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There is a particularly moving saying in "The Legend of the Paladin Sword": people are only half of them from birth, and the other half must be found by themselves, and after finding the other half, this person can be regarded as a complete person.
From ancient times to the present, marriage has been regarded as a lifelong event by human beings, which symbolizes the turning point of life, and also heralds the establishment of a new family, and even the continuation of the next generation.
However, with the baptism of the new era, new atmosphere and new ideas, many unmarried people have appeared in society.
Some insist on celibacy, while others just follow the trend.
Lu Yao wrote in "Ordinary World": "Everyone has the right to choose their own life. ”
In the long river of life, everyone is the helmsman, but the premise is that you must know what you really want, so as not to go in the wrong direction and regret it in the future.
There is a saying in the Book of Southern Qi: "Ji Wenzi thought twice before acting. ”
Life is a route that cannot be returned, in order not to make mistakes, everyone should think twice before doing anything, which is an attitude towards life and a manifestation of responsibility for themselves.
If you don't want to get married right now, listen to their stories before you make a decision.
Lu Xiaoman, who was bright in front of him and had no bones left after his death
Lu Xiaoman, one of the ten most talented women in the Republic of China, rendered the sky of the Republic of China like a touch of clouds.
She came from an extraordinary background and was a talented woman who was a popular lady at that time.
This woman, who combines beauty and talent, has met three men in her life: her ex-husband Wang Geng, her husband Xu Zhimo, and her lover Weng Ruiwu.
Her marriage to Wang Geng was based on the orders of her parents and the words of the matchmaker, although they were very compatible, but Lu Xiaoman finally chose Xu Zhimo.
After marrying Xu Zhimo, her life was luxurious and decadent, in order to meet her living expenses, Xu Zhimo traveled all year round, and finally stayed on the wrecked plane forever.
After Xu Zhimo left, Lu Xiaoman began to live with Weng Ruiwu, who took great care of her, but Lu Xiaoman insisted on not letting him divorce.
In this way, they lived together in the name of friends, and after Weng Ruiwu's death, Lu Xiaoman ushered in the most difficult moment in his life.
She lived as bright and brilliant as a rose, and at every stage there were men who loved her passionately, but she had no family and no children, but she endured a miserable old age and aftermath.
She was seriously ill and left unattended, and after her death, there was no one to mourn, and many years later her nephews and nieces did not find her ashes, but only erected a crown tomb for her in front of her parents.
Musical genius, beethoven of tragic old age
Beethoven is like a galaxy in the night, bringing light to countless people.
His life was bumpy and legendary, and although he was deaf in both ears, he became a generation of musicians.
In the impression of posterity, he was successful, because he carved his name in the long river of history and could be admired by future generations.
But how many people know how the childless and childless man spent his old age alone?
Because he had no children, he pinned all his hopes on his nephew, but the nephew rebelled and did not become a weapon, and finally went to the end of the road under his persecution.
His nephew took away his last glimmer of hope, and he never got up from it, and his spirit was on the verge of collapse.
Beethoven's old age was particularly miserable, with no relatives and friends around him, and he also endured double torture of body and heart.
He left this world little by little in the double torment of physical sickness and spiritual pain.
Li Qingzhao, a talented woman of thousands of years, drifted in her later years
The happiest time in Li Qingzhao's life was about the dozen years spent in the countryside with her husband Zhao Mingcheng.
They drank together, wrote lyrics together, and lived a fairy-like life.
Unfortunately, this period of time was extremely short, and after the death of her husband Zhao Mingcheng, her life began to turn from joy to sorrow.
When she met her second husband, she was also full of hope, thinking that she had met a good person, but in the end she found that he approached her with a purpose.
In order to get rid of that life, she did not hesitate to plot to overthrow her husband, and finally escaped the tiger's mouth.
From then on, she had no intention of marrying and walked the rest of her life alone.
Li Qingzhao's old age was very tragic, the country was broken and her family was destroyed, she not only had no family but also no stable residence, she had been wandering in the wandering.
The ancient talented woman was indifferent to this point, and had to make people sigh.
epilogue:
Qian Zhongshu once said: "Marriage is like a besieged city, people on the outside want to go in, and people on the inside want to come out." ”
So many people regard marriage as a kind of shackles, they think that escaping from marriage is the pursuit of freedom, but in fact this is just a childish idea.
People have different needs and different ideas at different stages, and really smart people know how to think of danger and plan ahead, rather than just focusing on the present.
You can choose celibacy, but you have to understand two truths.
First, humans are social animals
The famous thinker Marx once said: "If you want to live a beautiful life, only two people are united, because the half of the ball cannot roll, so the important task of each adult is to find the half that matches himself." ”
If a person chooses celibacy, he is equivalent to half a ball, and it is difficult to roll in this world.
People are social animals that need the strength of a team, and they are isolated and bullied.
With your own group, you have a sense of belonging and security, otherwise you can only face the situation of isolation.
Second, the real meaning of marriage is to find allies
Remember that shocking story:
A widowed elderly man who sold his house and took millions into a senior nursing home paid all the money in one go.
I thought I could spend my old age here safely, but I didn't expect that in just half a year, he left this world.
It is human nature to be soft and afraid of hardness, and when you are old and weak, you will find that if you have no relatives, having money is a danger.
But if you have relatives, even if you live in a nursing home, the people inside do not dare to neglect you.
In the human world, everyone needs allies, and the most reliable allies for everyone are family.
You are related by blood, have common interests, and can support each other and advance and retreat together.
In such a group, it is easier for you to get a good death.
I like a sentence from netizens: children are like nuclear weapons, they can not be used, but they must be.
Or many years later, you will understand the true meaning of this sentence.
I am Shadow, an original author who focuses on the field of emotion.