Text: Su Xin
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Someone once said, "It is great only when love becomes faith." True love is faith. ”
In fact, whether a person loves another person from the bottom of his heart, do not just look at what she says, or even see what she has done, because sometimes what she sees may not be true.
Whether it is true love, there is only one point to measure, whether she is willing to give sincerely and complete the other party.
The movie "Double Eclipse" tells such a story, after the woman found out that her husband cheated on Xiao San, she did not immediately expose it, but was better for him than ever.
She studies various delicacies every day to please her husband, and her husband also enjoys the careful care of women, and thinks that he is a man who is too successful, because his wife and Xiaosan are very good to him, and they all use food to satisfy their stomachs.
Behind the woman's seemingly transcendent behavior, it is actually a heinous conspiracy, she is secretly observing every meal that Xiao San makes for her husband, and then making another hearty dish every day with the ingredients that are compatible with it.
Over time, she watched the man lose his hair, nosebleed, and his body deteriorated day by day, and finally she achieved the purpose of revenge.
On the surface, she loves her husband more than any woman, and in order to satisfy his stomach, she spends all her time studying the recipe, but her real purpose is revenge that rises from betrayal.
Therefore, love or not love, can not only look at the superficial care, the real love is from the heart of the fulfillment.
The ancients said: "Gentlemen have the beauty of adulthood".
There is only one kind of love for a person that comes from the heart, that is, to complete the other person.
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Someone once said, "If you don't know how to express your love, go and fulfill the person you love." ”
In the end, which is true love between getting and perfecting, let's take a look at Xu Zhimo and a few of his women.
At that time, Xu Zhimo fell in love with the talented woman Lin Huiyin uncontrollably in the case of marriage, and the original Partner Zhang Youyi learned that her beloved man did not have herself in his heart, and she chose silence and forbearance.
Some people say that Zhang Youyi is indeed better than Lin Huiyin, without her beauty, and without her talent, so when everyone is applauding the talented couple, Zhang Youyi can only hide in the corner and silently bear the pain of losing her love.
But Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin's relationship is still fruitless after all, Lin Huiyin turned around and married Liang Sicheng, Zhang Youyi thought that Xu Zhimo at this time could change his mind, but he fell in love with another woman in a short period of time, sociable Hua Lu Xiaoman.
Zhang Youyi had no choice but to agree to Xu Zhimo's divorce request, and at this time, she also understood a truth, even if she loved someone again, but he never gave you a place in his heart, then don't dwell on it anymore.
She cleaned up her little face and began to awaken, she kept mentioning herself, from a country woman who could not read big characters to an intellectual woman who stayed in the west, and also started a career, at this time she had completed a transformation in her life.
Zhang Youyi, who left Xu Zhimo, lived more and more wonderfully, but Xu Zhimo, who had embraced the beauty, became more and more depraved day by day, and he worked hard to earn money to support Lu Xiaoman, who was accustomed to squandering, not only to tolerate her stubborn personality, but also had to indulge her to smoke opium, and finally he was poor and poor, and he was sentenced to two people before.
However, when he was so desperate to ask Zhang Youyi for help, Zhang Youyi still gave him great help as before.
The book says this about Zhang Youyi, although she has become no longer the rustic country woman, but she still loves Xu Zhimo in her heart. Whether she was initially forbearing and leaving, or then going to receive help, it was all a fulfillment for Xu Zhimo. On the contrary, the other two women in Xu Zhimo's life, one turned away because of love, one made a big fuss about Xu Zhimo's funeral because he was not convinced, and compared with Zhang Youyi's forbearance and generosity, their selfish behavior is not called love at all.
How exactly should true love be justified? In fact, it is enough to see if she is willing to fulfill you.
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While perfecting others, don't forget to perfect yourself.
There are probably two forms of fulfillment, one is to sacrifice one's own fulfillment, and the other is to complete others and oneself. The former is helplessness, while the latter is awakening.
Just like Zhang Youyi's fulfillment of Xu Zhimo, when she knew that no matter how she was patient, Xu Zhimo's heart still couldn't make a little space for her, so she suddenly woke up, and she wanted to change herself.
After withdrawing from Xu Zhimo's world, she began to study culture hard, and she also understood foreign languages during her foreign time, and she changed her old ways and began to innovate her thinking. After returning to China, she began to do business and became an authentic boss.
The dual independence of thought and economy is that she has completely transformed into a new self. Although she still has nostalgia for Xu Zhimo in her heart, her life is not miserable.
Perhaps, this is the meaning of truly loving someone, loving him is not to get him, and it is not because he is caught in a relationship entanglement and thus loses himself. The true meaning of love is that people can learn love from it, learn to grow. Zhang Youyi did this.
If Xu Zhimo's betrayal made Zhang Youyi a poor woman in people's eyes, then her self-awakening and transformation made her admired and respected by the world.
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Someone once said: "Only those who understand you deserve to love you." Because only by understanding you will they understand and respect you, and will they be willing to fulfill you when they love and can't.
People often say that in a society like this, it is actually a very simple thing to meet love, maybe it can happen anytime and anywhere, but it is rare to meet a person who really understands us. Therefore, this also means that those so-called loves always come and go quickly, and only when feelings such as understanding, understanding, tolerance, etc. are integrated into it, the relationship between two people will be long-lasting.
In fact, as we grow older, we will become no longer harsh, even if we treat people who are not tolerant of sand in the eyes of love, we will gradually become compassionate and tolerant, because we have all experienced the hardships of the world, we all understand the difficulties of life, we know our own difficulties, and naturally we will be able to appreciate the difficulties of others.
Love is even more difficult, it can bring people great happiness, but also can bring people fatal pain, so people who have personally experienced it will naturally not be difficult for others.
Only those who feel empathy can truly be willing to fulfill each other, so that it can be regarded as true love.
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