"On the 10th day of confinement, I drowned my wife with my own hands": Marrying the wrong person is more terrible than not getting married!

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I'd rather get married later than just get married, and I'd rather stop the loss in time than exhaust my youth.

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Wen | accompanied by the reader

Source| Bedtime Companion Reading (svipcc365)

Saw a shocking news:

A man in Jingzhou deliberately drove into the Yangtze River, and after falling into the water, he also tried to drown his wife who was still confinement many times!

The terrible thing is that this man's extreme behavior is not the first time!

Wei and his wife Wu mou met for three months and then flashed marriage, and after marriage, Wei gave the wedding gift to his brother for safekeeping.

The wife was dissatisfied, and the two quarreled continuously, during which Wei repeatedly committed domestic violence against his wife.

Later, the wife called Wei's brother to ask for a wedding gift for expenses during the hospitalization of the child.

The angry and corrupt Wei Mou and his wife clashed again, even at the expense of punching and kicking their parents-in-law!

The wife couldn't bear it and filed for divorce. Wei resolutely disagreed, drove the car into the Yangtze River, and repeatedly pressed his wife's head into the water and drowned.

After finding that someone on the shore called the police, Wei swam ashore alone, stopped the taxi and went to the insurance company to find his friend to ask for insurance.

Fortunately, in the end, his wife Wu was rescued by well-wishers on the shore, and Wei was sentenced to seven years in prison.

It is said that giving birth to a child is a ghost door closed by a woman.

It is hard to imagine how sad this mother, who has just come down from the line of life and death, will feel in her heart when she struggles in the river.

Buffett once said:

The most important decision in your life is who to marry. When it comes to choosing a partner, if you're wrong, it will cost you a lot. And the losses aren't just monetary.

A lifetime is too long, and marrying the wrong person is far more terrible than not marrying for a lifetime.

No matter how old you are, I hope you can understand these three truths in your feelings.

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When getting married, the three views are more important than the five senses

At the age of 26, actor Hu Yinmeng and talented Li Ao met, and the two fell in love at first sight.

In order to pursue beauty, Li Ao did not hesitate to call his girlfriend Liu Huiyun to break up:

I love you still one hundred percent, but now there's a thousandth of a thousand, so you can only avoid it.

Only eight months later, in the living room of Li Ao's house, Hu Yinmeng was married in pajamas.

Those who are chaotic and eventually abandoned are originally unable to rely on. After a long time, the contradiction between Li Ao, who was extremely controlling, and Hu Yinmeng, who was a new school of thought, began to appear:

Hu Yinmeng could not walk barefoot at home because Li Ao thought that bad manners were bad.

Hu Yinmeng got up early to run, and Li Ao felt that she was going out to hook up three or four.

As long as Hu Yinmeng disagreed with him, Li Ao would be cold and violent.

Once Li Ao bumped into Hu Yinmeng squatting on the toilet because of constipation, his face was red, and he actually felt that Hu Yinmeng's expression was vicious, it was too unbearable."

From "goddess" to "constipation", the marriage between the two lasted only 115 days, and it also became a scar for the two people for many years.

It is easy to fall in love, because of the five senses, it is not easy to get along, because of the three views.

The two spend their lives together, and life is not just about love.

So before you get married, don't look at how good he is when he is good to you, but how bad he is when he is bad for you.

Three different views of love, not long-term.

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Bottomless forgiveness is the beginning of stepping into the mire of pain

In the TV series "Know It or Not", the eldest girl Shulan married Sun Xiucai, who was "young and ambitious" but poor.

It is said that the Sheng family's old home is well-off, as long as Sun Xiu is willing to make progress, he will certainly have an immeasurable career and can also consolidate the position of the Sheng family.

However, Sun Xiucai squandered Shulan's dowry and sat in the mountains and skies, took concubines to raise an outer chamber, and even abused Shulan domestically.

Knowing that Shulan was wronged, the mother's family could only swallow their anger and give Sun Xiucai more tianpu, hoping that Sun Xiu could treat Shulan kindly.

But in the relationship, once you lose the bottom line, the other party will "regard your tolerance as weakness, regard your upbringing as deceitful, and regard your dignity as grass."

Again and again, Sun Xiucai became more greedy and unscrupulous, holding the Shulan family in his hands and holding them at will.

There is such a line in "The Godfather": Softness without boundaries will only make the other party inch; unprincipled benevolence will only let the other party do whatever it wants.

What is more terrible than marrying the wrong person is the bottomless tolerance, one mistake after another.

No one deserves to lose your self-esteem and lose your life.

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Marriage should be slow, divorce should be fast

After the death of her husband Zhao Mingcheng, Li Qingzhao, a talented woman who was more than half a hundred years old, was physically and mentally haggard and lonely.

At this time, a man named Zhang Ruzhou broke into her life and showed kindness in every way.

Li Qingzhao thought that if he found a good person, he could entrust his life, but he did not expect that Zhang Ruzhou only came for her property.

After the marriage, Zhang Ruzhou found that Li Qingzhao was not as rich as rumored, and he became increasingly cold to Li Qingzhao, even to the point of adding fists and feet.

In those days, when a woman asked for a divorce, she would be pointed at the nose and scolded, and even the law would not allow it.

However, when he learned that Li Qingzhao had been deceived, he was also willing to risk the world's great disobedience and reported Zhang Ruzhou for forging his resume to deceive his name.

I'd rather burn jade than settle with scum.

In the end, the scumbag Zhang Ruzhou was sentenced to exile, and the three-month marriage between the two ended. With the help of his friends, Li Qingzhao only spent nine days in prison to get out of prison.

A momentary guidance, in exchange for the dashing freedom of the second half of his life, Li Qingzhao can be described as living thoroughly.

The best way to love yourself is not to make it up, not to compromise, not to settle down.

Don't gamble your life on love, don't gamble the rest of your life on marriage.

If this marriage brings you endless pain and shame, you must break up in time and don't get entangled with the garbage marriage.

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Remember:

How he is, after marriage, how he is.

Don't fantasize that after marriage he will change into what you imagined, that is a virtual fantasy that does not exist, and life should be based on reality, not on fiction.

The person you marry doesn't have to be famous, and it doesn't have to give you earth-shattering love.

But at the very least, he can put you in his heart and deserve the rest of your life.

If you go down the wrong path once, I hope you know that losing a marriage is not terrible, it is terrible because a marriage ruins your entire life.

As Qu Xiaoxiu in "Ode to Joy" said:

Marrying in a hurry? It was really tired of going. I think that getting married is not a lifelong event, and a person learning to make himself happy and happy is a lifelong event.

I'd rather get married later than get married easily, and I'd rather stop the loss in time than exhaust my youth.

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