How can the poet's world lack romantic elements, the great poet Xu Zhimo's life is inextricably entangled with three women. One is his wife, Zhang Youyi; one is his unavoidable request—Lin Huiyin; and the other is Lu Xiaoman, a social flower that accompanies him for the rest of his life. Of these three women, who is the cinnabar mole and who is the white moonlight?
In 1915, Xu Zhimo married Zhang Youyi under the arrangement of her father, Zhang Youyi is a typical traditional woman, everyone is beautiful, gentle and elegant, she loves Xu Zhimo deeply, but is unwilling to express. She took care of her parents, taught her children, and took care of the housework. For most people, marrying a wife like Zhang Youyi is really an ancestral accumulation of virtue, and they have to go to the temple to make a wish. For Xu Zhimo, his wife's stereotypical and boring seems to be incompatible with his romantic feelings, so he has always been very cold to him.
In October 1920, Xu Zhimo met 16-year-old Lin Huiyin in England, and Lin's talent and appearance made him fall in love at first sight and couldn't stop wanting. After that, Xu Zhimo began to pursue Lin Huiyin madly, and the two were attached to poetry, frequent exchanges, and Lin also had a heartbeat. However, Lin Huiyin's father, Lin Changmin, knew Xu Zhimo's personality and was worried that his daughter would not be shuky, so he decided to take Lin Huiyin away, so that the relationship ended without any disease.
In 1922, Xu Zhimo was so depressed by Lin Huiyin's "exodus" that he scratched his heart and scratched his liver and could not sleep at night. According to the logic of normal people, Xu should return to his family at this time and live a good life, but he did the opposite, and actually ignored the opinions of others and resolutely divorced Zhang Youyi. After the divorce, Xu Zhimo was not sad, because at a dance party not long after, he met Lu Xiaoman.
Lu Xiaoman is not the kind of beauty that can make people fall in love at first sight, but her smile and every move are unique. On weekdays, Lu Xiaoman only wears light makeup and steps on a pair of flat shoes, which is very casual and casual, but at night, in the drunken dance floor of the lights and shadows, she seems to have completely changed her personality, with a graceful figure and a graceful posture, which attracts men to be confused. Xu Zhimo once wrote the next poem about her:
"A pair of eyes can talk, and the secret of the fountain of the heart rises in the clear light."
Lu Xiaoman has been living in Beijing since his marriage to Wang Geng, a military attaché of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs. In 1923, Xu Zhimo opened a club at No. 7 Pine Hutong in Beijing, named "Crescent Moon Society", and Lu Xiaoman often went to see Xu Zhimo on the pretext of studying poetry. Wang Geng was a good friend of Xu Zhimo, and he knew that his wife liked poetry, so he often invited Xu to come to the house as a guest, and several people often watched plays and danced together, and sometimes went out on outings together.
Wang Geng was born in the military and was a proud man, and in his world, "friends and wives should not be deceived" is an indisputable truth. But he forgot that Lu Xiaoman was a socialite in Greater Shanghai, and Xu Zhimo was a well-known talented man who had long admired each other. Moreover, Xu Zhimo is a person who is not bound to worldly common sense and is free of imagination, and Lu Xiaoman is also a sexy thing that has been wandering among men for many years, although they have not crossed the thunder pool for the time being, they have already planted the seeds of love.
Although the two of them were itchy, after all, Wang Geng was still there, and they always had to avoid suspicion. However, the opportunity came, and soon Wang Geng was appointed as the chief of the Harbin police and was going to go to the north to take up his post. It was supposed that Wang Geng should take his wife with him, but Lu Xiaoman insisted on not going, saying that the north was too cold and his body was weak and easy to get sick. Wang Geng was very fond of his wife, so she stayed in Shanghai, and before leaving, she specially asked Xu Zhimo to take good care of Lu Xiaoman. It can be seen that Wang Geng really regards Xu Zhimo as a confidant and friend, and has the friendship of "entrusting his wife and sacrificing his son", but it is a pity that Xu is not the person who repays Li with peach.
As soon as Wang Geng's "light bulb" left, Xu Lu and the two no longer had any scruples, and a couple of men and women who admired each other themselves went in and out of pairs every day, chanting about the wind and moon, and soon fell in love. At this time, for the two of them, what etiquette, morality, and ethics are not paid attention to, but just enjoy the pleasure brought by indulgence.
After the passion, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman's history of affair spread rapidly, making the city full of wind and rain. Many people accused Xu Zhimo of abandoning his wife, betraying his friends, and committing adultery with "human wives" and moral corruption. Xu was overwhelmed, and he also felt ashamed of Wang Geng and chose to run. From March 1925, Xu traveled to various European countries to avoid the limelight. However, soon after, because of the premature death of Xu's younger son, coupled with the telegram of Lu Xiaoman's serious illness, Xu Zhimo had to interrupt his trip and return to China.
