Chekhov said: "Spring is very beautiful. However, without money, it is really unlucky. ”
In modern society, working to make money is the life of most people, and it is also a necessary part of our stepping into society.
The movie "Million Dollars and the Bitter Worm Girl"
Some jobs carry ideals, some jobs will open their horizons and see a different world, some jobs can only become material security, and different occupations have different opportunities and secrets.
We may have fun with it, or we may be more or less hurt and suffer some "work injury". Some of the pain is related to the workplace environment, and some things have to be digested by themselves.
Mr. Y:
Frankly, I don't feel able to take responsibility. Growing up, I had many ambitions to change myself and live a better version of myself, but it often ended with giving up, messing up, and hastily ending up.
A Japanese writer once said, "All I think about all I spend my days thinking about is how to maintain a free and happy life without working." ”
This is also what I aspire to, but I know that this is a fantasy, a pipe dream, and what I should do is work hard, try to make money, and do a few more projects, rather than always having to stay up late and work overtime to catch up, and then give something ordinary to cope with.
I don't know when I started to work more and more rotten, go to work every day for a long time to really start working, work efficiency is very low, although anxious but fearless calm, accept the fish touching myself.
Recently, I have been warning myself that I can't continue to rot like this, and when assigned to new tasks, I have also rekindled the motivation to come up with a few novel ideas and want to do them seriously.
But this motivation will quickly fade in the process of idea practice, and new things may look good, but it also means that you have to learn more things, do more trivial things, and even some are still useless. So I went back to the swing and went back to the loop.
Sometimes I also feel anxious and powerless, want to change but can't jump out, blame work and blame myself; Sometimes I feel that I will have a way at that time, and with narcissism, I feel relaxed and happy when I don't think about it and run away.
The frustration and the joy of escaping from luck are intertwined in my life, and I often feel conflicted in my heart, how can I break the cycle and really do what I have to do? How can we implement actions to become the ideal self?
Guangzhou heard about the interpretation of psychological counseling:
For today's modern 996 work system, migrant workers are taken up most of their daily time by work and work-related affairs, leaving only fragmentary time for themselves.
If you can't get some sense of accomplishment and satisfaction from such a thing that takes so much time in your life, then you will naturally feel empty and wear down your body and mind.
Long-term low-performance work is easy to cause burnout.
Psychologist Herbert calls burnout a "serious occupational injury" in which people fall into it reproduce life every day, nothing new, boring and repetitive - "I am not unhappy, but I am not happy." ”
This line accurately summarizes the state of most burnout workers. In the daily repetition, there is actually an opening in the seemingly complete life.
Obviously, Mr. Y fell into burnout at this time, unable to get intrinsic rewards from the current work, lack of motivation, and emotional exhaustion.
At this time, it is not that we are "unenterprising and delicate", but we experience a "real loss": you lose something dear in your heart—your motivation for the profession in the first place.
To a certain extent, such a loss can bring us anger and sadness, leading to the question, "Is my efforts meaningful?" Is what I'm doing valuable? Have I found a career I love? .....”
A series of inner questions seem difficult to find answers, making people anxious, and the feeling of hurt is so real; And choosing to "lie flat" and "swing rotten" has become a posture of personal protection from harm, so when you find yourself tired and don't want to work, you don't have to be too harsh on yourself, which is not right or wrong.
But work is work, and in addition to relying on it to ensure the material basis of life, it is also an important way for us to integrate into society and build our identity in society, and it is difficult for us to completely escape from work. And in the face of burnout, what can we do besides endure and complain?
In the book "Burnout: Why We Don't Want to Work", the author Popov argues that burnout is not a lifetime imprisonment, and that we can help ourselves transform our work mood and get out of bad emotions through some psychological learning.
First, understand your strengths and stay optimistic.
According to the aforementioned Gallup survey, truly productive employees spend four times as much time each day doing what they're good at than they do doing what they're not good at. Being clear and engaged in what we are good at is far more helpful to our mental health at work than to keep bumping into walls in areas where we are not good at is more helpful and valuable to our mental health at work.
Second, recognize your weaknesses and maintain lifelong learning.
When sharing his life, writer Ma Jiahui said that no matter how bad life is, he will "do something", not to escape, but to strengthen himself.
When you become aware of your shortcomings, learning is the best way to make up for them. Some people mistakenly believe that the salary they are getting now is not worth investing in their own learning, but remember that learning is fundamentally for themselves. The knowledge and experience we learn will become our workplace weapons and will one day come in handy!
Third, dig into meaningful aspects of your work and cultivate interest
There are indeed some monotonous, meaningless, soul-consuming jobs in life, and it is difficult for us to experience a sense of value from them, and then doubt the meaning of our labor, and it is more likely to produce burnout.
In a consumer society, the value of work is somehow alienated into the value of consumption, and when a commodity cannot be purchased, it is magnified into a life that does not belong to a certain standard of living, and is excluded from the "high level", work becomes worthless, and a sense of burnout arises.
But these are more indicators given by the outside world, we should not give up our own initiative, take the initiative to dig into meaningful parts of the work, find and establish our own new spiritual fulcrum.
Finally, work is not the whole of life, let go of unrealistic career expectations.
Work does take up most of our time, but it shouldn't be the whole of our lives. Learn to expand more aspects of life, poke your head out of the "three-point line" life, and you will find that there are better and better parts of life.
So, don't let work trap you, leave yourself the opportunity to "run away" in your time outside of work, pay attention to your heart, value the emotional connection in life, start from the little things that are within reach, take one step, and then another step.
"Burnout means that you have hit the end of this level, and the key to a new level is in your hands!"
If your current job makes you feel tired, confused about the future, or even difficult to live normally, then you can also seek professional psychological counseling for help. Maybe you can try to start a new stage of your life by receiving help.
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