No matter how boring, don't go to the homes of these people, there is no point

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People are born as social animals, all need to socialize with people, a person who stays for a long time will feel bored, can't help but want to participate in some lively occasions.

Visiting relatives and friends is a normal thing, whether it is during the New Year, or in daily life, there will be some daily communication and interaction, when the relationship between each other is close, they will visit each other, so that the friendship between the two sides can be sublimated.

For intimate friends, relatives, visiting the door such behavior can increase each other's feelings, both sides step into each other's family, can understand each other more deeply, understand each other's family, enjoy the rare warmth, there will be no excess emotions breeding.

For some relationships, visiting the door is not only not conducive to the integration of the relationship, but even derives jealous feelings, and there may also be some gossip. For example, colleagues, neighbors, or acquaintances under some specific circumstances, and there is no deep affection between each other, under such a relationship, it may not be wise to visit each other's homes.

Getting along with people, we must pay attention to the boundaries and measures of exchanges, and make corresponding communication scales according to each other's relationships, which is a topic that we all have to learn.

No matter how boring you are, don't go to the homes of these three kinds of people, it is a kind of harassment to others, it is a kind of consumption for yourself, and it is meaningless.

Don't go to the homes of well-connected colleagues

Colleagues, the most familiar strangers, is the fate of a specific environment, in the small space of the unit, you will inevitably have some interactions, but many people's communication is only limited to work, once out of the working environment, you are just strangers.

The relationship between many colleagues is actually very shallow, although every day they look up and do not look down, in fact, they only maintain the courtesy that adults should have, meet and greet, and occasionally have some communication, but it is not enough to become a relationship that is still contacted after work.

After work, they go back to their respective homes, do not contact each other, each other has their own circle, leaving the work environment without disturbing each other.

The company will also organize some team building, colleagues will have dinner activities, hindered by the leader's affection, embarrassed to refuse, greet each other politely, once you leave the small group, there is little private communication.

Of course, there will also be some colleagues who have become very good friends, who will go shopping together on weekdays and visit each other's homes, so that under such a relationship, you don't have to have too many scruples between you, you can come and go at will.

But if your relationship is limited to ordinary colleagues, don't easily visit each other's homes. Because the home is a relatively private space, many people do not want others to set foot on it.

Even if someone else is coaxing, you have to have some self-knowledge, and you may not be in the same line he wants to invite. Your sudden addition will only make you cramped, and it will also make the other party dissatisfied, or you have to be a little measured.

According to your relationship, to get along just right, do not cross the line, this is the measure that every adult should have.

Don't visit relatives with very different family conditions

There are many relationships that we have not chosen ourselves, but have to be maintained under the intertwining of fate. For example, relatives are predestined by Providence, we have no choice at all, from birth to decide.

Many relatives are not all passers-by, but they are connected together, and there is no way to completely break the connection, but it is also difficult to communicate, so it is enough to maintain basic courtesy.

In addition to having to visit during the New Year, you don't have to interact in depth on weekdays and live your own little life.

In fact, it is difficult for relatives with great family conditions to be truly intimate, you are not a person of the world at all, and frequent contact will only breed jealousy and showing off.

Seeing that others are better than you, you will be jealous, and at the same time, there will be some relatives who like to show off their peers, and they are showing their wealth and contempt for you.

And those relatives who do not have a good life with you may try to get benefits from you, take the opportunity to show their own constraints, and want to seek some kind of convenience from you.

Don't go to the homes of relatives with disparities in family conditions, since it is not along the way, there is no need to pretend to be intimate, to show intimacy, but behind the scenes is full of showing off and jealousy, such a relationship is unnecessary.

Don't go to the homes of "friends" who don't really treat you

We will find that those who do not see you well are often the closest people around us, and some so-called "friends" are like this.

There are some people who pretend to have a good relationship with you on the surface, but in fact they don't regard you as a true friend at all.

You tell them some secrets, they may just listen to it as a joke, you complain to them about the bad work, the marriage is not satisfactory, they may secretly laugh in their hearts, they don't want you to be good at all.

Some people may be lonely and lonely, and there is no one who can really communicate, so they know that some people are not worth interacting with at all, but they still maintain basic interactions, and feel that it is good to have personal company.

In fact, such a relationship, in the final analysis, is only a kind of consumption of you, a set of superficial, behind the scenes of ulterior motives, such a relationship is not tired to get along with?

Don't really treat your friends, there is no need to get along, maybe one day it will hurt you. Prefer to be lonely, not casual, choose friends and lovers are the same, don't settle, don't make it up.

Don't go to the house of a hypocritical friend, he may not welcome you, and your arrival will only annoy him.

To be a person, we must have a measure and scale, we must identify and divide the people around us, and make corresponding interactions according to each other's relationship.

Sincere friends, you can come and go at will, do not have to be careful, visit each other's homes, it is conducive to your relationship become more intimate.

But if you have a normal relationship, such an act of visiting the door will only constitute a nuisance to others.

In the face of the above three kinds of people, we must pay attention to a point, colleagues to maintain a nod of friendship, relatives can walk around during the New Year, not a sincere friend, should break off friendship, do not make friends because of loneliness.

Don't choose friends because you're lonely, don't make some annoying moves because you're bored, be a little self-aware.