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Interpersonal relationships are a huge net, involving many people, a little careless, will fall into the abyss, it is difficult to turn over.
After all, people need to communicate, no one is a loner, it is impossible to completely curl up in the corner, do not socialize with anyone, people are social animals, need to establish diplomatic relations with people, need to talk about their hearts through conversation, and meet their inner emotional needs.
Some relationships are not what we can choose, parents, relatives, colleagues, everyone in the fate of the shackles, each other has a specific relationship, we can not decide what kind of family to be born in, and what kind of people to become relatives, and what kind of people to be colleagues, these are the fate of the involvement, no one can change.
Some relationships can't tear their faces, everyone is wearing masks and pretending, on the surface they are harmonious, but in fact, they have their own selfish hearts, and no one knows what kind of hypocrisy and insidiousness are hidden behind some good-looking faces.
All we can do is maintain a certain vigilance, keep a certain distance from them, do not have deep intercourse, in the established social rules, do not tear the face, but also do not go too close.
Some people can dig out their hearts and lungs, and some relationships are only suitable for shallow taste, do not establish deep connections, otherwise it is easy to suffer big losses.
When encountering the following three kinds of people, be careful not to get too close.
Snobby-eyed relatives
In life, we inevitably encounter some snobbish people, they are very good at flattery, and people's interactions often depend on each other's economic situation, according to the economic income to decide to be estranged from each other's relatives.
When you are embarrassed, they are not even willing to look at you more, if you fly yellow one day, you will immediately change your face, suddenly change the direction of the wind, extremely flattered.
There will also be such a situation among relatives, they often look at people with colored glasses, obviously they are relatives, completely two faces, for those profitable rich relatives, they are often very willing to deal with each other, walking around will be very frequent, and for those poor relatives, afraid that the other party will contaminate themselves, treat them as strangers, except for the necessary intersection, they do not move around at all on weekdays.
Honestly speaking, I have seen a lot of people with cold relatives, in addition to some polite walking around during the New Year's Festival, they are complete strangers who do not know each other on weekdays, they are not like this to all relatives, and the attitude towards relatives is linked to money, you only see these people's alienation from you, but you do not see their courtesy to rich relatives.
In the final analysis, the relationship between people is linked to profit, even relatives are no exception, many people are playing their own calculations, calculating whether they can get certain benefits in you, and treating relatives who may bring convenience to themselves will show a very enthusiastic state. On the contrary, to treat relatives who do not bring benefits to themselves, or even may even cause trouble for themselves, is to stay as far away as possible.
Treat these snobbish relatives, don't get too close, in their minds, only interests, no relatives, do not regard you as their own people at all, only think of what you get here, once you are not as they want, you will immediately change your face, very ugly.
A colleague with a general relationship
Get along with colleagues, be sure to have a long snack, do not make shallow remarks, and do not get too close to some people.
Of course, you can't treat the relationship between colleagues, you can't beat them to death, and there will be sincere friendship between colleagues, but those who give you a trip behind your back are not in the minority.
It is not easy to meet some people who are sincerely good to you in the workplace, we must grasp it well, treat those colleagues who have a general relationship, as long as we maintain ordinary working relationships, there is no need to have an intersection other than work.
I remember when I first graduated, I was still very naïve, defenseless, and I still maintained a relatively simple mentality towards getting along with colleagues, thinking that as long as I was honest with others, I would definitely get the same treatment from the other party, but it was a pity that I was eventually betrayed by some people, and finally realized that some colleagues were people who played tricks on you.
Some colleagues tell you about their privacy, turn around and spread it around like a joke, some colleagues, you just slightly complain about too much work, overtime too frequently, pretend to intentionally or unintentionally tell the leader, some colleagues on the surface look very kind to you, once they encounter a conflict of interest, they will step on you to achieve their own goals.
The most taboo thing in the workplace is to treat colleagues with ordinary relationships as friends, and in the end reality will always teach you a long lesson. You only need to maintain a close relationship with those colleagues who are sincere, colleagues with average relationships, and less private contact, otherwise one day you will use your kindness and turn it into a weapon to hurt you.
Friends who frequently take advantage of you
The relationship between people is to exchange sincerity for sincerity, and two people need to pay each other and consider each other in order to maintain a long-term relationship.
Whether it is a lover or a friend, you need to grasp such a principle of getting along, there are contacts, and joint efforts, such a relationship is worth maintaining, and such a person is also worthy of your sincere treatment.
Once in a friendship, there is a "take advantage" mentality, then the relationship has been cracked, no matter how hard you maintain, in the eyes of the other party, you are just a fool who can be used at any time.
There are always some people who like to use their minds on the people close to you, you regard him as a friend, but he uses you as a pedal to achieve his own goals, and he may push you out anytime and anywhere, and they are always calculating to you, thinking about whether they can achieve some convenience for themselves in you.
The expenses of daily dating, always trying to escape the order, calculating to take advantage of you in money, in some dinner occasions, treating you as a green leaf to set off the atmosphere, they only want to get benefits from you, never paid anything for you.
When you need help, find all kinds of excuses to shirk, when you need to be in a state of treating you as a close friend, in the name of friends to carry out moral kidnapping on you, do not get too close to such people, even if you are alone, you must be discerned.
Dealing with friends who like to take advantage, you never know when she will betray you, what kind of ideas she has in you, you need to be on the lookout at all times, too tired, it is wise to break off relations in time.
People need to establish diplomatic relations, a person is always too lonely, we all need to get along with others, so that emotions can be pinned, let ourselves get rid of loneliness.
But don't be hungry because you are afraid of loneliness, you still have to distinguish the people around you, face some people who are not worthy, really don't waste time and waste feelings.
These three kinds of people can be as far away as they can be, because they may hurt you at any time.
We don't play tricks on people, but it doesn't mean that we let others bully, and cutting off contact with them is to show our attitude.