The Republic of China is a very special era, all kinds of haojie mushroomed, beautiful celebrities spewed out, their family is well-off, connotation, thought, and characteristics, wandering among the giants, becoming a beautiful scenery at that time, but also an eternal historical topic, so standard, naturally inseparable from Lu Xiaoman, one of the "four beauties of the Republic of China".
Lu Xiaoman (1903-1965), also known as Xiaolong, his father Lu Ding was a proud protégé of the Japanese prime minister Ito Hirobumi, who served as the director of taxation in the Beiyang government, and later founded the China Savings Bank, which has been in the banking industry for many years. His mother, Wu Manhua, is a famous bridesmaid who is famous in Beijing with pen and ink Danqing, and Lu Xiaoman inherits both his father's talent and his mother's talent.
In the early years, Lu Dingte invited a British female teacher to teach English for Xiao Man, and at the same time sent her to study at the Sacred Heart Academy in Beijing, which is the cradle of diplomats, and the study is not the tedious Four Books and Five Classics, let alone the cumbersome Eight Strands of Literature.
Xiao Man studied under Liu Haisu and other famous artists, and was transcribed as a wizard in the painting world, Liu Haisu said: "Lu Xiaoman's old poems are fresh and beautiful, the articles contain elegance, and the painting is quite the convention of the Song Dynasty, which is a beautiful person in the world." Xiao Man is familiar with Kunqu opera, singing yellow skin, good at dancing, often invited to participate in various dances, she is delicate, shorten the fit, stroll out, a smile, a whirling response, Xiao Man's non-presence of the dance will be eclipsed.
Hu Shi said: "Lu Xiaoman is a scenery that must be seen. ”
Xiao Man was proficient in English and French Chinese, and in 1920, he was hired as a part-time translator by Gu Weijun, the foreign minister of the Beiyang government, and from then on he was known as Zhen Beiping social circles, and was called "Southern Tang Beilu" with Tang Ying, the "social flower" of Shanghai.
Tang Ying was born beautiful, known as the empress of the cheongsam, received Chinese and Western education since childhood, was good at poetry, familiar with playing the piano, and singing Kunqu opera. When the British royal family visited China, she performed Kunqu opera and piano on stage, which sensationalized the beach. In the autumn of 1935, she starred in the Peking Opera drama "Wang Baojun" in English, and her graceful dancing posture and superb acting skills became an agarwood of Shanghai.
In 1927, Tang Ying and Lu Xiaoman jointly performed the Kunqu opera "Peony Pavilion", Tang Ying anti-string prince Liu Mengmei, the style of raising his hands and feet, Lu Xiaoman played Du Liniang, gently shaking the folding fan of Miaoman, the pearl is combined, and the crowd on the beach is fascinated.
A gunshot in July 1931 shattered the love affair of Tang Ying and Song Ziwen, the golden boy and jade girl, and made people sigh.
In 1922, the 19-year-old Xiao Man was led by his parents to marry the "national son-in-law" Wang Geng, Lang Cai's female appearance, a martial art, can be described as a good couple. The Lu family, which is at its peak, single-handedly held the wedding ceremony in a vast manner, and the scene was known to the whole world.
Since then, Wang Geng is doomed to be unable to separate from Lu Xiaoman, and the tragedy of his life seems to have nothing to do with her, and it seems that it all arises from her.
Wang Geng (1895-1942), after graduating from Tsinghua University in 1911, was sent to the United States, and successively studied at the University of Michigan, Columbia University, west point military academy, and was in the same window as the 34th president of the United States, Eisenhower.
During the 1919 Paris Peace Conference, Wang Geng served as a colonel and translator of the Chinese delegation, during which time he worshiped Liang Qichao as a division, and after returning to China, he successively served as deputy commander of the Escort Road Army of the Ministry of Communications, director of the Harbin Municipal Police Department, and chief of staff of Sun Chuanfang's headquarters of the five provinces.
The rigor of the soldiers made Wang Geng's behavior stereotyped like an ascetic, and the young man's devotion made him busy with official business every day, and he rarely had time to accompany Xiao Man, let alone talk about spending time before the moon. But Xiao Man has been involved in the social world for many years, is a wayward, amorous, like to play and play with the woman, she longs to be cared for by men, longing for a vigorous love, the personality difference between husband and wife is huge, it is a completely different type of person, this seemingly perfect marriage, at the beginning there is a hidden crisis.
Newly married Xiao Man felt the pain of the family like a siege, she had to drink, play cards, dance with Miss Qianjin and his wives, the family affairs were indifferent, for this reason the orthodox husband had a lot of words about her, and over time, the husband and wife were naturally estranged, indifferent, and became resentful couples.
