As a well-known great poet and talent of the Republic of China, Xu Zhimo's sentimentality has always been talked about.
To what extent can he be "slagged"? Ignoring the opposition of relatives and friends, he abandoned his wife and son; before the original match was reconciled, he boldly pursued the teacher's daughter-in-law, and after failing to succeed, he turned around and married his friend's wife.
Even his younger brother Jin Yong could not help but use the ruthless bad guy "cousin" to allude to reality in martial arts novels.
He has been entangled in love and hate between women all his life, and even at his funeral, three women are still on the same stage.
It was such a brother who was born rich and noble, and finally had an accident in order to save money and unfortunately died. The reason was so that his second wife, Lu Xiaoman, could have more living expenses.
It can be said that in front of Lu Xiaoman, he can be regarded as an affectionate and responsible husband.
Can be both affectionate and affectionate, but also able to be affectionate and responsible, why can Xu Zhimo's life show a double face? What kind of person is he?
Romantic and free, mercurial talent
When Xu Zhimo was studying in Cambridge, England, he met the white moonlight of his life - Lin Huiyin.
Lin Huiyin is one of the four beauties of the Republic of China. She is a modern architect, a poet and a writer.
At the first sight of Lin Huiyin, Xu Zhimo fell. Her gentle and elegant temperament and clear and moving eyes deeply attracted Xu Zhimo.
Lin Huiyin
"Lady, gentleman", this is no problem. The problem is that Xu Zhimo once worshiped Liang Qichao as a teacher, and Lin Huiyin was the daughter-in-law of Liang Qichao for his son Liang Sicheng.
Digging the "wall head grass" dug up on his teacher's daughter-in-law, not to mention that at this time, Xu Zhimo had already married his original wife Zhang Youyi, so the pressure he was subjected to at that time from all aspects of society was not generally large.
But Xu Zhimo is after all a person who shouts that "love is the center and essence of life", and he is obsessed with some madness on the road of pursuing love.
His father's insults, the bitter retention of the original Zhang Youyi, and the persuasion of his friends, xu Zhimo all turned a deaf ear, and he immediately asked Zhang Youyi for divorce, and launched a fanatical pursuit offensive against Lin Huiyin, writing a lot of inspired new poems for courtship.
In the face of Xu Zhimo, who is handsome and has radiant talents, Lin Huiyin is also entangled. She tried to restrain herself, if she was in pain and entanglement, but in the end reason triumphed over sensibility.
Lin Huiyin's hesitation was twofold, one was that he did not want to marry Xu Zhimo as a concubine, and second, Xu Zhimo's desperate love for Zhang Youyi was somewhat palpitating.
So she kept her relationship with Xu Zhimo at a suitable distance.
Seeing that such a hot and straightforward love could not be responded to, even if Xu Zhimo fell in love at first sight again, after a long time, he had no choice but to let go. He and Lin Huiyin both rationally went in their own directions after that, which may also be a pure emotion that is difficult for the world to understand.
When Xu Zhimo met Lin Huiyin again, it was four years later, and the two finally smiled, and at this time Lin Huiyin was also married to Liang Sicheng.
But without Lin Huiyin, he did not expect to usher in Lu Xiaoman again, and Xu Zhimo soon met the woman in his life who made him feel the second heartbeat.
If Lin Huiyin is a bright white moonlight in Xu Zhimo's heart, then Lu Xiaoman is the red rose of the demon. Lu Xiaoman is also one of the four beauties of the Republic of China, she is also a talented woman, good at painting, familiar with Kunqu opera, and writes a good article.
When Xu Zhimo returned to China to meet Lu Xiaoman, she was already the wife of her friend Wang Geng.
Lu Xiaoman
When two extremely talented people meet, they can't help but feel a little more good and curious. Talented people are always more likely to burst out of the spark of passion. The terrible thing is that Wang Geng actually took the initiative to give this opportunity.
Because Wang Geng was intoxicated with his career and focused on his work, he did not have time to play with Lu Xiaoman. Seeing that Xu Zhimo and her were in agreement, they even agreed that Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo often played together, and there was no doubt in this, obviously they trusted their friend Xu Zhimo very much.
It's just that Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman are lonely men and widows, it is precisely "dry firewood and fire", and the two will inevitably have a long-term relationship with each other day and night. Therefore, when Wang Geng discovered the feelings of the two people, it was already too late, and the feelings of the two people were that the wood had become a boat.
Lu Xiaoman is also a bold woman, she disregarded the world's vision and Wang Geng's retention, and finally successfully divorced Wang Geng in 1925 after many twists and turns. And the following year, he married Xu Zhimo, who was also crazy about love.
From affectionate to affectionate and responsible
Originally, everyone thought that this was just another game of wind and snow and every scene carried out by Xu Zhimo.
