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In 1931, Xu Zhimo, who was preparing to take his wife Lu Xiaoman home to visit his mother, received a 6-word briefing from his father, Xu Shenru: "If she comes, I will leave." ”
At that time, Xu's mother was already seriously ill, and the son's daughter-in-law did not say to visit at this moment, that is, it was often necessary to serve soup medicine on the collapse side, but "filial piety son" Xu Zhimo really obeyed his father's meaning and secretly landed on Xiao Man to go home alone to visit his mother.
Xu Shenru was extremely displeased with his daughter-in-law Lu Xiaoman, which led to the previous telegram, but when Xu Zhimo really went home alone and did not see Lu Xiaoman, he was even more dissatisfied with him.
It is not that Lu Xiaoman is not filial to his mother-in-law, and he is seriously ill and unwilling to visit, but Xu Zhimo has always been accustomed to "obedience", whether it is for his wife Lu Xiaoman or his parents.
Lu Xiaoman, Xu Zhimo
When his father bluntly refused Lu Xiaoman to step into the door of the Xu family, Xu Zhimo did not want to spend time in it, did not think about how to do a good job of lubricating the relationship between his wife and parents, but chose to avoid and please both ends, but in the end it made the relationship between the family worse.
In April of that year, Xu Mu finally did not survive and died of a serious illness, and it was only at this time that Lu Xiaoman learned all this.
As a daughter-in-law, Lu Xiaoman did not receive the news that the Xu family let her go back to the funeral, but adhering to the filial piety of the daughter-in-law, Lu Xiaoman was still dressed in filial piety, traveled thousands of miles, from Shanghai to Zhejiang Jiaoshi, to personally send his mother-in-law a ride.
Just after arriving at the xu family gate, Lu Xiaoman was stopped by his father-in-law Xu Shenru, and his mouth was full of the intention of driving away: "Please come back, the Xu family does not welcome you." ”
As the daughter-in-law of the Xu family, but she could not even enter her own door, but Zhang Youyi, a former daughter-in-law who was not directly related to the Xu family, guarded the Xiaoling Hall, lu Xiaoman, who was turned away, was very aggrieved.
Lu Xiaoman
Not only was Lu Xiaoman aggrieved, but his husband Xu Zhimo was also aggrieved by her, and he quarreled with Xu Shenru in front of the spiritual hall, and Xu Shenru was so angry that Xu Shenru hid his face and cried bitterly.
Lu Xiaoman returned home to mourn the most direct consequences, Xu Shenru and Xu Zhimo broke off the father-son relationship, and the Xu family no longer provided financial assistance to Xu Zhimo and his wife.
She has always been a daughter-in-law who is as plain as water, a mother-in-law who is intolerant of water and fire, why is the relationship between the father-in-law and daughter-in-law of the Xu family so tense? What evil thing did Lu Xiaoman do to make Xu Shenru hate her so much? In the final analysis, this matter still has to start with Xu Shenru's wandering son.
Before Xu Zhimo studied abroad, he married Zhang Youyi and gave birth to his eldest son, Xu Jikai. Zhang Youyi came from a large family, and his family lineage matched Xu Zhimo,and he was born dignified and gentle, but he was not pleased with him.
Zhang Youyi, Xu Zhimo
When you hate a person, even her breathing is wrong, and Zhang Youyi is such a wrong existence for Xu Zhimo.
Xu Zhimo, who has carved romance into his genes, advocates the ultimate Westernization and deeply hates everything about tradition, including arranged marriages. He could not vent this disgust to his parents, so he passed it on to the innocent Zhang Youyi.
Because Zhang Youyi wrapped her feet, Xu Zhimo took a general look, believing that she was a feudal woman soaked in old thoughts, mocking her as a countryman, and did not want to share a room with her on the wedding night.
15-year-old Zhang Youyi was overwhelmed by all this, but she still chose to be tolerant, thinking that her patience would eventually be kept in the clouds.
In xu zhimo's eyes, Zhang Youyi is useless, but in the eyes of the second elder of the Xu family, Zhang Youyi is a rare good daughter-in-law, she has a soft personality, stable and courteous, kind and generous, filial piety to the elders, respect for her husband, and all the beautiful traditional qualities in one.
Zhang Youyi
However, no matter how gentle a piece of jade Zhang Youyi is, Xu Zhimo has no interest in discovering the good qualities in her, and after completing the task of passing on the inheritance, he will go abroad to study, leaving Zhang Youyi alone to raise her son at home, filial piety to her in-laws, and handle housework.
