In the face of my aunt Lu Xiaoman's loving face, my thoughts were rolling, and my aunt's meticulous care for me when I was a teenager was vividly remembered...
Lu Xiaoman
In the spring of Suzhou Dongshan Overseas Chinese Cemetery, the sun shines on the renovated Lu Xiaoman Memorial Tomb, which is particularly warm. A few days ago, I took my wife, daughter and son-in-law to pay tribute to my dear aunt Lu Xiaoman.
The cemetery, which was rebuilt last year, has a unique design. The black marble tombstone is engraved with the "Memorial Tomb of The First Aunt Lu Xiaoman", and in the upper right corner is a computer-engraved statue of Lu Xiaoman: hair bun, zhu lips slightly sipping. Holding the pen shaft to the lips, holding the cheeks and contemplating, the eyes overflow with intelligence, beauty, charm and affection.
To the left of the cemetery is an epitaph, written by veteran media personality, writer and villager Yun Fuming. On the right side of the tomb area is a poetry stele, and the colored porcelain plate of the album "Manlu Ink Play" is inlaid in the middle. On the side, Xu Zhimo's poem is engraved: "Gently I go, just as I come softly... I waved my sleeve and didn't take away a cloud. On the side, Lu Xiaoman's poem was engraved: "The feeling of the intestines breaking the piano has not disappeared, and this heart has long been sent to Yunjiao." Over the years, I have been more aware of the cold taste of the wilderness, and I wrote that the lakes and mountains are always lonely. The dashing signature echoes the reverie.
The Lu Xiaoman Memorial Tomb, which was rebuilt in 2021
In the face of my aunt's loving face, my thoughts were rolling, and my aunt's meticulous care for me when I was a teenager was vividly remembered...
After the accident of the aunt Xu Zhimo's plane, Lu Xiaoman took off his makeup and clothes and closed the door. The only time I left Shanghai to go to Ning was in 1947, when I officiated at my parents' wedding as the elder of the woman. When my mother was pregnant with me, she lived in Lu Xiaoman's house. At that time, I lived there on weekends and winter and summer vacations, and my aunt not only loved me but even doted on me. My mother used to say that I was the greatest comfort my aunt enjoyed in her old age. The year Lu Xiaoman died of illness, I was sixteen years old.
Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo and their nephews played in the suburbs
My aunt has always taught me to be broad-minded, tolerant and generous. I was in elementary school, and the student handbook had to be handed over to her. The teacher's comment to me was: "Be competitive, be unreasonable, and improve your relationship with your classmates in the future." The aunt didn't say anything when she saw it. It wasn't until I once watched the Spanish movie "The Blind Leader" that my aunt said to me: In classic works, there is a common word, that is, "love". A person should not only love his relatives and friends, but also love the "enemy", use "love" to impress them, and turn the "enemy" into a friend.
After his uncle Xu Zhimo died in the crash, public opinion criticized Lu Xiaoman as a "red face and a disaster" and "the culprit". In the face of accusations, curses, and even foul language, the aunt would rather spit on herself than argue. But her love and tolerance are not unprincipled. In 1964, Mr. Shen Drunk's "The Dai Kasa I Know" contained a passage about the reputation of her aunt's ex-husband. In order to prevent false rumors, my aunt asked the students to write an article to refute it, which was publicly published in the "Literature and History Materials" in Shanghai. I asked my aunt, "You have always taught me to be selfless and frank, laugh and scold people, and go your own way. My aunt said, "It doesn't matter if you are framed and slandered by others, but if others are implicated for you, you must return your innocence. ”
Lu Xiaoman and his two nephews
My aunt was very concerned about my studies. In junior high school, my main course was 5 points, but English was 4 points. She asked me what was wrong? I said that the entrance examination, English is not tested, and then learn English by rote, no interest. My aunt did not criticize me, but asked someone to bring me a toy from Hong Kong, and I couldn't understand the instructions in English and French, so she said: "You don't know foreign languages, and when you encounter these things, you are a 'blind eye' and an illiterate person!" "She taught me the skills of memorizing words and understanding grammar, and she bought me the original English version of "The True and False Prince", stipulating that I would translate three pages in the first week, six pages in the second week, and so on. I translated it and showed it to my aunt, and she said you have a pimple, what is it! My aunt picked up the book and read it while translating, which really made me envious. The title of the newly released movie "Red Diamond" is English RED SHOES, which literally translates to Red Dancing Shoes. The aunt said, you see the literal translation is dry. With only three words, people vividly express the color, shape, identity and poignant love of the heroine's dancing shoes. Later, my aunt suggested that I learn Russian. But I was even less interested in Russian, my aunt said, "Learning more foreign languages is good for you in the future!" The aunt not only hired a Russian teacher, but also read with her from scratch. It's just that I don't argue, and all the knowledge of Russian is returned to the teacher.
Lu Xiaoman officiated at the wedding of Qiu Quan's parents
Since I was a child, I liked to think about cars, machinery, electronics, etc., and I had no interest in literature and calligraphy. My aunt also did not give up her influence on my art. When my sister and brother got married, my mother would bring the newlyweds to prostrate to her aunt, and she always picked a painting to congratulate them. I said, "When I get married in the future, you can give me the biggest, best, most beautiful painting." My aunt stroked my head and said, "You are my aunt's favorite baby heart, but my aunt is not blessed to live until that day, otherwise she will become an old goblin." "My aunt asked me, since I was not interested in calligraphy and painting, why did I still want her paintings? I replied: "Learn mathematics, physics and chemistry well, and I am not afraid to go all over the world, so why do you want to understand calligraphy and painting?" The aunt replied with a smile: "People often say: reading is dead, reading is dead, reading is dead, it is better not to read." Look at the talented artists in ancient and modern China and abroad, which is the 'nerd'? Art should be innovative, it should be breakthrough, and the same is true if you want to engage in engineering technology in the future. "My aunt hopes that I know how to appreciate art and add interest to life," the spiritual world is full, and people will become noble." ”
Lu Xiaoman Xiaokai's handwriting "Mao Zedong's Poems: The Long March"
Before retiring, I was an executive of a foreign company, and I had a small achievement in my career, which was inseparable from my aunt's cultivation of my childhood, and I will always miss and appreciate her old age. (Qiu Quan)