Wang Geng and Xu Zhimo are both young talents studying in the United States, and they are also the same as Liang Rengong's high feet, they are going to meet and know each other anyway, and Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman also met.
Zhang Ailing said: "In the tens of millions of people to meet the people you meet, in the tens of millions of years, in the endless wilderness of time, there is no step earlier, there is no step later, just happened to catch up, this is fate."
"When we met when we shouldn't have known each other, his radiant eyes shone through my heart and recognized my hidden pain." Little Man said years later.
At that time, Xu Zhimo abandoned his pregnant wife Zhang Youyi in order to pursue Lin Huiyin, and when Xu Zhimo saw Zhang Youyi's photo for the first time, he flicked the corner of his mouth down and said in a disgusted tone: "Rural soil buns!" After marriage, he did not look at Zhang Youyi and always ignored him. Zhang Youyi achieved the reputation of the first free and civilized divorce case in Chinese history, but she warmed that era with her kindness.
Lin Huiyin, a talented woman in the Republic of China, is a woman who blooms in time. She has a beautiful appearance, elegant conversation, noble temperament, more multiple talents, she wrote raw flowers, wrote "I said you are the April day on earth", she is an excellent architect, outstanding achievements, exquisite skills, she almost marks the color of an era.
The 18-year-old Lin Hui traveled to Europe and met Xu Zhimo, who was studying in the Uk. At that time, Xu Zhimo was already the father of a two-year-old child, Lin Hui was impressed by Xu Zhimo's profound knowledge, elegant conversation, handsome appearance, and Xu Zhimo was attracted by Lin Hui's outstanding talent and beauty, and wrote many love poems for her.
Xu Zhimo's sentence to Lin Huiyin, "I will visit my only soul mate in the vast sea of people, I am fortunate, I will not be able to die", which is better than all his poems, and this lifelong attachment makes people still moved.
During Tagore's visit to China in 1924, Xu and Lin worked together as interpreters, after which Xu Zhimo accompanied Tagore to Japan, and Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng went to the University of Pennsylvania, and when the two met again, it was four years later. During this period, Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng flew double-legged, and Xu Zhimo was defeated from Lin Huiyin.
Two people with the same disease and pity each other appreciate each other, each other's sweat pores are so beautiful, the other party is the person he has to wait for for three thousand years, Xu Zhimo fell in love with his friend's wife Xiao Man.
Xu Zhimo was completely fascinated by Xiao Man, he said: "Drowning three thousand, I only take her scoop to drink." In order to get her, I sometimes really want to pull her to a sympathetic death. I really don't love this form of life, I just ask for a companion."
Xu Zhimo used a strong and fiery text to reveal Xiao Man's lingering affection.
I came to the Yangtze River to buy a lotus poncho;
Peeling the lotus garment layer by hand,
Watch the gulls fly in front of your eyes,
With a look of sadness in his eyes,——
I think of you, I think of you, ah little dragon!
I taste the lotus petals and taste the warmth of the past——
The heavy curtain that does not roll before the steps,
Covering the soul-destroying love,
I listened to your word again:
"It will always be yours, my body, my soul."
I taste the lotus heart, and my heart is more bitter than the lotus heart...
In Xiao Man's eyes, Xu Zhimo is the most real man, he pursues the freedom of life as an individual, he is sincere, upright, frank, he cares about people, understands people, and understands people, his heart is so soft, his arms are so wide, Xiao Man likes such a gentleman and tender man, and it must be wonderful to live with such a person.
At that time, Wang Geng, who was unsuspecting, was busy with official duties, and he always said to Xu Zhimo without looking up: "Shima, I am busy, I will not go, you accompany Xiao Man to play!" Wang Geng trusts his wife, and even more trusts Shima's friend, Wang Geng is a general who strategizes and wins thousands of miles, and he cannot control the next plot.
They danced together, beautiful music, light dance steps inspired their strong emotions, inner collision, they enjoyed the beautiful scenery together, the birds and flowers of nature, let them be thrilled, intoxicated with each other. They drank and chatted together, revealing their hearts and speaking of their most secret pains and joys.
Yu Dafu said: "The loyal and gentle Little Man, the warm and sincere Xu Zhimo, when they meet together, they naturally want to set off sparks and burn them together." ”
Wang Geng went to Shanghai to take up his post, and ordered Xiao Man to go with him, but Xiao Man was unwilling, and the two quarreled over this, Xiao Man fainted physically and mentally and was sent to the hospital, but Wang Geng still went to Shanghai the next day to take up his post, which made Xiao Man feel cold.
One day, Tang Ying invited the couple to dinner, because of the dance, Wang Geng insulted Xiao Man in public, Xiao Man claimed that he would never return to the Wang family in the future, and when he returned home, he told his father about his anger, the father was very angry, and approved of his daughter's divorce from Wang Geng, and when Wang Geng returned to Beijing, he found that he could not recover the lost land.