When Xu Zhimo was in England, he met a little girl with both talents and a dusty temperament, which made him the joy of love for the first time, this woman was Lin Huiyin, who traveled with his father to study in Europe.
Xu Zhimo fell in love with Lin Huiyin almost at first sight, taking her as his first love, and even forcing Zhang Youyi to beat up the young son in his belly for her.
Lin Huiyin, who first met Xu Zhimo
How affectionate Xu Zhimo was for Lin Huiyin, how desperate he was for Zhang Youyi. When Zhang Youyi said that beating the tire would kill people, Xu Zhimo did not have the slightest compassion, but instead sneered: "There are still people who die because they take the train, do you see that people don't take the train?" ”
After Zhang Youyi fled to Germany and insisted on giving birth to his youngest son, Pete, Xu Zhimo chased after him again, not to see his newborn child, but to send a divorce agreement.
No matter how desperate Xu Zhimo is to get rid of this marriage and return to singleness to marry the goddess Lin Huiyin, in the end, this is destined to be a one-man show for him, because Lin Huiyin disdains to pay for his romance and impulsiveness.
Because of a heart-pounding encounter, because of an intersection with an unknown ending, Xu Zhimo personally destroyed his family, and it was still in an undignified way.
In her later years, Zhang Youyi and her grandchildren
After returning to China, Xu Zhimo became a well-known poet in Beiping, often with his brother and friend Wang Geng.
Wang Geng had a very famous wife, named Lu Xiaoman, born in a family, full of poetry, good at piano and painting, and also sang Kunqu opera, played yellow skin, and Tang Ying was collectively known as "Southern Tang And Northern Land", and was a famous socialite.
Friends and wives cannot be deceived, and when Wang Geng was there, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman were just nodding friends. When Wang Geng was transferred to Harbin to work, Lu Xiaoman, who was nostalgic for Beijing, fell alone, and Xu Zhimo took advantage of this time to have close contact with Lu Xiaoman.
Xu Zhimo was an extremely conceited literati, and he had a lonely and arrogant side in his nature, believing that only the top modern woman was worthy of being his wife, first Lin Huiyin, then Lu Xiaoman.
Lu Xiaoman conforms to all of Xu Zhimo's imagination of an ideal partner, in order not to live up to his ideal state of love, he abandoned all worldly principles and boldly and enthusiastically began to pursue Lu Xiaoman.
Although Xu Zhimo has divorced, returned to singleness, and became "the first divorced man in China" as he wished, Lu Xiaoman is still a married wife, and the close contact between the two has caused a lot of gossip.
At that time, in the literati circles of Beiping, the scandal of Xu Zhimo's pursuit of a married woman was boiling over, but Xu Zhimo was not ashamed of this, and still followed his heart in his own way, and talked with Lu Xiaoman about a passionate love that violated morality.
In this way, the ending can be imagined, Lu Xiaoman divorced Wang Geng for Xu Zhimo, and another family was broken.
Lu Xiaoman's ex-husband Wang Geng
Although a slap does not make a sound, Lu Xiaoman is also responsible for this matter, but in the final analysis, Xu Zhimo is still too willful and arrogant, and has no responsibility for marriage and love, and is too rash to see.
Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo want to use marriage to witness their vigorous love, but both Lu Xiaoman's parents and Xu Zhimo's parents oppose their union.
But what about parents who are stubborn children? Even if they are no longer pleased with their deviant behavior, they eventually take a step back and fulfill their so-called love on the premise of the three chapters of the Law of Covenant.
Xu Shenru put forward the following three requirements for Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman: First, Hu Shi should be the introducer of the wedding and Liang Qichao would be the witness of the marriage; second, the wedding expenses would be borne by himself, and the Xu family would not assist; third, After marriage, Lu Xiaoman lived with his in-laws.
Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman understood that these requests made by their fathers were for the sake of their reputation, and they complied with them without the slightest objection.
Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman held a wedding ceremony in Beihai Park in Beijing
At the wedding, Liang Qichao, as Xu Zhimo's teacher, mercilessly criticized and persuaded Xu Zhimo as a groom: "Xu Zhimo, you are an impetuous person, so you have no achievements in learning; you are a person who is not dedicated, so that you divorce and remarry... In the future, we must change our past mistakes and become people again. In this way, the comments are to the point.
