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"Will your boyfriend pick you up when it's dark?"
I know that a girl asked such a question:
She travels for a long time and returns every Saturday morning. The boyfriend wasn't too busy at work but never offered to pick himself up in the past.
So she asked helplessly: Should the boyfriend go to the airport to pick up his girlfriend who is returning late from business?
Someone replied: Definitely going to go, in the middle of the night;
Some people say: don't pick up every time, but important days like birthdays, Valentine's Day and so on still have to go;
Some people say that the girls who ask questions are too "done", they are so old, they can go home by themselves;
Looking at everyone's answers, I suddenly felt that this girl was quite distressing.
She replied that she didn't have to toss him in the middle of the night, even if the boyfriend offered to pick him up, she would hurt him and say, "No, I'll do it myself."
Unfortunately, there is no capital for humility, and the boyfriend's attitude is always "you can do it".
In fact, whether it is in the background message, Zhihu or Weibo, there is no shortage of such questions:
I think they don't really want to break up, but they lack warmth in love and need someone else to tell them, "He still loves you." ”
But they don't even dare to say to each other, "Do you love me a little more and care about me a little more?" They are afraid of not getting a response and "causing trouble" to their feelings.
Just imagine, when a girl drags a large box by herself, standing at the airport in the early morning waiting for a taxi, when she is unhappy but does not dare to complain to you, disappointment and sadness will accumulate into deep grievances.
Even they themselves said that they were afraid that this helplessness had accumulated for a long time and were disappointed in the relationship.
Many times, the more you worry about others, the less people bother you. You have been understanding things for a long time, and all the efforts will become taken for granted.
There are only two kinds of women in this world: women who understand things and women who pretend not to understand things.
There are many sensible women, such as Xu Zhimo's first wife, Zhang Youyi.
She married Xu Zhimo when she was 15 years old and gave birth to a son 3 years later, but Xu Zhimo left the family as if fleeing for his life.
4 years later, Zhang Youyi gave birth to her second son, everyone thought that Xu Zhimo would change his mind, but he did not expect that he did not even look at the child and signed the divorce agreement.
Zhang Youyi wasted the best age on a man who did not love her, obeyed his wife's duty, understood things for 7 years, and was wronged for 7 years.
According to the development of her later career, she had the ability to take the initiative to leave and pursue a better life, but she did not, she was not stupid, she just knew the general body.
Many times, understanding is not a positive word, and the reason why a girl does this is because there is no other choice, she must be sensible.
A friend of mine in Beijing, who is fierce in her work and measured in her work, has worked with her for many years and has been very down-to-earth.
On a business trip, I happened to run into her at the airport. Dressed in a sports suit, she sat on her suitcase and was pushed forward by her husband. Seeing me, he immediately jumped off the box and greeted me.
I asked them where they were going to play, and she turned to her husband and asked, "Where are we going?" ”
I was amused and said, "You don't know where to go and you're out?" ”
Her husband smiled and said, "She never goes out with me without a brain, I am responsible for the arrangement, she just opens her mouth." ”
In "Descendants of the Sun", Liu Shizhen said to Jiang Twilight: "Love is what you can do and you have to do to the other party." ”
It's not that you won't pour water, but the hot water you give is sweeter;
It's not that I won't bend over, but the shoelaces you tied for me, I don't want to untie.
How complicated the love that a girl wants is, but to see through her gritted teeth, touch her head and say "let me come".
A male reader asked me, "Why is my girlfriend so unreasonable?" ”
I laughed and said, "Why do you want to reason with your girlfriend?" ”
Girls are emotional animals, and you have to argue with her, which can only mean that the desire to survive is not strong enough.
Since the word "strong", all the true delicacy has lost its strength, and many girls have been waiting for the opportunity to be seen through.
Some time ago, a Korean drama was popular, and the girls in the company were chasing, saying that it was simply too sweet.
In one episode, the heroine got angry because of the man's ex-girlfriend.
The man touched her chin and said, "It's a lot of things, so cute!" One took her into his arms.
She struggled out and said she didn't like physical contact. The male protagonist put his arm back again: "Don't laugh, I know you like it!" ”
She broke free again, and he hugged her tightly again, domineeringly unspeakable.
Is someone else's boyfriend rare? In fact, it is just willing to take the trouble to understand her.
First of all, you must understand the meaning behind what your girlfriend says:
She said "um" is reluctant, "um" is only with her heart;
She didn't laugh when she said "haha", "hahahahahahaha
She replied "Oh" because she disagreed, because the words in her heart were not spoken;
She said "then I slept", you must not say goodnight, seriously ask her if she is unhappy;
She complains to you about colleagues, you don't help her analyze who is at fault, just stand with her and go along with her;
She sees the cake and says "don't eat or eat, lose weight", you just need to hand the spoon to her mouth: "Lose what fat, you are not fat!" ”
Spoil your girlfriend, you have to see through her duplicity, and think more from her point of view.
Love, only love is not enough, but also understand.
Most women are duplicitous, and when you really lose:
Don't ask her if she likes it or not, just send it;
Don't ask her if she wants it, just buy it;
Don't ask her if she's afraid of the dark, just pick her up.
If you love her, understand all her appearances, so that she does not have to be strong, does not have to lie, does not have to be so tired, and is so flustered in love.