In September 1925, after Wang Geng and Xiao Man completed the divorce procedures, he said to Xu Zhimo: "We are all intellectuals, even if I divorced Xiao Man, there is no prejudice in my heart, but you must be consistent with her after that, if you are half-hearted, give me, I will definitely use fierce means to oppose." ”
It is said that when Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman got married, they sent an invitation to Wang Geng, and although Wang Geng did not attend the wedding, he prepared a generous gift to congratulate them on their white-headed and old age, and a note was attached to the gift, which read, "Bitter and sweet to know the taste", what are the meanings?
In 1942, after the outbreak of the Pacific War, the United States, Britain, China, the Soviet Union and other countries formed an alliance to jointly fight against japan, which was exhausted, and Wang Geng went to Washington with the Chinese military delegation. Unexpectedly, just as Wang Geng was showing his grand ambitions, he fell from the clouds, and Wang Geng died of illness in the Cairo Royal Hospital, only 47 years old, and was buried in the British Cemetery by the Cairo Allied Army with a solemn funeral ceremony.
The red apricots are going out of the wall, and the lonely courtyard cannot be locked. Xiao Man and Shima and Jin Feng Yulu met each other, but they failed to win countless people.
Xu Zhimo's marriage with Xiao Man was opposed by both parents, and it can be seen in his letter to Xiao Man: "Eyebrows, why is the mother really bitter? Since she sees that we are both infatuated lovers and easy to fall in love, why should she forbid you and me to meet, we should admit our affection, and give us a way to live is the reason. ”
Xu Shenru, the father of Mo, was a rich gentleman in Haining County, Zhejiang Province, believing that Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi's divorce was already a great rebellion, and it was even more humiliating to marry a married woman again.
On October 3, 1926, the 23-year-old Xiao Man still married Xu Zhimo and became Xu Zhimo's most pampered woman.
Liang Qichao officiated for them at the Beihai Park Library Auditorium.
Ren's notarized marriage speech is not only the space of the queen, but also the most embarrassing marriage speech of the Republic of China: "Shima, Xiao Man, you are both people who have come over, divorced and remarried, are not dedicated, and in the future, you must repent of yourself and become a person again!" May this be your last marriage."
Liang Qichao's words are not specific to prove it:
On June 25, 1931, Xu Zhimo said in a letter to Xiao Man, who had been married for less than five years: "Speaking of me, the dance has not been danced, but the kiln has been there once, it was old Deng Who pulled hard, and if you don't go again, you can rest assured", but just a few months after calling your wife "assured", that is, on October 1, he took the initiative to confess to his wife about prostitution again, and emphasized that the woman was quite rich in flesh.
Xiao Man beat up Wang Geng's child who had not yet been born, and the mother was so cruel that she could only say that the child was innocent and pitiful, and she also paid a heavy price for not being able to have children for the rest of her life.
Xiao Man's asthma and stomach pain were unbearable when they were onset, and Weng Ruiwu, a disciple of the famous doctor Ding Fengshan, was massaged, and Xiao Man's illness was alleviated, weng Ruiwu was good at singing Beijing opera Kunqu opera, and the common hobby made them become Blue Yan confidants.
In order to alleviate the pain, Weng Ruiwu suggested that Xiao Man take some opium, in the eyes of the doctors at that time, opium was a medicine with analgesic effect, the two often swallowed clouds and spit mist on the bed of Xiao Man's house, so that there was a chance to half-understand and caress with a clever hand, Xu Zhimo followed in Wang Geng's footsteps.
Xiao Man immersed himself in the social arena all day long, so that Xu Zhimo lamented her waste of talent, the director Qianjin had already developed the habit of spending money like dirt to make the family unable to make ends meet, Xu Father, who had long been extremely dissatisfied with Xiao Man, had already cut off with his son, and the economic pressure forced Xu Zhimo to teach at the three universities of Guanghua, Dongwu and Daxia at the same time, and rushed to write poetry after class to earn a fee. At that time, the average annual salary was five oceans, and the hundreds of oceans that Xu Zhimo earned a year still could not meet Xiaoman's expenses, and the current situation made Xu Zhimo begin to question the past and future of the two. Although love is beautiful, reality has failed to chai rice oil and salt, and the original warm romance has become a bad word.
During an argument, Xiao Man smashed Xu Zhimo's glasses with a smoking gun, and Xu Zhimo couldn't bear it and ran away from home. Xiao Man wrote another desperate letter, and Xu Zhimo, who read the letter, was heartbroken and decided to leave Shanghai.
