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Some people say that "it is better to marry a good man than to meet a good mother-in-law", which sounds a bit strange at first. After all, since ancient times, when it comes to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, most of them are incompatible, ten pairs of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and nine discord, etc. But for those who have entered the siege of marriage, it is simply a reasonable saying.
Before getting married, many people had the idea of living alone with their husbands. But with the birth of the child, the mother-in-law came to serve the confinement and help with the baby. Between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who were once strangers, it is inevitable to break down each other's psychological and life barriers.
At this time, not only can a man's emotional intelligence and coordination ability be tested, but also can see whether the mother-in-law really treats the daughter-in-law as a family.
If you encounter troublemakers, two-faced people and other mothers-in-law, don't expect them to treat their daughters-in-law as girlfriends to hurt, it is lucky not to toss the small family apart. But if you meet a really good mother-in-law, it is simply a blessing for a lifetime.
Know how to empathize and put yourself in the shoes of your daughter-in-law
Although there is no real empathy in this world, people's sorrows and joys are not the same. But it must be admitted that there are still some people who have experienced darkness, so they always want to be gentle with others and are willing to give others umbrellas. And most of those really good mothers-in-law are such people who have empathy ability and are willing to put themselves in the shoes of their daughter-in-law and not let their daughter-in-law suffer from their own suffering.
Here, I have to mention Zhang Youyi (Xu Zhimo's original match), who is listed as one of the "four abandoned women of the Republic of China", she can be said to be a standard Chinese good mother-in-law.
Because in the previous marriage, he had been disliked by his ex-husband as an uncultured bun. In order to avoid her daughter-in-law from repeating the same mistakes, she often warned her daughter-in-law to work hard to improve herself so that she could grasp the initiative of marriage.
What is even more surprising is that in order to let her daughter-in-law continue to learn, she even specially asked a tutor to teach her daughter-in-law Chinese, English, German and French four languages and various knowledge.
And her kindness to her daughter-in-law is much more than that. When her son planned to study in the United States, she worried that her daughter-in-law was like her former self, working hard to take care of her children at home, but she was abandoned by her husband.
So, he offered to help take care of the four young children, so that the daughter-in-law and son could study in the United States together. And until they all learned and achieved success, Zhang Youyi let go to live her own little life.
Reasonable, with a sense of proportion and boundary awareness
Many people know that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should maintain a bowl of soup distance between themselves. But in reality, there are always some mothers-in-law who don't understand this principle. They stubbornly believe that everything they do is for the good of their sons and daughters-in-law. As everyone knows, paying without measure and boundaries is an unspeakable torture for others.
The really good mother-in-law is just the opposite. They are often reasonable and have their own opinions in everything, but they also understand that they cannot interfere in the life of small families at will.
They know that young people have their own ideas and habits, and although they are not accustomed to them, they also show understanding. Although he helps with his children, he will take the initiative to give way to his daughter-in-law and son when he encounters educational problems. And because they have a sense of boundaries, they will not rush into their daughter-in-law's bedroom without knocking on the door.
Clear and impartial
In life, I often encounter some mother-in-law, who are biased in favor of a son, so that even daughters-in-law are treated differently.
And the real good mother-in-law is often a person who can carry everything clearly. They don't act too biased in favor of a son or daughter-in-law. Not to mention that because he does not want to see a son, he will not look at his daughter-in-law unfavorably.
They understand that the palms of their hands and the backs of their hands are flesh, and if they want to have a deep affection for their children, they must be impartial. Otherwise, after they leave, they will definitely kill each other, and even break off their brothers and sisters.
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