For middle-aged couples, there is no shyness in the pocket when they just got married, there is no lack of money in the married life, but there is a lack of love and intimacy, just like in the marriage between Song Siming and Song Tai in "Snail Residence", after the seemingly loving life, it is more cold and warm self-knowledge.
And Mrs. Song's cold to the bone pain, is from Song Siming encountered seaweed, in the face of such an outsider, Song Siming not only spend money and thought, but also willing to show his most private life, in front of the seaweed unscrupulously to be himself.
In this way, for middle-aged couples, what is more sad than the lack of money is that the husband and wife are not together, and once the man has an external heart, it is the beginning of the broken marriage.
Lack of money is never the real sadness of marriage
Seaweed has lived with Xiaobei who has nothing for 500 days, Xiaobei has no money, no omnipotent network, but seaweed only loves him.
Even eating a small snack for a dollar will feel very happy, because Xiaobei is very poor, so seaweed is very considerate of him, but she likes many little girls like all kinds of clothes. Just try it on and don't buy it, or change clothes with my sister, but the seaweed at that time was happy and happy.
Later, even after the seaweed and Song Siming got along, they could buy two pieces of clothes with thousands of pieces at a time, but there was no joy from the heart, only a little bit of vanity.
Compared with the very low requirements of seaweed, Song Siming's wife, Empress Song, has lower requirements, she does not want money, no clothes, and no house, as long as her husband is safe and sound, and she returns home early after work.
For Mrs. Song, she was particularly short of money with Song Siming when she was young, witnessed Song Siming's most depressed appearance, and also saw his various poor and sour appearances, but she chose to suffer with her husband.
When Song Siming went abroad to study, Song Tai raised children alone and took care of his mother-in-law, which can be described as dutiful, and when Song Siming returned from school, after having money and status, he was not bad for Song Tai, giving money and things to his wife, but only giving his heart and body to a younger woman seaweed.
In Song Siming's view, which woman he gives money to is an expression of love for women, and naturally Song Tai got most of Song Siming's money. However, Song tai did not dare to spend money for fear of too ostentatiously affecting her husband, so she had to use this money to invest and earn some interest.
What only makes Song too painful is that as Song Siming takes more and more money to go home, the time he spends going home is getting less and less, and even her conjugal life has become a record of years, and even long enough to remember how long.
In this way, for many middle-aged couples, the despair and dissatisfaction with marriage are generally not a problem of money, but a problem of feelings.
Rich and sexless marriages are the saddest
There is a passage that says: When people reach middle age, they can only go to bed and do not bring home feelings.
Although it is a bit exaggerated, it is also the current situation of life of many middle-aged couples. Women have passed the age of thirty, have children, have insights, and rarely look at men with adoration, just like Su Chun analyzed women with Xiaobei:
Those who can be coaxed are all small women, and when women are over thirty years old, they are not at all deceived by a few good words. If a woman has a child, she is not a woman, first a mother, and then a she-wolf. You see women who are obedient and obedient, they are not yet grown, they still need to worship, they need spiritual support.
This sentence could not be more appropriate to apply to Dr. Song. According to the universal rules, Mrs. Song is a standard virtuous wife and mother, with a good temperament, good cultivation, filial piety to her parents and in-laws, and very capable inside and out.
But in Song Siming's view, such a good woman is very suitable for marrying home as a wife, not only very obedient and virtuous, the key is also knowledgeable, but this kind of woman also has her own flaws.
Because Mrs. Song accompanied Song Siming all the way to the hard days, and she had seen each other's truest state for more than ten years after marriage.
In other words, the wife is the person who nags in front of her husband for half a lifetime, she cannot please her husband, nor can she lower herself, but when facing her husband, she often behaves very majestically, and lets men have no sense of superiority.
But after men face their wives' nagging and real and sloppy, they slowly lose interest in their wives, from body to mind, to become "roommates", and finally become sexless marriages.
There is money and feelings, but it is not interesting, and it can also be said that freezing three feet is not a day's cold. Think of mrs. Song's youth, and conscientiously for this family, and have a younger seaweed than herself, more enjoy Song Siming's most private love.
If a woman does not know how to close her husband's heart, does not know how to synchronize with her husband in body and soul, even if she suffers with her husband when she is young, she will only be disappointed in the end.
No matter how glamorous the marriage on the surface, it cannot heal the rift in the marriage, because it takes too much affection, and it is the most deadly when it is hurt.
When a man shows his private life easily, love is over
As early as the first time Song Siming saw seaweed, he had actually eaten her, and at that time he wanted to conquer this little white rabbit-like girl.
So there is a time and again, again and again intimate, and in front of the seaweed, the usually very upright gentleman and stereotypical Song Siming completely released himself, he will conquer the young girl in his arms little by little under the ambiguous light.
She will also kiss the seaweed gently, slowly undo her clothes, and then experience the crackable skin of the seaweed in the melodious music, feel her water lily-like water spirit, and then experience the tenderness that cannot resonate with his wife.
In fact, when Song Siming completely showed his private life in front of the seaweed, the betrayal and harm to his wife had been caused, and he did not understand, but did not care.
Song Siming ate the seaweed, but also ate his wife, for the seaweed he can completely use money and coaxing to send, and for his wife, with his city government, of course, he knows that his wife's "seven inches" is too sensible.
This is the greed and desire of men, on the one hand, there is the perfection of marriage and the quiet years before people, enjoying the praise of others as a successful person, and on the other hand, releasing the evil and nature of the heart, how crazy and crazy, how greedy and greedy.
Just like the two different faces of day and night in Keigo Higashino's "White Night", a man like Song Siming also plays two different roles, one is quiet and peaceful, and the other is wild and confused.
If the two sides of men are the good of human nature and the evil of human nature, then for women in marriage is a disaster, for women, once men show the most private life to outsiders, all the happy and perfect life is shattered into a bubble.
This is a cold and warm self-aware life, and it is also a hidden pain in middle-aged marriage that cannot be said and cannot be said.