Many things tend to make us pessimistic.
The state of the earth, the economy, the future of humanity, but there is another field in which many people are surprisingly optimistic about it, and we believe in it, and millions of our fellow citizens are among them, and we may be able to find that special person in a day, a person who is unique to us, suitable for our temperament, taste and desire, who is as if it were the missing part of the complete version of our deepest self, who can make us whole.
We all know it's not easy to find him or them, some people look right at first glance, but then the problem arises, maybe he has a very annoying sister, or they are very nervous about things, always insisting on three hours too early to get to the airport, or the taste of music is terrible, or, after a busy day of work, there is no communication, which is why we are still looking for more space, rest, and then divorce, moving in these possible future lines, Although it seems that we have to work very hard to improve our romantic ability to find the right person, the truth is that our never-ending search for true love is a rejection of love, and it is an obstacle to we can never have a successful relationship, because in the end, the deepest secret of love is that there is no right person.
We imagine a perfect person very clearly, but they exist only in the air, never on the way, the "right person" theory, but also the root of anger and narrow-mindedness, which makes it impossible for us not to be more angry when we believe that we are perfect, just like the nature of human beings, we are always looking for something that cannot be completely right, for the sake of true romance, what is needed for true love, we need a very important and rare quality mentioned below - a dose of pessimism.
Pessimism makes those who are only perfect in appearance, we will also understand them after we come into contact with them, and tolerate the small shortcomings that we find in them, the long-term inevitable shortcomings, of course, they will also find all these things in us, and the positive attitude of people who are looking for perfection is that we are responsible for abandoning all people, we always just seem to meet, but in fact, the most suitable person for us is those who do not match all our tastes, he or she is contrary to our tastes, Like-mindedness is a success factor in love, but it is not a prerequisite, and in order to find the right love, we first have to attend a funeral that buries a lot of our hopes deep in the ground, and this funeral is the most romantic thing we have ever done, it will liberate us into real life, and help us tolerate and make the relationship more intimate in normal relationships.
And pessimism allows us to tolerate the shortcomings of the right person, and we can finally discover that the right person is the one who can mediate the differences in tastes between each other.