In rural areas, during the Spring Festival, New Year's Day, May Day, Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival, and National Day, it is a key time period for young people to talk about marriage and get married.
This has a lot to do with the fact that young people in rural areas have changed their rhythm of life by going to the city to work, and they can only rely on national holidays to deal with their lifelong events.
In order to solve their own marital problems, many young people put themselves and their families on huge debts, so that the whole family's economy and life are in a difficult situation, and it is very difficult to get rid of the poverty brought about by marriage.
Now the sky-high price of bride price in rural areas has gradually become a very hidden form, which is not easy to be known and understood by outsiders, and the secrecy is stronger, because of the opposition of the state, the people do not approve, and the village rules and regulations are binding, but the parties to the marriage have to change the original form of bride price in order to complete their own marriage.
In the past, the rural bride price was often 20~300,000 yuan, and the man bought "three turns and one ring" for the woman, and then to the "three gold" or "hardware".
In this way, the rural bride price has changed from the past to the public and clear, into a secret, concealed method, the man to the woman to give the bride price, from the bright to the dark, from the open to the hidden, from the bright to the ambiguous way, the man to the woman, how much to give, how to send, so that outsiders scratch their heads, so that the bride price is more crazy and rampant, increasing the economic burden of the rural man's family.
Rural wedding customs bride price, is the traditional marriage customs, is since ancient times rural marriage customs can not get around a ditch, want to cross this deep gap, only with the joint efforts of the whole society, male and female families understand each other, mutual volume can be realized, in order to control the marriage customs bride price and then not to develop in the direction of high amounts, in order to reduce the bride price on the marriage man and the family of the economic burden.
Now the rural bride price, because the state is resolutely opposed, the general public to the high price of the bride price, the resistance is very strong, but the parties to the marriage, have to according to the traditional marriage customs, have to give, otherwise they can not get married.
Therefore, if the parties to the marriage, especially the man, do not give the bride price, or the bride price is too small to meet the woman's requirements, the marriage cannot be completed.
Therefore, in order to curry favor with the woman and her parents, the parties to the marriage must secretly and use other reasons to give the bride price to the woman in spite of the opposition of the state, the opinions of the public, and the village rules and conventions in the village.
At present, rural men give bride price to women's families, in addition to the regular bride price, other deformed bride price, no longer public, it is difficult for outsiders to know, very hidden bride price.
For example, "the gratitude expenses of the woman's parents for raising their daughter", "the woman's expenses for supporting her parents", the preparation expenses for the woman's marriage, and the banquet expenses, and the "change of words" expenses when the woman marries the man.
The cost of these hidden bride prices, plus the need to buy a house in the city and a wedding car before marriage, as well as the traditional bride price known to ordinary people, have gradually risen from a few thousand yuan in the past to tens of thousands of yuan, and now they are generally more than 100 yuan.
In some places, such as some cities, counties and districts in Shandong Province, Henan Province, and Gansu Province, there are expressions such as "thousands of purples and thousands of reds and greens" and "motionless".
Among them, "thousands of purples, thousands of reds, and one green" means that according to the color of the renminbi, the popular saying to determine the amount of the bride price, that is, including 5 yuan for 10,000 pieces, 100 yuan for 1,000 pieces and 50 yuan for hundreds of pieces, it will be more than 150,000 yuan, or even 300,000 yuan.
The "motionless" of "motionless" here refers to a small car, and "motionless" refers to a set of commercial housing in the urban area, which is the highlight of the bride price, the number is relatively hidden, and it is generally unknown.
Whether it is an obvious or secret bride price, no matter what form of bride price, the man must give it to the woman before marriage, to please the woman and the woman's parents, such a marriage will be very smooth, otherwise the marriage will be full of twists and turns, or even give up halfway.
Therefore, the more the rural bride price, the louder the opposition in society, the more hidden the bride price for married men and women, the higher and higher it is, so high that it is jaw-dropping, unexpected, and outrageous.
Now there are more and more singles in rural areas, the female population is small, and marriage is more competitive, therefore, the bride price is naturally higher and higher, which must use social forces to vigorously publicize the traditional habits of marriage customs, control the amount of bride price, borrow village rules and conventions, let rural people restrain their own marriage customs, and control the emergence of sky-high bride price.
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