-profile student, and in the social arena, she was second to none. Lu Xiaoman, who has long been shrouded in various auras and glory, can hardly be alone, and cannot tolerate the quiet and uneventful married life.
She is used to being noticed, used to being sought after by people, and after getting married, she can only be Wang Geng's wife, play cards and listen to plays every day, eat and chat, go in and out of people to serve, and don't have to worry too much about the complicated and trivial things at home, it is reasonable to say that such an idle and comfortable married life, throughout the ages, is what many women yearn for and pursue, but Lu Xiaoman can't do his duty.
She wants the scenery of the banquet, the bustle of the dance hall, the staggered reception of the guests, but she does not want to live a peaceful life with her husband and children.
In this way, in the boring life, Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo gradually intersected, and it was also in her marriage with Wang Geng. There is morality at stake.
As mentioned earlier, Lu Xiaoman's parents are very fond of her, and Lu Xiaoman has almost had to wind and rain from birth, her life should not have experienced any twists and turns, she was raised by her parents, and she was arrogant and selfish and willful. Children who grow up in such an environment are sometimes rebellious in their hearts, for them, what they can't get is the best, and what they want to get must be obtained.
Why? For Lu Xiaoman, is there anything that cannot be obtained? Money and wealth, fame and power, social status, appearance and temperament, intelligence and wit, comfortable little life, she is not lacking. But a funny and exciting lover, but she can't get it, because she is a married woman. Especially when faced with her tasteless husband Wang Geng and her clever lover Xu Zhimo, her hilarious, vain and prosperous nature will undoubtedly choose Xu Zhimo.
An affair? Yes, she knew that she would bear the infamy, but the feeling of being addicted to falling into passion, the excitement and happiness, attracted her to the social scene for many years.
She is not an ordinary woman, need to consider honor, afraid of carrying a name, wayward she only cares about her own feelings and joys and sorrows, from childhood to be raised, there is nothing that can not be obtained in growth, when she grows up, what is not obtained is particularly attractive to her, even if it is against ethics and morality, it is not worth mentioning in her view.
If this is the consequence of rich support, will Lu Xiaoman's parents regret it?
Lu Xiaoman, who left Wang Geng, threw himself into Xu Zhimo's arms, but after the marriage, the two did not have any income, and Xu Zhimo was embarrassed to always ask his father for money. And Lu Xiaoman not only has luxury bungalows, but also private cars, and even the domestic servants are well-dressed. The contradiction between the two deepened.
Lu Xiaoman, who grew up rich, had social interactions and drinking and dancing in her marriage with Wang Geng, if she and Wang Geng were not true love at all, it would be enough. But after she and Xu Zhimo worked hard and eliminated all difficulties, and successively obtained the consent of Wang Geng, Zhang Youyi, Lu Family Parents, Xu Family Parents, Liang Qichao and other parties or related parties and entered the marriage, it may be said that Lu Xiaoman found true love, but after she married Xu Zhimo, he still had some senseless socializing, Xu Zhimo once complained in his diary:
"Why don't you listen to me, don't even obey me in the smallest things—but where people tell you to go, you comb your hair and go fast... Your senseless socializing is really impatient, and I think it's really angry..."
"I don't want you... Spend money casually, and invisibly develop the habit of 'what you want and what you have to do'..."
It is said that Yu Dafu's wife once saw Lu Xiaoman buy five pairs of high-end leather shoes at a time while shopping. Just a sipa, she has to buy foreign famous brands. The clothes she wore had to be carefully selected even with the fabrics, and they had to be made by famous masters in Shanghai. If the clothes don't suit her heart, she won't wear them no matter how much it costs her to make them. But Xu Zhimo wore a coat with two holes in the sleeve, and even the collar was worn. And for Lu Xiaoman, who is a wife, he can not care at all.
Because Lu Xiaoman was not in good health since childhood, and later learned to smoke opium at the suggestion of Weng Ruiwu, Xu Zhimo was even more anxious and asked her to quit opium, but how could Lu Xiaoman agree? In her opinion, next weekend is not as good for her as before, but interferes in her life, and she can't live such a life, but wants to be free...
Is there really love between these two people? For Lu Xiaoman, what she loves most may only be herself, even if she has a little bit of intelligence and a little appearance, the first half of her life is only used for squandering: she lives a night life, black and white are reversed, resulting in a worse and worse physical foundation, she only eats supplements and even infects with opium for unknown reasons; she is extravagant, covetous, addicted to materialism, and loves vanity, for which Xu Zhimo can only work hard for several jobs, and finally dies because of taking a free plane...
If rich support can really make girls more temperamental, then presumably many parents will prefer their daughters not to have this temperament.
For Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman, Liang Qichao gave a concise summary in one sentence: It is really terrible that he has not undergone strict training in character.
The parents of the Lu family and the xu family can be said to be rich and powerful people, but it is also sad to raise their children like this. Lu Xiaoman was indulgent in the first half of his life, there was no moral bottom line and the principle of being a person, and he came to the world to enjoy it, but as a celebrity, she lost her mind and squandered her sex, but did you know that from the perspective of Hu Shi and other so-called upper-class men, although they were proud of inviting her to dinner and party, in essence, was not Lu Xiaoman, a famous woman, a plaything in the hands of men?