Reading Mr. Qian Zhongshu's "Siege of the City" again is very different from the feelings of youth.
He used to laugh out loud from time to time for the humorous and funny language in the book, and he did not think much of the encounter of the protagonist fang Hongwei in the book.
Reading it again now, I just grinned at the ironic language in the book, and when I saw Fang Hongzhi encountering it all the way, I actually had a feeling of déjà vu, whether it was myself or the people around me, it was as if I saw some of Fang Hongwei's shadow.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu wrote in the text: "Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to go in, people in the city want to come out."
In fact, not only marriage, everyone is like a besieged city, without breaking through themselves, they cannot break free from the fate of being besieged.
And Fang Hong gradually fell into the siege city he had built up in his career and marriage.
First, career:
During the period of study, Fang Hongzhi's family conditions were acceptable, and he received financial support from his father-in-law's family and successfully studied abroad. However, he did not learn anything, took the tuition to play in the mountains, the money was about to be spent, the father and father-in-law's family wrote to ask about the study, which was a little panicked, hurriedly handled a fake doctoral diploma confused things.
Bacon said, "Chance old man first gave you its hair, and when you didn't catch it and regret it, you can only touch its bald head." Fang Hong gradually touched the bald head, pushed down his dominoes, and let his life gradually fail.
After returning to China, his father-in-law asked Fang Hongzhi to temporarily work in his own private small bank, while he had free time to find a more suitable job, but Fang Hongzhi was comfortable, and did not pay attention to finding a job at all, if it were not for the relationship between Fang Hongwei and his mother-in-law and was driven out, I don't know how long he would be comfortable.
Fang Hongwei's next job is not his own initiative to fight, but Su Wenyun is playing a game of feelings with Zhao Xinlin and Fang Hongzhi, and as a result, Zhao Xinlin secretly recommended Fang Hongwei to Sanlu University in order to support the fake love enemy, so that Fang Hong gradually got an unexpected harvest. Fang Hong gradually lost love and unemployed, unable to explain to his family, and immediately held this straw in his hand.
When he arrived at San lu University, he originally had a false academic qualification, and he also had a grudge against the president Gao Songnian for hiring him as an associate professor instead of a professor, and did not actively prepare lessons in teaching, but thought that he should not do more as an associate professor, and still enjoyed his life. Fang Hong's gradual inability to be unworthy of the position will be tired, the class is not good, and the score is not named in the class, and there are few students who go to his class, so repeatedly, Fang Hong is even more perfunctory. The following year, Fang Hong gradually did not receive any more letters of appointment from San lu University.
Fang Hong gradually has a self-righteous little cleverness, learning without work, buying fake certificates to fool around, working without care, perfunctory. His little cleverness made him think that he was worried and labor-saving, and in the end it hurt him, trapping him in the siege he had built up.
A siege broken from the inside is a reconstruction, and a broken city from the outside is a ruin.
Every time the change in life is not his own initiative to fight, but has been pushed by others, after studying abroad and returning to China did not take the initiative to find a job, his father-in-law let him temporarily commit himself to his own small bank, he had to live and do it, and then went to Sanlu University to teach, it was Zhao Xinlin who helped him recommend, after being dismissed from the university, he had no idea about the back road, and it was Zhao Xinlin who invited him to Chongqing to develop.
The siege of Fang Hongzhi's career was broken by others from the outside every time, committed to the private small bank of his father-in-law's family, and finally broken by his mother-in-law, teaching at Sanlu University, and finally broken by the principal Gao Songnian, because it was in the ruins, so Fang Hongzhi seemed so embarrassed, he just fantasized about breaking his siege from the inside, but never put it into action.
II. Marriage:
When Fang Hongwei was in high school, he had already arranged a marriage contract with Zhou Shuying, a miss of the Zhou family, at home. But when Fang Hong gradually arrived at the university, he saw that his classmates were in love freely, and his heart was itchy, so he wrote a crepe family letter to his father, wanting to cancel the marriage contract, and as a result, his father scolded him and died of his heart to retire from marriage. Who knew that Miss Zhou's life was thin, and she fell ill and died before Fang Hongxian graduated from college.
Although Fang Hongzhi and Miss Zhou have no actual intersection, they have a marriage contract, so Fang Hongzhi is trapped in the besieged city of the marriage contract, and wants to fall in love with the girl outside the city and cannot, so there is a complaint that the grapes cannot be eaten and said that the grapes are sour: "Where there is love in the world, it is a reproductive impulse at all." ”
When Miss Zhou died of illness, Fang Hong gradually became relieved and got the financial support of her father-in-law's family to study abroad. As a result, he studied abroad for four years, bought a fake diploma and confused things, and saw that there was not much left in the tuition, so he set off to return home. On the ship back to China, Fang Hong gradually opened the second and third relationships.
