"Beauty in the bone is not in the skin", the superficial meaning is that when people reach a certain age, the bone beauty can support the appearance, and the skin beauty of the person has gradually fallen down;
The deeper meaning is that whether a woman is beautiful or not depends not on her external skin, but on having a wise soul.
We usually say that if a person's soul is beautiful and interesting, then her appearance will not be too bad.
Many women will sigh that people take away the collagen on their faces after middle age, which does not blame themselves, but just follows the trajectory of life.
But I don't know if you have noticed that many women of the same age have gone through the baptism of time, but they can see the gap between people.
The appearance of middle-aged people is a projection of life.
The writer Zhao Nanzhu once said: "After a woman is over 40, she must be responsible for her appearance." Because looks will change with their attitudes and values in life. ”
When people reach middle age, women who are still gentle and elegant mostly have these three characteristics.
When people reach middle age, don't live a discounted life
Many people say that when people reach middle age, no matter how hard you try, your appearance is going downhill.
But they forget that women at each time have their own different charms, if a 40-year-old woman can still maintain a well-proportioned figure, young state, then she must be a self-disciplined, confident person.
Daphne Cerf, a 90-year-old model in the United Kingdom, said that when she found out that she had her first white hair, she did not feel sad and anxious about it, but she accepted the gift of time very calmly.
Since the age of 40, she has insisted on practicing yoga and dance every day, and for decades, she has lived like the dream of many women, becoming the darling of major catwalks and magazines.
There are many things and things in our lives that are worth your attention and care for, and there is no need to be discouraged and disappointed for a dissatisfaction.
As Yi Shu said: "No matter what, a person who falls through the excuse is always not worthy of forgiveness, and the more no one loves, the more he must love himself." ”
When a woman reaches a certain age, her taste of life hides the tears she has she shed, the roads she has traveled, the books she has read, and the things she has encountered.
When people reach middle age, don't do useless consumption
Time is fair for everyone, and in middle age, in addition to the burden of daily work and family, there is not much time that can really be left for us.
So we must understand what we want, live in the moment, and don't be entangled and consumed by unworthy things.
Zhang Youyi, a talented daughter of the Republic of China, did not receive love and respect in her marriage to Xu Zhimo, so they became the first couple in the Republic of China to divorce peacefully.
For divorce, Zhang Youyi bore a lot of pain and criticism. But she still insisted on learning, growing herself, and eventually became a female entrepreneur.
And these growths were accomplished in the process of being alone in a foreign land and raising children alone. Instead of faltering herself in an unhappy marriage, she found the great sense of richness and security that her career brought.
There is a crocodile effect in economics, which refers to a crocodile biting your foot, if you turn back and use your hand to break free of your foot, then the crocodile will bite your foot and hand at the same time. So your only recourse is to sacrifice one foot and not take any chances.
In life, there are many "crocodiles", they not only consume your energy, but also destroy your sanity, if you judge the wrong time and do not stop the loss in time, life will gradually get out of control.
Everyone's energy is limited, don't waste time on unnecessary things, you will live better.
When people reach middle age, they know the world and are not sophisticated
A woman's best state is that no matter how disturbed the outside world is, she can still be at ease and keep her heart.
In the red dust, everyone hopes to live their own style. People have grown up step by step, and everyone has been simple and naïve, and they have suffered from unworldly and unsophistication.
But some people compromise and become such people themselves, while some people can also know the world without being sophisticated, smooth and naïve.
What traps a woman is never age, but the positioning and pattern of the self.
Years have tempered the unique temperament of middle-aged women, giving them gentle elegance, knowing the world and not being sophisticated, and being the most lovely and mature.
As Mr. Lu Xun said: "The world is really a difficult place, and it is not a good thing to say that a person is not sophisticated, but it is not a good thing to say that he is deeply sophisticated." ”
When Zhao Xinlin and several friends in "Siege of the City" were on the same boat, Li Meiting, who rushed to buy tickets, said that there were no tickets, and only bought two large vegetable rooms (the name for first class during the Republic of China period).
And Zhao Xinlin has seen that Li Meiting is because of economic embarrassment, people love face, and did not poke and cooperate.
The small role of Zhao Xinlin is not pleasing in the besieged city, but his move has added a good impression to the reader.
The same is true of women, who know the world without saying anything, which is the beautiful foundation of human nature.
The gentleness, elegance and intellectuality of middle-aged women are created by time and won by themselves.
The choice of what kind of life you want to live is up to you, and every start at the fork in the road can take you to a different scenery.
Perhaps maturity means being erased by life and being held forward in helplessness. And the beauty of women lies in the fact that they can maintain a calm and elegant heart in this noisy world.
When a woman reaches middle age, don't let the discounted life exhaust her sharpness; don't let it be unnecessarily consumed and waste your precious time; don't let the grinding turn yourself into a person who only understands the world.
The only thing that can really beat you in life is yourself. Gentle and generous, elegant aging, it is also a kind of beauty.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]