Poor parents in the world, even if Xu Shenru was dissatisfied in his heart and said ruthlessly in his mouth, he still gave a villa as a new wedding gift for Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman.
It is reasonable to say that Xu Shenru had the heart to accept Lu Xiaoman, but why did he finally make a serious fuss about Lu Xiaoman's stepping on Xu Xiaoman's door? This has to talk about Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman's way of getting along.
Although Xu Shenru and his wife are not particularly feudal people, they still attach importance to the traditional virtues of Chinese in their bones, and women's morality, speech, work, and deeds are all necessary requirements for being a human woman in their view, but Lu Xiaoman does not meet one.
Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman played in the garden
Lu Xiaoman looked sick all day, sometimes getting up in the afternoon and never asking his in-laws for safety. Eating has always been only half eaten, the rest for Xu Zhimo to eat, and sometimes in front of his in-laws to make love to Xu Zhimo, asking him to carry himself upstairs.
If it is only a couple's life, this can also be regarded as fun, but under the same roof as the in-laws, it seems too wanton. Xu Shenru and his wife were not accustomed to the delicate and contrived behavior of their son and daughter-in-law every day, and simply did not see it as pure, and went to Beijing to live with Zhang Youyi's mother and son.
After returning to Shanghai again, without the Xu family's financial assistance, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman felt economic constraints. And Lu Xiaoman has been raised richly since childhood, spending money like flowing water, Xu Zhimo can only wear several positions, and strive to make money for her and squander.
Xu Zhimo teaches at Peking University, but Lu Xiaoman is obsessed with the world of flowers and flowers in Shanghai and does not want to go with him, and Xu Zhimo can only run back and forth between Beiping and Shanghai.
Lu Xiaoman lived a life of a drunken fan in Shanghai, passing the day by dancing, playing cards, watching theater, and smoking opium.
Xu Zhimo is very dissatisfied with the debauchery of his wife Lu Xiaoman, and he has quarreled with her many times when he is tired of coping with life, but to no avail, Lu Xiaoman still goes his own way.
Xu Zhimo, Lu Xiaoman
In November 1931, Lin Huiyin was preparing to hold a lecture in Beiping, perhaps 5 years of married life had tormented Xu Zhimo to the point of misery, and he was even more nostalgic for the beautiful Lin Huiyin, after learning the news, he immediately took a plane to Beiping to listen.
Unexpectedly, the plane crashed and fell, and Xu Zhimo, who was only 35 years old, was also killed in the accident.
In modern history, Xu Zhimo is famous for his idealistic poems and sensational emotional entanglements, and if he is to contribute, he has not paid much by Zhang Youyi, whom he despises.
Zhang Youyi's mother and son and father-in-law Xu Shenru
The three women who had emotional entanglements with Xu Zhimo, the original Zhang Youyi, who worked tirelessly to improve herself, studied in Germany after divorce to enhance her cultural accomplishment, served as the president of the bank after returning to China, operated a clothing company, raised her young son to grow up, sent the end of Xu Zhimo's parents, and also sent money every month to help Lu Xiaoman, who lost her husband, and carried forward the beautiful traditional virtues of respecting the old and loving the young, kindness and generosity.
The first love Lin Hui, because of his marriage to Liang Sicheng, the son of Liang Qichao, the two had a happy marriage and similar interests, and they struggled endlessly for China's construction cause all their lives, becoming a generation of masters hongru that everyone admired.
Instead, Lu Xiaoman, who was held in the palm of Xu Zhimo's hand, fell into the poison of opium for the rest of his life, and a generation of famous and beautiful people eventually ended up in a tragic end of poverty and illness and no one to send him to the end.
Elderly Lu Xiaoman
In addition to a little cultivation in literature, Xu Zhimo really did not dare to study in detail other behaviors: falling in love with others in marriage and being unfaithful to his wife; robbing his brother's wife and being unjust to his friends; failing to fulfill his father's responsibilities and being unkind to his son; disobeying and disobeying his parents.
Such a disloyal, unkind and unfilial Xu Zhimo's final ending is also tragic, even if there is no accidental death in the crash, from his unsatisfactory marriage life with Lu Xiaoman, we can also see the dismal future.
What causes are planted, what fruits are produced, and once we are human, we should still stand in the world according to the rules, after all, although morality is invisible, it can kill people.
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