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There's a saying that goes, "It's hard to reconcile." ”
No matter how good the chef is, you can't satisfy all the customers. For example, guests from the north don't like southern cuisine; guests from Sichuan like peppers and don't like beets.
In the workplace, people will encounter all kinds of colleagues, which is not something you can influence. Therefore, it is not surprising at all to meet people you don't like.
According to the principle of "things are clustered and people are grouped", we will naturally approach the people we like and alienate those who don't like them. However, the workplace is no better than society, and which colleagues to deal with specifically have to obey the arrangement, not by your nature.
In order to work, you have to bow your head, meet people you don't like, don't reject, and learn to accept.
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First, treat each other with courtesy and do not reveal your "disgust" feelings.
Montesquieu said, "Politeness pleases the polite and delights those who are treated with courtesy." ”
Treating people with courtesy is not a matter of spending a penny, but it can close the distance between people, at least it will not make the other party very disgusted, so there is a gap.
In the workplace, many contradictions are not caused by the fact that the work is very tricky and compete with each other, but that they are usually accustomed to cold words and resentment.
During the Warring States period, xie zi, a scholar of the Mo family, came thousands of miles to the Qin kingdom to meet King Hui of Qin.
King Hui of Qin gave him a look on his face. So, Xie Zi left.
Previously, King Hui of Qin and Tang Guguo of the Mo family had talked about Xie Zi. Tang Guguo was jealous of Xie Zi's talent, so he said that Xie Zi was a talkative person with a sinister heart, and the person who really wanted to tie the knot was not the King of Qin, but the prince.
Because of the one-sided words, it led to the mistake of Qin Huiwang's understanding of people.
The politician Lü Buwei commented on this matter: "Instead of being sorry for the good, but in vain, taking less of the Lord as a contradiction, the king of Hui is lost and listens." ”
If a person does not look at people with good intentions, he will close his eyes, wisdom, and ears, and his body will age and lose judgment.
In the workplace, if we don't have etiquette and hate others, then the other party will also hate you and lose etiquette. This is the result of the spread of evil thoughts in one unit.
Getting along with people is actually the practice of "taking people as mirrors". When you see a nasty face, you actually see your own face.
Insisting on treating people with courtesy, there will be opportunities to reconcile with each other in the future, at least leaving a way out for yourself; it is also a professional quality.
Politeness, like a sponge, is able to absorb the moisture around it; a smile is like a spring breeze, reflecting its own pattern.
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Second, look at people's strengths and find ways to cover up the "shortcomings" of others.
As the saying goes, "The ruler is short, the inch is long." ”
People you don't like, but are liked by other people; people who don't need them in this unit get mixed up in another unit. Why is this? It is not that others have great abilities, but that they have encountered "Bo Le".
Maxima also has nasty places. For example, the very old Maxima is no longer what it used to be, and it will be breathless after taking a few steps.
Look at people according to the actual situation, and identify people with "dynamic eyes", you will find the benefits of others, and leave a way out for your own social interaction.
In the "Spring and Autumn of the Lü Dynasty", it is recorded that the Duke of Qi Huan, the head of the Spring and Autumn Five Hegemons, invited the ministers Guan Zhong, Uncle Bao, and Ning Qi to drink. When he was having fun, Uncle Bao stood up and said, "Huan Gong should not forget the days when he was exiled; Guan Zhong should not forget to be imprisoned in the country of Lu; Ning Qi should not forget the life of herding cattle." ”
Qi Huangong said, "Because of this, the State of Qi will not perish." ”
Before the State of Qi became hegemonic, Duke Huan of Qi was exiled and had no status status, and later returned to China to inherit the position of king, but was blocked by Guan Zhong on the way, and was injured by archery; Ning Qi sang sad songs, drove cattle, and came from Weiguo to Qi, and the days were miserable.
Speaking of which, who does not have unspeakable grievances, how can there be no festival between people? But everyone gathered together, it is a team, to share the weal and woe, not to blame the past.
If you don't like this colleague and hate that colleague, who else can you work with? When you have difficulties, who will help you? I'm afraid that everything about you, others will treat you coldly.
After discovering the strengths of others, you will not hate others, and the "likes" you give seem to be precious.
It is best to laugh at the past of life.
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Third, regulate emotions and treat the workplace calmly.
At work, we often encounter such things: doing something in a big way, the more uncomfortable it is, and when we throw up our hands, the work is messed up.
Let's say you want to make a data sheet, work on the computer for half a day, because you are angry, as soon as you lose the keyboard, the computer will go black. Everything has to be done all over again.
To see that others are not pleasing to the eye is to embarrass yourself. Your emotions, others will not understand, just look at jokes.
You have to be clear: whoever enters the workplace is not for fun, but to make money and support the family. The open struggle and the secret struggle exist objectively, but the overall goal is the same.
You put a lot of energy into people you don't like, you have less time to care about yourself, and less time to work happily. This is putting the cart before the horse.
Napoleon said: "A man who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can take down a city." ”
To do management in the workplace, the most important thing is to manage people. Yourself, in the scope of being managed, don't live yourself into a different kind.
In other words, you have emotions and have nothing to do with who you like. This is just your own internal friction.
It is not easy for everyone to make money, and it is more practical to take a handle than to glance at it.
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The smaller a person's mind, the more things that are broken.
Many people think that when they meet someone they don't like, it's good to keep their distance. However, how can a person in a unit keep his distance when he looks down and does not look up?
After all, many jobs require the cooperation of several people and will also involve all aspects.
Instead of sticking to your own opinion, it is better to restrain your own ideas and listen to everyone's advice. If you can use the strengths of people and gather the wisdom of the crowd, you are a really high person.
Meeting a lot of people you don't like shows that you are not good enough, nothing more.
From now on, relax and accommodate anyone.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.