One day after returning to China, Xu Zhimo asked his friends Hu Shi and Liu Haisu to talk to the Crescent Moon Club he founded. Liu Haisu was Lu Xiaoman's compatriot, and Xu Zhimo opened his heart to Liu after a few glasses of wine and said:
"I really like Xiao Man, and Xiao Man also has the idea of divorce, but Wang Geng does not agree. At first, I also felt that I couldn't be sorry for Wang Geng, so I hid abroad, but the longer I separated from Xiao Man, the deeper my thoughts became, and I couldn't leave her, and I must be with her. Now I am in a lot of pain, and Little Man is also very sad, and I have a serious illness because of it. You are Xiao Man's fellow countryman, can you help me think of a way. ”
I have to say that "things are clustered by categories, and people are divided by groups", Liu Haisu's brain circuit is equally strange. Instead of denouncing Xu Lu's "stealing behavior", he expressed deep sympathy, and also took the matter of persuading Wang Geng and Lu Xiaoman to divorce himself.
Liu Haisu first found Lu Xiaoman's mother, played the "hometown" family card, and asked her to bring Lu Xiaoman and Wang Geng and others to Shanghai to play. Three days later, when everyone gathered, Liu Haisu set up a banquet in the "Gongdelin" and was attended by Lu Mu, Wang Geng, Lu Xiaoman, Xu Zhimo, and others. Liu talked at the table, all kinds of crooked theories emerged in an endless stream, and the overall conveyed a meaning: marriage without love is immoral, letting go is the embodiment of love, and divorced can also be friends.
I don't know if this meal Wang Geng and Xu Zhimo, the "love enemy", can eat it, it is estimated that it is enough to give Wang Geng a disgusting choking, and choose to leave the table halfway. Afterwards, Xu Zhimo wrote a long letter to Wang Geng with "sincerity and sincerity", coupled with Lu Xiaoman's resolute divorce attitude that completely chilled his heart, Wang Geng finally compromised and agreed to divorce.
Xu Zhimo's father, Xu Shenru, was himself very disgusted with the divorce of his son and daughter-in-law, and he was even more angry when he heard that Xu Zhimo actually wanted to marry Lu Xiaoman. Zhang Youyi is the daughter-in-law of the old couple who is very favorite, virtuous and virtuous, and can't fault anything. Xu Zhimo's abandonment of his wife is, in their view, a rebellious act of "disloyalty and filial piety". Therefore, after the divorce, Zhang Youyi still stayed with the old couple. Old Master Xu believes that Lu Xiaoman is not a person who lives a life, so he resolutely opposes this family affair.
After repeated enlightenment by friends, under xu Zhimo's repeated pleading, Xu Shenru finally compromised, but he also put forward three conditions:
First, the cost of the wedding is self-financing, and the hometown does not give.
Second, after marriage, Lu Xiaoman must return to the countryside of Shimen in Tongxiang, Zhejiang Province, and live in peace and keep to himself.
Third, Liang Qichao must be invited to the scene to witness the marriage of the two people.
On October 3, 1926, in Beijing's Beihai Park, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman held a grand wedding. Liang Qichao really came to witness the marriage of the two, but this testimony was only afraid that "there was no ancient person before, and it is difficult to have a comer after". Liang said:
"I have come to let the society understand that such evil examples as yours are not enough to emulate, let alone be encouraged." Xu Zhimo, you can't do learning, you are more failed, divorce and remarry, proving that you are not dedicated! Lu Xiaoman, you are also a married person, I hope that you will abide by the way of women in the future, review your own behavior, do not make mistakes again and again, and ultimately harm others and harm yourself! Anyway, I hope this is the last marriage of the two of you in your lifetime. ”
Liang Qichao was worthy of being the leader of the Penghu Reform Law, and the words he spoke were deafening and deafening, and the words were thousands of words, and Xu Lu and Xu Lu were red in the face, and all the guests present were shocked. Those who knew that he had come to witness the marriage, those who did not know thought that he had come specifically to smash the field.
Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman spent a sweet time in Shanghai after marriage, after all, the two have the same hobbies and the same uninhibited personality. It's just that Lu Xiaoman is used to the extravagant life of Mrs. Guan, and he has become addicted to smoking, and the cost is quite large. In order to provide his wife with a "gentle love nest", Xu Zhimo rented a whole floor in a famous lane in Shanghai, and also hired a maid to take care of Lu Xiaoman's diet and living, and there were special car transfers in and out.
Xu Zhimo was not a dignitary, and his savings were quickly hollowed out, and in order to beat Lu Xiaoman's smile, he had to desperately make money to supplement his family. During that time, he taught at three schools at the same time, and in his spare time, he had to write poems and inscriptions to earn some extra money, and he always returned home late every day. But Lu Xiaoman did not care, in her world, men should earn money to support their families, and women should be responsible for being beautiful.
When all the romance and beauty were drowned out by blandness and triviality, Xu Zhimo began to regret it again, he did not understand that he did not hesitate to turn his face with his father and make enemies of the world, was it for this woman to live this life? He began to think of Lin Huiyin again, and even felt that Zhang Youyi was much more cute than Lu Xiaoman, at least with her, he would not work so hard.