No one could have imagined that this well-known talented man would really become obedient when he met Lu Xiaoman, become a good husband who was affectionate and responsible, and even indirectly pay the price of his life for it.
In order to divorce the original Zhang Youyi, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman successfully married, and also took out the momentum of "not crazy devil, not a devil".
Upon learning the news that Xu Zhimo was going to marry for the second time, his father Xu Shen was furious and thunderous. The reason is that zhang youyi, as the daughter-in-law of the Xu family, is too virtuous and there is nothing wrong with it.
Zhang Youyi not only married into the Xu family with a rich dowry, but also worked hard for the family after entering the door, inherited incense for the family, and also took the initiative to give up her studies.
In the face of his father's head-on scolding, Xu Zhimo also said with grievances, "You must also be considerate and considerate of my pain!" ”。
In his eyes, the divorce from Zhang Youyi is just not loving her, and he wants to find a new person to live a lifetime, which is not so complicated.
But in Xu Shenru's view, the higher the level of education, the more he should understand etiquette, righteousness, and shame, and he angrily pointed at Xu Zhimo with trembling fingers and scolded,
"Your pain? Your pain is the consequence of your selfishness, you don't think that little thing in London is unknown to everyone, you only think of yourself, are you worthy of childishness? ”
Zhang Youyi and Xu Zhimo
Xu Zhimo was indeed sorry for Zhang Youyi, he still went his own way and completed his marriage with Lu Xiaoman, without the slightest regard for Zhang Youyi's feelings.
Xu Zhimo's behavior completely made Xu's father break with him, and soon the Xu family's parents moved back to their hometown, living with their original daughter-in-law Zhang Youyi and her grandson, and cutting off Xu Zhimo's financial resources.
Everyone thought that this brother would not be able to bear the suffering of the real economy, and finally bowed his head to the family and confessed his mistake, Xu Zhimo's deep responsibility this time surprised people, and since then people have seen a different side of him.
It turned out that Lu Xiaoman, as a lover, was a charming and interesting woman, but as a wife, it was obvious that she seemed too condescending and did not eat human fireworks.
Lu Xiaoman, who holds the moon from the small stars, is a person who is "extravagant". She spends a lot of money, and not only has a private car at home, but also hires a driver, a cook, a maid, and a personal servant.
Entering and leaving must be feasted on high-rise buildings, wearing non-celebrity objects, and living so extravagantly that even her mother scolded her for spending money without counting. The most terrible thing is that Lu Xiaoman is also infected with the evil opium addiction because of his treatment, which is what makes Xu Zhimo have the most headache.
Love survives the initial passion like fire, and what remains is the chai rice oil and salt in life. Without the help of his parents, Xu Zhimo soon felt the pressure of the economy in his life.
It is said that Xu Zhimo's salary earned at that time was actually not small, and there were 300 oceans of teaching funds per month alone, which was not counting various royalties and investment dividends.
In the 1920s, the average salary was only twenty yuan, which was enough for a family of seven to feed themselves.
But Xu Zhimo still felt huge economic pressure, had to do several jobs at the same time, and even sold all kinds of antique calligraphy and paintings, so he constantly accepted financial assistance from his friend Weng Ruiwu and others.
Unlike Xu Zhimo, whose main job is in Beijing, Lu Xiaoman is only willing to stay in Shanghai because she is very good here. Xu Zhimo repeatedly advised her to go north to live together, but Lu Xiaoman never agreed, and Xu Zhimo had to live back and forth for many years after marriage.
Xu Zhimo, who separates the two places and travels back and forth, often spends the night at a friend's house in order to save money. Even if the work is hard and the work is tired, Xu Zhimo still makes money to support his family for Lu Xiaoman's expenses, and unremittingly persuades Lu Xiaoman to quit smoking, even if every time he is only exchanged for the other party's insults.
In Beijing, from morning lectures to afternoon, and in the evening, after working part-time until eleven o'clock, he still did not forget to write to Lu Xiaoman with a pen
"Your difficulties, from my point of view, are not in the aspect of respecting the elders, but entirely in the aspect of accumulating habits. It is hard to get back, and the love of lovers is true. ”
Xu Zhimo's habits and love of soil are Exactly Lu Xiaoman's evil habit of smoking opium. A few years passed, and instead of leaving because of Lu Xiaoman's vices, Xu Zhimo took care of her wholeheartedly.
What he wanted most in his heart was for Lu Xiaoman to quit opium and raise his body. But his bitter heart was ultimately no match for Lu Xiaoman's favored fearlessness.
Until the night before Xu Zhimo's plane accident, he continued to persuade Lu Xiaoman for the last time. That day, he looked at Lu Xiaoman, who was smoking opium, at home, and advised bitterly, "Eyebrows, now that you are thin like this, I am very sad." Because I love you so much that I want to persuade you to quit opium, my dear eyebrows."
