Text: There are books Wu Que Que & Three Three
Source: There are books
Someone said:
"Man, only in the presence of his closest parents, reveals his true nature."
If you think about it, it makes sense.
What a man's nature is, just look at how he treats his parents.
His mode of getting along with his parents is the mode of getting along with future marriages.
At new year's time, you may wish to go to his house and see how he treats his parents, so that you can know whether the man in front of you is worth living with for life.
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Men who respect their parents
will respect and cherish you
Writer Bi Shumin said:
"If a man doesn't even care about his parents, then will you marry such a man with peace of mind?"
There is a role in the TV series "Xiao MinJia" that makes many netizens call "scary".
He is Xu Zheng.
Because of playing basketball, Xu Zheng and Liu Xiaojie met and fell in love, and quickly obtained a license to get married.
It seems that Xu is an elite lawyer with handsome looks and a solid family, but over time, he has gradually revealed his nature.
And all this has been hinted at as early as Xu Zheng's attitude towards his parents.
Before the two got married, Liu Xiaojie's sister had expressed concern because her sister had a marriage, and was not sure whether the other parents could accept it.
Xu Zhengze said with a serious face: "It's okay, it's a big deal to break off relations with them." ”
Everyone present was shocked, it was his own parents, but he could easily say such a desperate word.
When Xu Zheng's mother came to meet with her relatives, she told her son to cherish it and not to end up as innocent as the love she had talked about before.
Xu Zheng's expression immediately changed, and he directly and viciously accused his mother: "Why do you talk so much today?" ”
Don't care about having parents, or even speaking ill of each other, how can such a man be really good to his wife?
Sure enough, after marriage, Xu Zheng put his wife under house arrest, restricted her dating, forced her to take medicine to give birth to a child, and even threatened his wife with a knife in the thigh...
This pile of piles, Liu Xiaojie also finally realized the horror of this man, and quickly fled from this person.
People who wantonly confront their parents, without reverence, can easily become an extreme person.
And how can such a person who does not even pay attention to his parents respect and love his wife?
For the parents to give, do not know how to be grateful, mostly selfish, then what you pay will become a matter of course in his eyes.
In the New Year, we must look at his way of getting along with his parents in order to see the true character of this man.
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A man who is patient with his parents
will tolerate your shortcomings
Zhou Guoping said:
"For people close to you, it is instinctive to be picky, but to overcome your instincts and not to be picky about people who are close to you is a kind of upbringing."
A man who always talks to his parents is pleasant and patient, then he must be mature and stable, and he can restrain his emotions.
Such a man will also communicate and communicate with his wife softly in the day and night of marriage.
I once saw such a thing in the @Flower Shadow story, which makes people remember it vividly.
The woman's parents were very satisfied with her boyfriend, and ben thought of going to her boyfriend's house to meet his parents at the New Year's Eve, so they settled the marriage.
But after going to her boyfriend's house, the girl resolutely insisted on breaking up despite the opposition of her family and the retention of her boyfriend.
It turned out that before going to the boyfriend's house, the woman asked his parents what they liked, so that they could choose the souvenir that the second elder liked.
The boyfriend said she didn't have to buy anything.
At first, she thought her boyfriend didn't want to let her spend money, but when she went to his house, she found that he didn't know his parents' preferences.
Before eating, the boyfriend's mother forgot to take her dishes.
The boyfriend blamed his mother:
"Mom, you're so old and confused, there's one more person in the family today, how did you do it?"
During the meal, no matter what the boyfriend's mother said, the boyfriend always interrupted the mother's words and gushed on his own.
Before the girl went home, the boyfriend's mother politely expressed the hope that today's meal would meet the girl's appetite.
Before the girl could say thank you, the boyfriend immediately said impatiently, "Oh, Mom, you're not bothered." ”
It is these small details that make the girl seem to see what she looks like after marriage and decisively give up this relationship.
I thought that the difference between marriage and love was just whether there was a marriage certificate.
