From the overall situation, women seem to be more noisier than men, they can talk about the recent dynamics of their favorite stars from colleagues and friends around them, all the way to the recent dynamics of their favorite stars, and then transfer to their current love life, and finally may fall on the recent bizarre film and television dramas.
Although these things are not related, they can seamlessly connect them, and they can talk about it for a day, and they are tireless and unfinished.
In fact, liking to talk is not a bad thing, but such a person is very good at dispelling his emotions, and he will be less likely to be depressed than people who do not like to talk, and even stronger.
But liking to talk and being able to talk are two different things, and if a woman wants to be more and more blessed, she needs to learn to "shut up" at the right time.
1, do not understand the things do not say indiscriminately
Talking about gossip is something that many women like to do, in everyone's opinion, they have not done anything remarkable, nor have they hurt the parties of gossip, they are just discussing with others behind their backs, and there is nothing wrong.
But in fact, this so-called no-harm discussion can often be the beginning of harm, as in the case of those "Cyber Storms."
Everyone just expressed their opinions on some things, not malicious slander, but many things are not as simple as they seem.
Without understanding the truth of the facts, you must learn to shut up and judge things at will, which is the greatest kindness, because you have no idea what is hidden behind it, and whether what you see is a complete fact.
Outside the matter, anyone can be calm, in the middle of it, who can also be calm and calm? So please don't comment on anyone lightly because you're not among them.
2. Learn to listen
Often women who love to talk are more expressive, but everyone has the desire and need to express, especially when the mood is not good.
If at any time, everyone only pays attention to their own desire to express, says what they want, and does not care about the thoughts and feelings of others, then it will only leave a bad impression.
So in life, we must learn to listen, and at the right time, so that people in need can fully express their desires, which is a kind of kindness.
It turns out that sometimes listening is more important than expressing, just as when others are in a bad mood, you are still talking on the side, and the comforting words that you think are very touching, in fact, listening to others' ears are very disgusted and noisy, which will make them want to flee immediately.
At the moment, all they want is someone who can quietly listen to their own inner voice, know their grievances and dissatisfaction, and if you can learn to listen, then it is easier to enter the other person's heart.
A person with a wide network of contacts, often life is not too bad, if you also want to become such a person, want to have a lot of connections and friends, you must first learn to listen to start.
3. Spend more time to improve yourself
I have to say that many women in life spend their time chatting with others, and people who are not busy at work chat with colleagues in small groups when there is nothing to do.
People who have more spare time often go out shopping with their little sisters, drink coffee and chat about gossip, such a day seems to be no bad, and even many people are very yearning for it.
But if you fast-forward the time for a few years, you will find that after a few years you are still stuck in the class of that year, and even because you have not worked hard, you will gradually be eliminated by society, becoming the first batch of people to be laid off in the company, and it is difficult to find a better job again.
And the people who were on the same starting line as you a few years ago are now better than you, even if they have not achieved financial freedom, but at least they don't have to worry about life, and the salary they get is getting higher and higher.
The root cause of this difference is that when everyone spends a lot of time chatting and relieving boredom, others are silently working hard, thinking about how to make the business more refined and learn other skills, so slowly, the other party runs in front of you.
You may feel that this is a bit inward-looking, but this is the reality, if you don't try to run forward, you will be left behind by others, so instead of spending so much time doing useless things, it is better to improve yourself.
I hope that in the future, you will do useful things, say brave words, think of beautiful things, sleep peacefully, and spend time on progress instead of complaining.
In the eyes of some people, fate is unfair, some people are born with more than others, but from another point of view, fate is very fair, today what choice you make, he will harvest the corresponding life.
Don't always complain about your failures and dissatisfaction, complain about fate or other things, look down at yourself, so that you are not worthy of a better life.
There may be many kinds of effort, but the simplest must be "shut up", so from now on, learn to spend time on other things, and make yourself an increasingly blessed woman.