There are unlimited benefits in being close to friends, and behind all success is beneficial to friends to help.

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The sixth chapter of the Disciple Rules is called "Kinren", and it tells us very clearly about the importance of making friends carefully, and it tells us what kind of friends to make.

"It's infinitely good to be kind." De day by day, less by day. "It is wonderful to be close to and learn from people of good character, because it will make our virtues better and better day by day, and our faults will gradually decrease." Isn't that exactly what we expect?

"No kindness, infinite harm." Villains enter, Pepsi is bad. "If we refuse to get close to the benevolent gentleman, there will be endless disasters, because the bad guys and villains will take advantage of the void and come close to us, and over time, our words and deeds will be seriously affected, resulting in the failure of the whole life."

Why choose good friends to associate?

For a person to have achievements, there are two prerequisites that are important, one is a good teacher and the other is a good friend. Good teachers help us to show us the way and teach us knowledge; good friends can promote each other, remind each other, help each other and cooperate, the so-called "going out to rely on friends". The ancients said, "The parents of those who give birth to me, the friends of those who become me, the relatives and good friends, like the mist and dew in the middle, although they do not wet their clothes, they are moist from time to time." "If a person wants to achieve something, it is often friends who help each other in many ways. Being close to a friend is like walking alone in a faint cloud, although the fog does not immediately wet your clothes, but in fact, these dews moisturize your clothes all the time. This metaphor for the verbal behavior of friends has a subtle effect on our lives.

Friends play a very important role in the course of our lives. Sometimes we are wronged, there are setbacks, and often the first person we want to pour out is not our parents, nor our elders, but often relatively close and relatively good friends. Good friend, he preaches faith, will really help us, in times of crisis, he will stand up for us in time, let us have something to rely on. Before the child is six years old, who has the greatest influence on him? Parents, you see children will say "my father said, my mother said"; after going to elementary school, I began to change my mouth, "my teacher said"; after going to junior high school, what would you say? "My friend said, my classmate said." The influence of friends becomes more and more important with age, and people who have embarked on society basically do not interact so much with their parents, and it is often friends who influence him. Therefore, the influence of good friends on a person is too great.

Being close to our friends will surely give us a lot of benefits, what benefits? "Virtue advances day by day, less by day", our moral learning is progressing day by day, our wisdom is growing day by day, and our faults are decreasing more and more. What will life do with wisdom? Choice. The most important thing in life is not to struggle, but to choose. Under the right choice, life is easier and easier; the next wrong choice, life is getting heavier and heavier. Therefore, there are unlimited benefits in being close to friends, and behind all success is beneficial to friends.

What's the harm in not being close to a friend?

What's the harm? "The villain enters, Pepsi is bad". What is a villain? It is the one who has no ambitions, is selfish, and pursues fame, desire, and enjoyment for himself. Small is because his heart is small, and his heart is only himself, so he is a villain. What is an adult? Adults are big-minded, have others in their hearts, forget themselves, and have the world in their hearts, which is benevolent. If we do not get close to the benevolent, we become more and more distant from the benevolent, we must be close to the villain, and finally we ourselves unconsciously become the villain.

As the saying goes, "Those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black." "It's better not to read all year round than to get close to a villain every day." The so-called "into the room of Zhilan, long time without smelling its fragrance; into the abalone wanton, long time without smelling its smell", you are in contact with the benevolent every day, invisibly the virtue is improved, you do not feel, but others feel very deep; you are in contact with the villain every day, invisibly degenerate, you can't feel it, but others feel very deeply. "Zhu Zi Zhijia Maxim" also said: "There are few evils, and they will be affected for a long time", if you are surrounded by friends who have lost friends, over time, you will be like them, and every day your words and behavior will become more and more vulgar. There are many temptations in this world that have always surrounded you, and if you are not careful and cannot hold on to them, you may fall and you do not know it. There is a proverb called "Only those who get rid of bad partners can talk about the future." "Among bad friends, if you want to be self-motivated and strive for a bright and promising future, you must get rid of the entanglement of bad friends."

Story: The Lesson of Qi Huangong

Qi Huangong was a famous politician in the Spring and Autumn Period, but in his later years he began to live a corrupt life and spoil bad people. He favors YiYa, Diao Diao and Kaifang. In order to let Duke Huan of Qi taste human flesh, Yi Ya did not hesitate to kill his own son; in order to get close to Duke Huan, Yi Diao took the initiative to castrate himself as a eunuch; in order to please Duke Huan, Kaifang did not go home to see his parents for fifteen years. Guan Zhong was very disgusted with them, and repeatedly said to Huan Gong: "People like them who kill their sons, castrate themselves, and turn their backs on their parents are unreliable. Qi Huangong couldn't listen. Later, Qi Huangong fell ill, and they were exposed in their original form, closed the palace door, and ignored the seriously ill Huan Gong, and eventually Huan Gong was starved to death.

Story: "The Friend Who Dragged You into the Water"

Three friends traveled to the sea together, and suddenly encountered a strong wind and wave, and the ship sank. Fortunately, the three people had virtue in their ancestors, did not die, and drifted to a desert island, where they depended on each other. Suddenly, a lamp was found on this beach, and they had read the Aladdin Lamp and wiped it. With this rubbing, the genie came out. He said, "Master, I will give you three wishes, but because you have three people, one for each of you." "The first one was because he was driving taxis, he said I drove every morning and late, it was very hard, my wish was to have several taxis to rent to others, and I would be the boss. The elf said, "One little thing." "He really just went back to being his taxi owner. The second one was an employee in the supermarket, with three shifts, sometimes in the middle of the night, so he said that it was also very hard when this, hoping to have a convenience store, and I was the boss and asked others to do it. The elf said, "One little thing." "He went back to being the boss." The third person thought about it for half a day, had no great ambitions in his life, only asked for sixty points, and did not think about what he wanted to do, so he had no desire, and let it go all day. He suddenly thought, "I don't have any wishes, but this desert island is not bad, but I am too lonely here alone, and I hope that the two of them will come back to accompany me." ”

Did you hear two wails? At the same time, have you ever thought, do we have any friends around us who will drag you into the water?

Those who are close to benevolence must be able to get a happy life, and they must have a successful career; those who are close to the villain must get a painful life, whether they are chagrin, they are failures, and finally they will fall. In fact, "benevolence" actually warns us to be close to a good environment that is conducive to our own healthy development, stay away from the bad environment, and not let our original good hearts be polluted by the external environment. There are many people in ancient and modern China and abroad who can be close and learn, and can become good teachers and friends.

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