On November 19, 1931, Xu Zhimo fell into a difficult situation when he went to attend Lin Huiyin's lecture, and the only relic was Xiao Man's "Landscape Painting Scroll" created in the spring of 1931, which can be called Lu Xiaoman's early masterpiece, and more precious is the inscription, Xu Zhimo originally wanted to ask someone to add an inscription in Beijing, because the hand scroll was placed in the iron basket, so the object was not martyred.
"Gently I go, just as I come softly, I wave my sleeves and don't take away a cloud." Xu Zhimo gently left, leaving Xiao Man with a sadness that yu Dafu could not describe, physically and mentally painful, she insisted on going to Shandong to return her husband's body, was persuaded by friends and family to die, she went to her husband's memorial service with infinite remorse, and was fiercely blocked by Xu's father, and even her good friend Jin Yuelin and others accused her of arrogance and willfulness to kill Xu Zhimo.
Helplessly, Xiao Man had to mourn in the union:
"How many past dust has become a nightmare, five years of mourning, hurrying forever, the heavenly path of revival, wanting to die has not been because of the mother and old; do not hate to speak to anyone, a sad illness, a faint soul, the human world should soon be, the posthumous editor will answer the king's heart." He also hangs a portrait of Shima in his bedroom, reminiscing about the past between them.
The poet's soul flew into space and woke up Xiao Man in her dream, after which she stopped going out to socialize and was sorting out Xu Zhimo's works and poems every day.
Xu Zhimo's sudden death made Xiao Man almost desperate, and Weng Ruiwu accompanied her day and night.
Xiao Man later said: "When I was 29 years old, Shima feifei was killed, and I was sick until I was 35 years old in 1938, when I lived with Weng Ruiwu... Because the old illness was worse and Weng's healing was more frequent, he was advised as an old friend, and he did not return to my parents, and he was committed to it for a long time. But I made a three-chapter agreement with him that we would not be formally married, and he would not be allowed to abandon his wife. ”
At this time, Xu Zhimo had been dead for 7 years, and at that time, Weng Ruiwu still had a wife in his family.
In 1953, his wife died, and Xiao Man became the successor of Weng Ruiwu, but there was really no official name, and Weng's parents did not allow Xiao Man to participate in all the affairs of the Weng family.
Weng Ruiwu really loves Lu Xiaoman, in order to take a bite of meat, he did not hesitate to brave the heat and cold to queue up, Xiao Man fell ill, he served soup and medicine, did not leave the left and right, for 33 years, during which he sold the family property.
In this regard, the modern calligrapher and painter Chen Dingshan wrote in his "Chunshen Old Story Continuation": "Modern youth think that Xu Zhimo is a love saint, in fact, I think it is easy to do Xu Zhimo, and it is difficult to do Weng Rui. ”
Xiao Man was extremely touched by Weng Ruiwu's years of dedication, and many years after Xu Zhimo's death, Hu Shilai wrote to persuade Xiao Man to live in Nanjing and take care of all her expenses, but the only condition was to leave Weng Ruiwu. Lu Xiaoman wrote back to reject Hu Shi's kindness, "Although Rui Wu is extremely poor, he has always taken good care of me, and for more than twenty years, how can he be expelled without mercy and injustice?" ”
Around 1955, Weng Ruiwu cheated on a woman with the surname guan and had a daughter, and was also imprisoned for "moral corruption". But Xiao Man did not turn his face, let alone leave, and Weng Rui returned to the Lu family after he was released from prison.
Xiao Man said that she had "only feelings and no love" for Weng Ruiwu, perhaps this is why Weng Ruiwu cheated on Xiao Man in this way, and Weng Ruiwu did not show much sadness when he died.
In fact, after Xu Zhimo passed away, Xiao Man's heart was already dead, and the only thing living in the world was her shell.
In October 1964, Xiao Man was hospitalized with emphysema and asthma, and in addition to worrying about the publication of the Complete Works of Xu Zhimo, she also hoped to be buried with Xu Zhimo, whom she still loved, but was rejected by Xu Zhimo's son.
On April 3, 1965, Xiao Man died at the age of 63. Half a life was cold, behind the depression, there was only an old cotton jacket full of holes, Zhao Qingge could not bear to see, gave her a new set of silk clothes and pants, and only to be buried with dignity. Because there were no children, coupled with the poor relationship with relatives and friends before he died, the ashes were not collected, and he eventually disappeared.
23 years later, in 1988, Lu Xiaoman's cousins Lu Zong, Lu Zongqi and his niece Lu Zonglin and others erected a crown tomb for her in the Dongshan Overseas Chinese Cemetery in Suzhou, and the tombstone read "Memorial Tomb of The First Aunt Lu Xiaoman", on the stele is a photo of Xiao Man with the head of a student when he was young, smiling and smiling, maybe this is the most beautiful look of Lu Xiaoman!
Xiao Man's cemetery is inaccessible and heart-wrenching.