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Psychologists believe that 80% of the troubles in life actually come from interpersonal relationships. Good interpersonal relationships can make us feel more love and happiness, while bad interpersonal relationships will only continue to consume us, making us become a person who is less and less liked and negative energy.
There is a saying that birds choose good trees to inhabit, and people choose good friends to make friends.
The good friend referred to here not only refers to the other party's good conduct, but also requires him to treat others sincerely and compare hearts with us. Otherwise, even if the conditions are good and the emotional intelligence is high, it is not worth paying sincerity.
There are two kinds of people in life, who look good with you on the surface, but in fact, they are kind and dark, and there is really no need to continue to communicate.
One: Face to face a set of villains behind the set
In the address book of every workplace person, there will be such a few people, who are not in agreement with your personality, nor are they close friends, but they always lie in your address book.
These are the so-called connections, all of which say that people in the workplace are involuntary, never based on personal preferences to make friends, but to see whether they can cooperate with each other, mutual benefit and reciprocity.
Everyone in the workplace has experienced an insincere social dinner.
On the wine table, he staggered cups and cups, said insincere words, seemingly affectionate commercial blows, and praised with conscience. Such a social gathering is simply more tiring than a day's meeting, and the most tiring thing is the overdraft of mental strength. This kind of socialization is the most internal consumption.
But there is no way, no adult world can do as they please, everyone is wearing different masks, seeking survival and development in the strange world. After a long time, I forgot what my original expression under the mask was.
Now it is different, people live to a certain age, always know how to live for themselves, enjoy their own life, so these connections, there is no need to stay in our world, occupy our energy.
Gibran said, don't go too far and forget the direction you came from.
Work is to make our lives better, and now it's finally time to come back to life, and those who can't help it, ask them to leave your life.
After all, this kind of face-to-face set of villains behind one set of backs, only brings you harm.
Two: A kind face and a dark heart will only use your snobbish eyes
There is an unwritten social etiquette in the workplace, that is, not to be friends with colleagues. In places where private feelings are involved, they are often tied.
If you are just a rookie in the workplace, there will not be too many workplace interpersonal problems, because no one will spend energy to manage the relationship with rookie. But if you are already the management of the company, then there will be a group of "enthusiastic" colleagues around, which is annoying.
They will like every piece of your circle of friends, they will praise every action of yours, and they are more enthusiastic than you in your private affairs, which is really embarrassing.
But in fact, they are just using you, and they don't have any sincerity at all.
There was once a hot topic that rushed to a high position in the workplace community: should I keep the contact information of my former colleagues after leaving?
Many people feel that they should keep the contact information of their former colleagues, and they feel that this is their own network. There are also some people who feel that since they left the former company, they should be completely broken.
For people in the workplace, multiple friends and multiple roads, keeping the contact information of former colleagues is not impossible, after all, you don't know when you may cooperate again, and it will be very embarrassing to re-add WeChat and the like.
But for people who are approaching middle age, the way things are handled and thoughts should be different.
There are different stages of life, as a professional working hard, life and family, including personal feelings, need to make way for the career. Live to a certain age, enter a new stage of life, this time is to return to the family, enjoy life, then the focus should naturally be on themselves, rather than going to the cause and wronging themselves.
Accept it, you know that some people are only doing superficial work, these enthusiasm is not for you, but for your position; refuse, Chinese pay attention to peace, reach out and do not hit the smiley face, no matter what the intention of the departure, is to show you kindness.
Whether it is a villain who faces a set of backs, or only uses your snobbish eyes, there is no benefit to you, only endless consumption. Only by knowing how to draw boundaries in time can you make your mood better.
There's no need to waste time and energy on these guys, it's really not worth it.
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