Every time at this time, Liang Qichao's "marriage testimony" would jump out of his mind and wake up Xu Zhimo, warning him not to toss anymore, not to act absurdly again, otherwise what face would stand between heaven and earth. Xu Zhimo could only sigh lightly and continue to be Lu Xiaoman's "cash machine", what wind and snow, poet feelings, and he no longer had anything to do with him. The former great poet of the Crescent Society, Xu Zhimo, was "dead".
In the winter of 1931, when he heard that Lin Huiyin was going to return to Beijing to give a lecture, Xu Zhimo's heart was flooded again. Although Lin Huiyin was already married to Liang Sicheng at this time, for Xu Zhimo, Lin Huiyin was always the green appearance when he first met him. Therefore, he decided to secretly go to Beijing to meet Lin without landing Xiaoman. In order to save some money, he chose to take a postal plane, but unexpectedly encountered an air crash in the middle of the road and unfortunately died.
Lu Xiaoman received the bad news of her husband's death, heartbroken, embarrassed, already sick body is even weaker, bedridden, and even Xu Zhimo's memorial service can not participate. At this time, there were more rumors in society, and they accused Lu Xiaomankoff one after another. Some people also say that it was because the two of them were unfaithful to their original partners and committed adultery during marriage that they suffered this retribution.
Although Lu seems to be a thin and light woman who covets enjoyment, she has been "rich" since she was a child, and she is still tolerant and generous in her bones. In the face of all kinds of unfavorable voices, she chose to turn a blind eye and listen to it, and did not respond tit-for-tat. Lu believes that her love for Xu Zhimo is from the heart, unquestionable, and absolutely incomprehensible to outsiders, and it is useless to say more.
As soon as Xu Zhimo died, Lu Xiaoman completely cut off his financial resources and could only move out of the house rented by the two. It is reasonable to say that she should return to Xu's parents, because according to Xu Zhimo's father Xu Shenru's original request, Lu Xiaoman should live with them after marriage. However, Lu coveted enjoyment and never made the trip. Xu Shenru saw that his son was running east and west all day in order to make a living, and now that he was sending black haired people with white hair, how could he not anger Lu Xiaoman. Besides, the second elder still has Zhang Youyi to take care of, and it is not appropriate for Lu Xiaoman to come.
But no matter what, you can't let your daughter-in-law care, the old man thought about it again and again, and finally decided to remit 300 yuan to Lu Xiaoman's account every month, so as to avoid the embarrassment of meeting, but also not to be uneasy.
Xu Shenru died in 1944, and he supported Lu Xiaoman for 13 years. After the death of the old man, Zhang Youyi continued to send money to Lu Xiaoman's account on time and monthly according to the old man's will, and insisted on another 5 years, a total of 18 years.
However, 300 yuan per month is just a drop in the bucket for Lu Xiaoman, who spends a lot of money, and she must find another "dependence". At this time, Weng Rui appeared at noon.
Weng Rui noon
Weng Ruiwu is a son of the family, but also an elegant person, good at calligraphy and music, but also massage treatment, Lu Xiaoman's health is not good during the time, Weng has been with her to treat him, but also tell jokes to relieve her boredom. Lu Xiaoman knew Weng's intentions for her, but he did not live with Weng until 7 years later, and he was about to make three chapters with Weng and never allow him to abandon his wife.
Lu Xiaoman is really a rare "strange woman" in modern times, she first cheated in marriage, divorced with the original partner and Xu Zhimo, and now she is willing to be the "little three" of the family, which can be described as no moral bottom line at all. Lu Xiaoman's thinking is not complicated, but it is particularly simple, because she has not been able to live independently, so whoever is good to her, she will go with whom.
However, Lu Xiaoman acted in this way, even Xu Zhimo's good friend Hu Shi could not see it, and he repeatedly suggested that Lu leave Weng Ruiwu and bear her life by himself, hoping that Lu could be self-reliant and self-reliant, and not always attach himself to a man's life.
These words touched Lu Xiaoman a lot, and she gradually changed her habit of smoking big cigarettes and learned to live a life of careful calculation. In addition, she is also very accomplished in painting, her paintings have a cold and lofty ancient rhyme, very popular in the market, you can sell paintings for a living.
In 1956, Lu Xiaoman was arranged by Mayor Chen Yi to become a librarian at the Shanghai Museum of Culture and History, and later became a painter at the Shanghai Academy of Painting. At this time, Weng Ruiwu suffered from severe lung disease and often coughed up blood and could not work. It was also from this beginning that Lu Xiaoman finally completed the gorgeous transformation of her life, she changed from a "taker" to a "giver", while working to make money, while taking care of Weng Ruiwu's life.
She used to be a colorful butterfly flying on the social field, and also served as a lazy sleepy cat on the smoke bed, and now she is no longer a pet for others to feed, she wants to use her light and heat to warm up the people around her, she is a painter - Lu Xiaoman.
On April 3, 1965, Lu Xiaoman died in Shanghai Huadong Hospital. Her friend Wang Yiling presented the only pair of elegies, telling the life of the beautiful person in one sentence:
"Push the heart is only sincere, the world has long left a legacy; how high the pen is, a lifetime and a half tired smoke clouds."