The second relationship is nothing more than a confirmation of a sentence that Fang Hongzhi once said before: "Where there is love in the world, it is a reproductive impulse at all." Because Fang Hong gradually knew that Miss Bao had a fiancé who was still close to her, the hair of the two people's one-night stand was picked up by the ship's waiter Ah Liu, and Fang Hong gradually broke the wealth twice.
The third relationship is Fang Hongwei's college classmate and the real doctor Su Wenyun who returned from studying in the same ship. In the face of Su Wenyun, who took the initiative to show kindness, Fang Hong gradually had an ambiguous attitude, wanting to escape and enjoy it very much. Father Fang once said, "A woman must win over my family, and a woman must not be better than my family." "In the patriarchal society, men want to maintain their position in the family and show their dignity, naturally they do not want women to be stronger than themselves, but Fang Hongwei, as a fake doctor, has been favored by Su Wenyun, a real doctor, and there is both joy and sting in his heart. This relationship is basically Su Wenyun's wishful thinking, a wrong love staged under Fang Hongzhi's half push, I love you but love her.
The fourth relationship is with Su Wenyun's cousin Tang Xiaofu, Fang Hong gradually met Tang Xiaofu under su Wenyun's introduction, and then came and went to abandon Su Wenyun, who pursued himself, and turned around to pursue the young and pure and beautiful Tang Xiaofu. Su Wenyun's mood at that time was "I would have turned my heart to the bright moon, but the bright moon shone in the ditch", I regarded you as a lover, but you regarded me as a matchmaker. So Su Wen was ruthless in a showdown with his cousin, exposing Fang Hongwei's various despicable acts in the past, messing with Miss Bao on the ship, falsifying academic qualifications, living in his father-in-law's house, etc., so that Fang Hongwei's image completely collapsed in Tang Xiaofu's heart, directly breaking the relationship between the two lovers.
Fang Hongwei's relationship with Miss Bao, Tang Xiaofu, and Su Wenyun is more like a lover, lover, and confidant, Fang Hongwei and Miss Bao's boat warehouse are dewy and clear, and Tang Xiaofu has endless words, love letters appeal to the intestines, and Su Wenyun has known each other for a long time, Su Wenyun tolerates all his shortcomings when he loves him, and exposes all his shortcomings when he hates him.
They have not entered into marriage, but they have tried everything in marriage, sex and love, tolerance and betrayal, sincerity and deception. This is a temptation on the edge of the siege, and everyone who has never been inside will be curious and expectant.
The fifth relationship is with Sun Roujia, the daughter of Zhao Xinlin's former colleague, who was employed by Fang Hongwei at Sam Lu University and accompanied her on the way to school. Sun Roujia and Su Wenyi both actively pursue Fang Hongzhi, but Sun Roujia cannot match Su Wenyi in terms of appearance and knowledge or family background, but Fang Hongjia chose her, why? Fang Hong gradually cowardly and good-looking, Su Wenyi is strong and has a desire to control, while Sun Roujia is soft and obedient in front of Fang Hongzhi, everything is dominated by Fang Hongzhi, and Fang Hongzhi will naturally choose Sun Roujia. But after getting married, Sun Roujia acted very assertive and did not look like she did before marriage. As Zhao Xinlin said, Sun Roujia is not as simple as it seems, but in fact it is. Sun Roujia is a very scheming woman who knows how to hide herself.
The combination of Fang Hongjia and Sun Roujia can be said to be both trapped in each other's traps, Fang Hong gradually thinks that Sun Roujia is a gentle and considerate little woman, sun Roujia thinks that Fang Hong is a big man who has gradually learned and achieved success, when they all see each other's faces, contradictions are naturally inevitable.
"Marriage is a walled city, people outside the city want to go in, people in the city want to come out."
Walk into the besieged city of marriage in disguise, and when you take off your disguise, you will see that each other is no longer the one who wanted to go into the city together before marriage! When you are outside the city, you can't see clearly, and when you go inside, you will regret it.
Fang Hongwei was trapped in the siege city he had built in both career and marriage, and he was cowardly and directionless in his career, which affected him in the marriage and he was also complained. When it looks tall outside the city, it is very small when it enters the city, and when it is outside the city and when it enters the city, it is as tall as inside the city, and the siege no longer exists. Fang Hongzhi could only break through himself in order to break free from the fate of being besieged.