Lu Xiaoman was immediately furious and casually threw the smoking gun at Shima's face, who hurriedly dodged it, and the gold wire glasses fell to the ground. In this regard, Xu Zhimo could only leave silently, and he still had something to do the next day to take a flight north.
Only this time Xu Zhimo encountered the most unfortunate disaster in his life. In order to save money, this time he took a free plane, but unexpectedly encountered the impact of the fog that day, the plane had an unfortunate accident in the fog, and Xu Zhimo and the two pilots were all killed.
He was only 35 years old. It can be said that Lu Xiaoman's extravagant expenses indirectly prompted Xu Zhimo to take this free flight and also stepped into heaven.
Compared with the former talent and sentimentality, Xu Zhimo had a lot of affection before, and how affectionate he was here in Lu Xiaoman, completely unconnected with the "scumbag".
Xu Zhimo's different attitude towards his two wives is his different two-sided life. Zhang Youyi's good he does not know how to cherish, Lu Xiaoman's "bad" he is willing to eat,
As the female writer Bing Xin later commented on Xu Zhimo, "He can't get the benefits of women, but the disadvantages of women make him sacrifice."
The end of Xu Zhimo's two-sided life
After the news of Xu Zhimo's death came out, Lu Xiaoman's heart was also unacceptable for a while, shouting in a hoarse voice, "Impossible, impossible", perhaps until this moment she did not know that the person who loved her most in the world had left forever.
Lu Xiaoman, who could not accept the reality, refused to go to collect the body, or Zhang Youyi entrusted his own brother to take his son to collect the body. At the subsequent funeral, Zhang Youyi also presided over the funeral as a surviving person.
On the day of the funeral, his ex-wife Zhang Youyi, ex-girlfriend Lin Huiyin and Lu Xiaoman appeared at the same time for the first time, and the three of them also attracted everyone's attention.
Lu Xiaoman's tie is the longest and most literary, "how many previous dust into nightmares, five years of mourning, hurry and eternal tips..." expresses grief, but the translation is somewhat wrong.
Roughly speaking, we were together for five years, and it was very painful for you to suddenly leave me, and I would like to be martyred together, but I have an old mother to support, so I will not die with you.
This statement is somewhat sympathetic. It is not as good as Lin Huiyin's pair of signatures and no content, and for her who has become a wife, perhaps this blank is the best way to send off.
The most touching link is zhang Youyi, who was abandoned by Xu Zhimo and left two children for her to take care of, wrote, "Ten thousand miles fly fast, shake the clouds alone and lose their way." As soon as the crane turned, I took pity on the weak and went to summon the soul. ”
The emotions expressed are only all kinds of mourning for Xu Zhimo, but they do not mention anything about themselves. In fact, after Xu Zhimo left, the heavy responsibility of supporting his in-laws, raising his young son, and doing business to support a large family were all handled by the original Zhang Youyi.
Interestingly, after Xu Zhimo's death, Lu Xiaoman began to quit opium, and changed his extravagant style and went in and out of plain clothes. Lu Xiaoman later became the Lu Xiaoman that Xu Zhimo loved in his heart, but unfortunately there was no longer Xu Zhimo in the world.
Throughout Xu Zhimo's life, he is definitely not the kind of person who will only have wind and snow. When he was in college in the north, he experienced scenes of warlord scuffles and witnessed the massacre of innocents.
Therefore, he hated the old society, and to study abroad was to seek a prescription to change China and realize the "ideal revolution" in his heart.
After returning to China, he founded the Crescent Society, took over the editing of the "Morning News Supplement", and incidentally reported that he had cracked a drug smuggling case.
With poetry and words, with the pen as a knife, he did what an intellectual could do, and literary creation was closely related to the characteristics of social history at that time, and behind it was more of a profound reflection on the fate of the nation.
He did not proclaim total Westernization, as a large number of intellectuals in the May Fourth Movement at that time, but embraced Western ideas while taking root in traditional Chinese culture. For example, "Ode to the National Day" is his deep patriotic poem.
I am afraid that it is Xu Zhimo's various patriotic feelings and his own talent, Zhang Youyi, a woman who has come out of the old tradition, will always love Xu Zhimo silently in her own way, and she has never let go of it for a lifetime.
After Xu Zhimo's death, Zhang Youyi spared no effort to publish poems such as "The Complete Works of Xu Zhimo" for him. This calm and open-minded woman did not die peacefully until 1988.
In her later years, Zhang Youyi
In her later years, a reporter asked Zhang Youyi whether she still loved Xu Zhimo. She said, "You always ask me if I love Xu Zhimo, but in fact, I am very confused, because I have never said 'I love you' to anyone in my life."
But if taking care of him and his family is love, then I do love him. The women he had met in his life were probably the ones I loved the most. "
Zhang Youyi's answer may also be Xu Zhimo's regret in life, he missed the woman who loved him the most.