The best rest of your life: someone understands, someone hurts, someone waits

Listen to happiness with you every night

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Author: Xiao Da

Source: Ten Point Reading (ID: duhaoshu)

Have you noticed that life after the age of thirty seems to have been pressed by the accelerator button.

Everything around him passed quickly, although he was still unfinished, but if he was not careful, he would have spent half his life.

I used to think that those long, difficult times seemed to have passed silently like this.

Sometimes I regret that time has gone all the way forward, and I have not been able to take good care of the past situation.

But as we get older, we gradually find that time passes, telling us that we don't have to chase, but from now on, you should go forward.

Time is fleeting, the rest of your life is not long, may you have someone understand in the days to come, some people hurt, some people wait.

01

Someone understands

Last week, there was a very short hot search, evoking the carnival of countless people, and "Friends" after 18 years of absence will be reunited again.

Its plot is actually very ordinary, that is, the ordinary daily life of 6 good friends living together.

But why are there still so many people who can't forget it, trapped in a small world and don't want to come out?

Yang Kasa explained: "Am I just watching the drama? No, I must have wanted to learn something from Friends. ”

I think, presumably, it makes us understand that true friends are the understanding and compassion of the soul.

Everyone who has read "Siege of the City" hopes that a Zhao Xinlin will appear next to them, but they are even more envious of his true feelings with Fang Hongwei.

At that time, Zhao Xinlin was triumphant in the official arena, and Fang Hongzhi was just a small clerk struggling with food and clothing.

When Zhao Xinlin got married, he invited many guests but did not inform Fang Hongwei.

Ordinary people will be angry when they are treated like this, and even the friends around them are a little dissatisfied: "It's not that I am separated, I see that your good friend does not let you go." ”

However, Fang Hongwei did not think so, and went home to explain to his wife:

"He didn't inform me of his marriage because he was afraid that I would give me gifts; he was considerate of my poverty, and he knew that we had received his generous gifts when we got married, and we must return the gifts."

Although the status is different, the deep friendship between the two has made countless people envious.

Some people say that the greatest loneliness of adults is not having a true friend.

No one shares your heart, no one travels together, no one understands your duplicity, and no one sees through your strong disguise.

We also know that we can't be friends with everyone, and true friendship is just as precious as love.

But luckily, we all met, the man who knew himself.

In front of him, we don't need to hide or hide, when sad, don't need to talk more, even if it's just sitting with you, it will feel very relaxed.

The topic you throw out, he can pick up, even if he is relatively speechless, he will not feel dull and embarrassed.

Occasionally, when you are busy, you will not forget to give you a thumbs up in the circle of friends, so that your life is full of warmth.

There is no sooner or later when friends meet, and in the days to come, may you be close friends with you.

02

Someone hurts

Do you feel this way?

Once upon a time we wanted too much, but we couldn't do anything, the feelings of love that we couldn't help, the enthusiasm that we couldn't respond to, the lonely courage of wishful thinking.

Later, as I grew older, the expectation of love became more and more simple: someone was distressed, and it was enough.

In the past, there was a food stall downstairs with a good business, and it was always hot every late at night.

In order to save money, the husband and wife did not hire a part-time job, ordering, serving dishes, cleaning up the table, and were busy.

Once, the wife was bumped by a guest and spilled the hot soup, and blisters appeared on her hands, and several nearby guests were also hit.

If you change to another husband, you will probably only first berate why you are so careless and affect your business.

However, when her husband heard about it, he quickly came out to check on his wife's injuries for the first time.

After checking and knowing that there was no major problem, he put his mind at ease, and then turned around to make amends to the guests who suffered and offered them a discount.

In fact, a man who truly loves you knows how to hurt you in the subtleties.

Just like this husband, it looks like a careless big man, but in fact, every time he opens the job, he takes it down by himself;

When busy between, he will take the initiative to hand his wife a glass of water, or pull up a stool to let her rest;

John Gottman once said:

"The key to the success of a relationship is not in a candlelit dinner, nor on a romantic beach, but to care about each other, to care about the small moments of life." 」

Sometimes, the most painful thing in life is not the injury, but the fact that no one hurts.

The stronger the person on the surface, the more sensitive and fragile he is inside.

Because there is no one to rely on, no one to be distressed, can only swallow all the grievances alone, learn to be strong and forbearing.

But in this life, people always have to experience some ups and downs and twists and turns.

You must believe that one day, there will be such a person who will be distressed by your suffering and understand your suffering.

You don't need to be so vigorous, cook for you when you're hungry, hold umbrellas for people on rainy days, spoil your little emotions, hurt your not easy, make you cry when you want to cry, laugh when you want to laugh.

Know that you are cold and warm, understand your sorrows and joys, stand with you at dusk, and ask you if the porridge is warm.

Even if the time is long, it will not give up and accompany you to slowly go white.

03

Someone waited

Ji Xianlin once wrote in "Eternal Regret":

"I really regret that the last thing I should have done was to leave my mother."

No matter what reputation, what status, what happiness, no honor in the world, it is better than staying by the mother's side. ”

We always think that we are coming to Japan for a long time, but we forget that our parents are getting older.

No matter how long the rest of your life is, no matter how big the world is, it is better for someone to wait for you to come home.

Some time ago, the girlfriend decided to resign and return to her hometown, because her mother was suddenly ill and was sent to the hospital.

The girlfriend who heard the news rushed to the hospital, and the mother had left the operating room and returned to the ward for observation.

Seeing her panicked look, her mother complained about her, so why did she rush back and delay her work.

The girlfriend said that when she heard her mother's words, she especially wanted to cry, and her heart was always blocked, and she couldn't say how uncomfortable it was.

When I was young, because of gambling with my parents and in order to prove myself, my girlfriend took up her bag and went to Beijing alone.

But only now did she understand that when she quarreled with her children, her parents would always lose.

Because no matter what situation you are in, your parents are always full of concerns and silently guard you in their own way.

Later, the girlfriend sent a circle of friends: "After a busy day at work, I came home to find that my mother had wrapped the dumplings and was waiting for us to come back to eat." ”

Once upon a time, we always thought that home was the high wall that stood in our way.

When I grew up, I realized that wealth and status are just clouds of smoke, and home is the warmest place in the world.

No matter how much wind and rain we have endured outside, as long as we think of home, we can feel at ease;

No matter how gorgeous the scenery outside, the most beautiful place in your heart will always be the home where your parents are waiting for you to go back.

No matter how late the hour hand turns, there are lights waiting for you at home; no matter how tired you are, there are delicious meals waiting for you at home;

The happiest thing in life, looking back, parents are still there;

But please also remember that life is too short, don't make them wait too long.

04

Time is like quicksand, thinking back to the first half of our lives, ups and downs, panic.

But no matter what good or bad things are, everything is a thing of the past.

For the rest of your life, may you have—

Accompany you to talk about the fireworks in the world, the confidant with similar souls;

Hand in hand with the wind and rain for the rest of your life, tolerate your heartache your lover;

No matter how early or late you arrive home, your parents are still waiting for your peace of mind.

This is the most ordinary possession, but also the most precious happiness.

Click [watching], the best rest of your life is actually just that.

Author: Xiao Da, Source: Ten Point Reading (ID: duhaoshu), a national reading big number subscribed by more than 30 million people. Please contact Ten O'Clock Reading for reprints.

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