6 rules of interpersonal relationships, no one says, but they are very important

6 rules of interpersonal relationships, good words. No one says it, but it matters.

1

Blindly being good to others will not be respected

There was a young monk, every time Master asked him to go out to change his fate, he would go to a poor family under the mountain to help with farm work, only because the first time he passed through this family, he looked after his family was poor and had a compassionate heart.

Until one day, the little monk made a mistake, and the master punished him for half a month of thinking about the wall, and only half a month later did he go down the mountain to change the edge.

When he walked to the door, he heard the family talking about him, and said with a scolding grin:

"Why hasn't this bald monk come lately, he can't finish his work, he thought he had a free coolie."

The little monk was very sad to hear this, and he never went to help again.

As there is a law in economics called the "law of diminishing marginal utility," it refers to the same thing, and the more people do it, the less satisfaction they feel.

There is no sense of proportion of giving, in exchange for reciprocal relationships.

Blind giving will only be counterproductive, and will only be exchanged for the other party's natural acceptance and enjoyment.

Good in the true sense is to have temperature, measured efforts, and the ability to defend their bottom line.

2

Just because others laugh at themselves doesn't mean you can go along with it

It's important socially that others can laugh at themselves, and you don't go along with it.

From the perspective of psychological defense mechanisms, self-deprecation is a critical act of self-inadequacy.

Because we are afraid of being revealed by others, we will use self-deprecating ways to say it first, so that it is easier to avoid the embarrassment caused by being exposed by others.

Although self-deprecation is to turn passive into active, there is actually a hidden psychological need behind it, that is, hoping to get encouragement and rebuttal from others.

When someone tells you about his shortcomings, if you echo them, "You yourself have found out!" "Or something like that, the atmosphere will cool down instantly, and it will even make people who are already inferior and sensitive sad and sad."

Warm words and three warm winters, social relationships, the need for goodwill expression.

3

Don't trust someone who has let you down twice

The feelings between people are like building a house, which needs to be accumulated brick by brick, and cared for bit by bit.

No matter how good the relationship, it must be managed with heart; no matter how deep the feelings, they cannot withstand the perfunctory times.

The first was disappointment, the second was a lesson.

People's hearts can't stand the cold, it takes many years to warm a heart, and a cool heart, just for a moment.

Don't wait until you lose to learn to cherish, don't lose someone who is really good to you, once you turn around, there will be no next life.

4

Save face in everything

Life is like a chess game, unpredictable, no one can predict what kind of fruit you sow today will bear tomorrow.

As the saying goes: "Leave a line in everything, and see each other in the future." ”

When you are exterminated and ruthless, it is difficult to guarantee that when you are in trouble in the future, others will not fall into the well.

Knowing how to leave room for others is actually leaving a back road for yourself.

Learning to save face for others is a smart way to deal with the world.

5

The more self-cooked, the more self-reliant

I've heard a heart-watering and realistic social law: Anyone who approaches you at the speed of light will eventually leave at the speed of light.

The more self-cooked, the more self-reliant.

In life, too often, we feel that "obsessively wrongly paid". The feelings that were fostered by the seedlings eventually died of quick success.

As the saying goes, the road knows the horsepower, and the people's hearts are seen for a long time.

Give the three views a little time to run in, and give each other a space to turn around.

Between people, there will not be too many resentments and resentments, and there will not be so much embarrassment and regret for each other.

6

The attitude of replying to the message is the temperature of being a person

Someone once summed it up: The so-called reliability is that everything has an explanation, every piece has a fall, and everything has an echo.

A person who does not reply to the news feels that he is cold and cold, but in fact, he is just uncultured; he feels that others are making a big fuss, but in fact, he just does not know how to compare his heart to his heart.

And a reliable person, knows how to respect the heart of others, will not lose the good feelings of others, and will not overdraft their own character.

In fact, from a person's attitude of replying to a message, you can see his temperature as a person.

A "received", or "okay", only a few seconds, can make the other party's hanging heart let go.

When you ignore the anxiety of others and ignore the demands of others, you also invisibly distance each other.

Above all, encourage!