It can be seen that after too many points and combinations, through many ditches and bumps, I understand that marriage and love are not the same.
Love can go on with hot love for each other, but marriage can't.
There are too many uncertain factors in marriage, it can not escape the daily trivialities, can not escape the world's troubles.
Our parents are the people we have been with in this world for the longest time, from learning to learning to start a family, they are the closest people around us.
If so, some men talk to their parents in a tone that is full of impatience.
After marriage, he lost his freshness in the pots and pans, leaving only blandness, and he would also lose patience with his wife.
Men who do not know how to thank their parents, take everything their parents do for granted, and lose their temper at will and do not respect their parents, there is no way to rely on them.
Only people who can talk well with their parents and get along well can treat their partners maturely and rationally, always be patient, and tolerate each other's shortcomings.
Whether a man is worth marrying depends on his attitude towards his parents.
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A man who can be attached to his parents
will be consistent with you
I don't know, do you have this feeling:
Before marriage, he is obedient to you, and even remembers the things you inadvertently said, but after marriage, he can forget your birthday;
Before marriage, he can say countless love words to you a day, but after marriage, if you want to listen to a love word, he will feel that you are pretentious;
……
It takes a long time to see a man thoroughly.
Youth is fleeting, and time does not allow us to study carefully.
But fortunately, everything in the world has signs.
Whether a man can be consistent can actually be detected by whether he is attached to his parents or not.
In an emotional show, I saw a story.
One year during the Spring Festival, the girl went to her boyfriend's house for the New Year, and the boyfriend specially brought 2 cartons of milk to her father and dragon's whisker candy to her mother.
But after arriving at his house, the girl found that the boyfriend did not know that his father did not drink milk because of lactose intolerance, nor did he know that his mother had just been diagnosed with diabetes last year and could not eat sweets.
The boyfriend's father could not change the light bulb because of the inconvenience of his legs and feet, and urged him to replace several bulbs that had been broken for a long time.
He dragged on and on, and finally the girl helped her boyfriend's father change the light bulb.
Not only that, but one night her boyfriend took her to meet with her old classmates.
The girl knew they didn't have the keys with them, and kept reminding him to go home early so he wouldn't disturb his parents' rest.
But he insisted on playing until 2 a.m. before he would go home, and let his elderly parents get up on a cold winter night to open the door for them.
The girl felt that if she married him, there would be endless light bulbs in the future, and there would be countless nights when she did not dare to sleep soundly, just to wait for him to come home, so she proposed to break up.
As the show's emotional mentor put it:
"A person is very filial to his parents, and he will be very good to the lover in marriage."
Home is our spiritual habitat for unloading the weariness of a day, where we take off our masks, take off our defenses, and spend time with our families in our truest state.
If he doesn't care about the things that give birth to his parents, how can you expect him to tie you to his heart in the years to come and treat you as he always did.
Sometimes, what suffocates in marriage is not that they don't love each other, but that they are still in love, but they have lost to not have enough effort.
In the book Why Home Affects My Life, there is this experiment:
M.D. tracks 76 children, from birth all the way through age 30, documenting their growth.
Discover that the most important influences in a person's life come from their parents and families.
If you want to understand what a man looks like, just look at what he and his parents are like.
I like a quote from educator Daisaku Ikeda:
"Marriage is the end of youth and the starting point for a happy life."
In order for it to bear good fruit, do not be anxious, be cautious. ”
Marriage is two people who love each other, face the difficulties of life hand in hand, and enjoy the joy of companionship together.
It is said that marriage is a woman's second life.
The woman who is nourished harvests happiness, while the woman who is over-consumed has only one chicken feather in her life.
Su Xin: Columnist. Racing in the workplace, but also love words. About the workplace, about life, about marriage, about women, I write my heart by hand. WeChat public account: Su Xin (ID: suxin98498). He is the author of "In the Hard World, Cultivate a Gentle Heart" and "Time is on the Left, Dust is on the Right".