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In love, it is often easy for us to go to an extreme, when you know a certain characteristic of love, you will ignore the other, and use only one method to negate everything else.
For example, if a man just doesn't do a good enough job in a certain aspect, you will ignore all his goodness because of this, grasp a little and completely deny him as a person.
When we look at a person, we often can't just see one side, but learn to measure him from different levels.
And when we look at love, we can't just use an inherent thinking to measure, we must learn to put ourselves in the shoes of the moment, learn to stand in the moment and feel love.
Under normal circumstances, a man's love must be associated with the initiative, if a man really loves you, he will definitely take the initiative to contact you, reluctant to break the connection, and even more reluctant to let you not find him.
And if he adopts the way of disconnection, most of it is because he wants to leave, is not willing to bear the name of "scumbag", and does not have the courage to mention the breakup in person, so he uses the way of direct disappearance to achieve the purpose of breaking up.
It is true that this is the most men will have a breakup routine, but not necessarily all the broken links are so, when a man completely falls in love with a person, there are often a lot of considerations, can not just use the superficial disconnection to directly negate all of his.
Sometimes men choose to disconnect from you precisely because they care about you.
When you feel embarrassed, taking the initiative to disconnect is a deep love
The person who doesn't love you enough, he just wants to selfishly possess you, and the person who really loves you, he not only wants to possess, but also wants to make you happy, as long as you can be happy, then he can do anything.
The love between Qian Feng and Xu Zheng in "Xiao Min Jia" is completely two extremes, Xu Zheng's love is too selfish, he just treats Liu Xiaojie as his own private property, only allowed to be occupied by himself, and does not want others to have any involvement with her.
And Qian Feng's love belongs to the kind of "as long as you can be happy, I will be happy." He liked Liu Xiaojie for ten years, as long as he could accompany her, he was satisfied, and he did not expect to be able to get her at all. As long as she needs it, he will always be the first to accompany her, and when she has her own happiness, he will take the initiative to break off the connection and stay away from her.
Liu Xiaojie's first marriage lasted for two years, Qian Feng chose to break off the connection for two years, quit her life, and after marrying Xu Zheng for the second time, he also took the initiative to keep a distance and did not want Liu Xiaojie to be embarrassed.
His starting point is mainly Based on Liu Xiaojie, as long as she is happy, he will feel happy and does not care at all whether she belongs to him or not.
There are many men who are hiding behind her back and secretly loving a person, when their appearance brings her trouble, they will break the connection, from the reality in front of her, from a distance to care for her, bless her, this is a deep love.
When he is in trouble, he does not want to involve you, and only wants to solve it himself
Whether a man is sincere about you or not, many times it is not only to see how you react when you encounter trouble, but also to see how he deals with problems when he encounters them.
Some men are afraid that if you don't help him, they will always cry in front of you, and when they encounter problems, they will take the initiative to ask you for help, hoping to get benefits from you.
Such a man is undoubtedly very selfish and just wants to get something from you and hasn't thought about it for you at all. And such people are often very irresponsible, lack the ability to solve problems, and are not worth entrusting for life.
A responsible man, they are not willing to involve women at all, even if women are willing to help themselves, he will also directly refuse, unwilling to let women worry about themselves, follow their own suffering.
In order not to let women get involved, they will choose the way of disconnection, a person silently bears all the pressure, in front of the woman will pretend to be innocuous, and carry all the difficulties alone. Only when he solves all the problems will he reappear in front of you, and will hide from you from beginning to end.
Such a disconnection is a manifestation of a sense of responsibility and responsibility, and it is also a kind of protection for you.
Since there is no way to give you happiness, then I wish you happiness
Men will be very eager to marry the woman they love, but many times the yin and yang can not achieve their wishes, so they leave far away, withdraw from the woman's world, and never bother again.
In "Your Wedding", Zhou Xiaoqi fell in love with You Yongci at first sight, and the whole youth was revolving around her, doing a lot of things for her, paying a lot, just hoping to be able to be with her.
Finally got her wish, but it is a pity that the two people still broke up, after the breakup Zhou Xiaoqi never bothered her again, but never forgot, did not expect that the last time the two people contacted, it was at You Yongci's wedding.
Many people advised him not to go, and he insisted on going because it was the final farewell. Zhou Xiaoqi's last words were: Goodbye, the girl who has accompanied me for fifteen years. From this moment on, it was completely disconnected, and from then on it would never be disturbed again, and the story of the two people was completely over.
Since there is no way to give you happiness, then I wish you happiness. It is said that if a man misses the girl he wants to marry, everyone else will become a general. Maybe that regret will last a lifetime, but no matter how much you like it, you won't bother it anymore. As long as you can be happy, then letting go is the best fulfillment for you. Such a disconnect is unforgettable.
Not all broken connections are not loved, and many times, men choose to break off the connection precisely because they love you very much and care about you very much.
If you really like a person, you will have the other person in your heart and completely incorporate the other person's feelings into your own standards. Everything is based on the other party, as long as it is good for the other party, it is acceptable to themselves.
Anything that makes her embarrassed will not be done by herself, and she is willing to take the initiative to quit. Anything that might worry her would be hidden from the other party, as long as she dealt with it silently, there was no need to let her worry about herself.
The deepest love of a man for a woman is that as long as you can be happy, it is enough, even if the person who gives you happiness is not me, I will not appear around you, will not disturb your peaceful life, I will choose to completely break the connection and disappear from you.
True love is not possession, but fulfillment, and such love is the most sincere love.