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There is a saying that life is a bit bullying soft and afraid of hard, we all have to work hard to become stronger, you become stronger, life will get better and better, you will become more and more excellent.
It is true that life is a road full of all kinds of difficulties and bumps, all the pain and suffering, need to bear it ourselves, we can only face all this calmly if we continue to become stronger.
However, getting stronger is not easy.
There is no innate strength in this world, only the self slowly becomes stronger.
And when a person begins to get stronger, you will find that his body often has these three qualities: not conforming to the crowd, not afraid of people's words, and not moving.
Not conform to the crowd
There is a phenomenon that where the head sheep goes, the sheep behind follow. This is the "herd effect" in psychology, also known as "herd mentality".
Herd mentality is everywhere in our lives, and we have seen such a passage:
One person stood on the side of the road and looked up at the sky, and when the other person saw it, he also looked up at the sky, and then there was a group of people who followed and looked toward the sky. Interestingly, the person who first looks at the sky just wants to sneeze.
It can be seen how terrible and pathetic conformity is.
It can make a person lose the ability to think and judge independently, have no opinion, and become a slave to the ideology.
If one follows others in everything one does, one loses oneself. As everyone knows, the more such a herd mentality, the more it will make a person feel lonely and helpless.
Not following the crowd is the beginning of a person becoming stronger.
Why is it that when a person becomes stronger, it often starts with "not following the crowd"?
Because those who do not conform to the crowd have long been separated from the flock, know how to be themselves, and obey their hearts in everything. They know better what they want and how to do it.
As Salinger said, you must recognize which direction you want to go, and then set out in that direction, and don't waste unnecessary time blindly following the crowd.
We are all ordinary people in the multitude, and we are very afraid of being isolated by the group, so we often choose to follow the crowd.
But later you will find that the more people who do not conform to the crowd, the more powerful they are.
Because only by not following the crowd can we be more outstanding.
Don't be afraid of people's words
Mr. Yang Dai once said: "We were so looking forward to the recognition of the outside world, and in the end we found that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others." ”
In a job search program "We First Entered the Workplace", 22-year-old Meng Yutong became a "lucky person", was favored by Ms. Dong Mingzhu, successfully joined Gree Company, served as a secretary, and was often taken by Dong Mingzhu.
In addition, Ms. Dong Mingzhu has publicly stated that she will train her to become the "second Dong Mingzhu". As soon as this remark came out, Meng Yutong won the attention of the majority of netizens, but her evaluation was mixed.
For the sudden popularity, Meng Yutong also responded quickly. She said she was also terrified, using the word "lucky" to describe her chances of getting the job.
But after really understanding her, you will find that a strong person does not need to be defined by others, nor does he need to determine his own value through the praise or depreciation of others.
In fact, in the show, Dong Mingzhu once said that the reason why she values Meng Yutong is because she has a kind of decision to insist on herself, and she only wants to do things wholeheartedly and does not care what others think.
When a person becomes stronger, he will not care about the eyes of others, because he understands that those things will only hinder his own progress. He has a strong heart and independent thinking. Therefore, he will not be influenced by mainstream ideas, nor will he be easily paced by others.
As the Taoists say, to be quiet is essentially to cultivate one's own mind to have concentration and not to be afraid of other people's words.
Quietly
Someone said, "It is always those who are favored by God who work hard quietly." ”
They did not bluff, they did not shout bitterly, like a tuft of grass that had grown hard in the corner of a pile of rubble, standing proudly in the small world.
"If it doesn't sound, it's already a hit", which has become synonymous with them.
Deeply.
On the road to becoming stronger, a person often quietly rises to the top, and then surprises everyone.
There was a news that broke the circle of friends: there was a 61-year-old Aunt Wan in Wuhan, who studied 3-5 online courses a day during the epidemic, and in just over a month, she completed more than 160 courses.
In the interview, Aunt Wan said that even though she is 61 years old, she is not willing to live a comfortable life, she hopes to live to learn from old age, she wants to continue to strengthen herself through learning, so that her later life is more abundant.
The real strong are always silent.
They know the truth of thick accumulation, quietly working hard in the corners that others can't see, brewing in a long wait that can't see hope.
As the saying goes, the cicadas chirp for a summer, but they dormant for several seasons; they are short-lived, but they wait for the whole day.
And all the quiet growth will make you stronger and stronger.
In this world, no one is born strong, and all that is strong is only the result of overcoming the ego.
Strengthening ourselves is our lifelong practice and our lifelong mission.
May we all be able to do not follow the crowd on the road to becoming stronger, truly be ourselves, not afraid of people's words, constantly strengthen our hearts, do not move, silently strive to amaze everyone, and finally become a strong person in life.