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Why is it that the more indifferent and alienated a woman is, the easier it is to grasp a man's heart and firmly attract men's interest?
Like the white tassel in Zhang Ailing's "Love in the Fallen City", she is an extremely cold woman. Although divorced, although living in her mother's house was driven away, although she was extremely eager for a marriage to be a safe haven for herself, she still remained calm and calm when she met a man she liked.
She understood that the best way to love a man was not to be obedient, but precisely to be disobedient.
In some things, the more involuntary you are, the more men love you. If it is too easy to be obtained by the other party, it will only not be cherished.
From a psychological point of view, men have the desire to challenge and conquer, the more they do not get, the more they want to get, too easy to get, but will soon lose interest.
Truly intelligent women often know how to love a man appropriately, and they will not take the initiative in the following three things. This is not a mental trick, but the most basic emotional intelligence and wisdom.
One: know how to exercise restraint and not please
Many women are always prone to lose their minds when they are deeply in love, but women who really have a pattern, even if they love a man, will restrain their feelings and will not humbly please because they are afraid of losing.
Yang Li is a typical example, she loves her boyfriend very much, but she loves herself in a measured way and never forgets to love herself.
At one point, they had a lot of arguments and didn't contact each other for about a month. Although Yang Li missed her boyfriend every day at that time, she still did not lower her posture and ask for peace.
Because this matter is a principle that she can't touch, no matter how good the boyfriend's conditions are, if he can't treat feelings exclusively, Yang Li won't continue to be with him.
Yang Li loved so firmly and crisply that she finally made her boyfriend even more reluctant to leave her, so he took the initiative to turn back to her and apologize, and also changed his behavior.
Soon after, the boyfriend gave Yang Li a romantic marriage proposal, and the friends around him were very surprised, and the boyfriend had been completely conquered by Yang Li's personality charm.
The best way to tie a man down is to know how to restrain your love, no matter how good his conditions are, you should not be too proactive. The more women who know how to love themselves, the more they can get the happiness they want in their feelings.
Second: know how to stick to the bottom line and not cater to it
Liu Xiaojie in the TV series "Xiao Min's House" is undoubtedly a negative case, she loved so much that she lost the bottom line, so that she completely lost herself and was more and more cherished by the other party.
Before she was with Xu Zheng, she lived very soberly and independently, but then she fell in love, and her bottom line could not be kept. But whatever Xu Zheng wanted her to do, she would agree.
However, even though Liu Xiaojie has tried to live according to Xu Zheng's requirements, she still can't get the love and trust of the other party.
Xu Zheng locked her in the house, did not let her have any contact with the outside world, and forced her to take medicine.
The reason why Liu Xiaojie is willing to cater to it is actually because she especially wants to have Xu Zheng. She has passed the age of thirty, divorced, and can meet Xu Zheng's man who loves her so much, if she misses it, she may regret it for a lifetime. So she panders again and again, losing her truest self.
But to do so is only to make the other party even more unappreciative. Liu Xiaojie experienced unbearable fright, and also saw Xu Zheng's personality, and finally could only choose divorce.
If you want to win a man's heart, in fact, the best way is not to please, but to always know how to maintain his personality and refuse him to control and change himself. When you can love yourself confidently, you can continue to exude charm and harvest lasting happiness.
Three: know how to live out of yourself, defend your dignity, and disobey
Xu Man is very beautiful, but she loves very inferiority, and after being with her boyfriend, she always cares too much about each other's feelings and allows herself to be wronged again and again.
She has a very positive attitude towards her work, the leader values her very much, and deliberately gives her a chance to be promoted, but her boyfriend hopes that she can take care of the family more in the future.
In order to be able to marry her boyfriend as soon as possible, Xu Man gave up the best opportunity.
She doesn't have the ability to think for herself, and it's hard to plan her future life, just naively thinking that her boyfriend will definitely deliver on his promise. But in the end, the boyfriend married the girl who was dating back home and abandoned her fiercely.
After seeing her boyfriend's personality, Xu Man felt extremely regretful, if he could be rational and have the ability to think independently, he would not have loved so badly.
In the relationship, don't just care about his feelings, be a spiritually independent woman, in order to keep the true happiness.
The best way to tie up a man is not to be humble and flattering, submissive and pandering, but to be appropriately cold. Only when a woman loves herself first, she will not love herself and lose herself.
The rest of life is long, may all women live soberly, do not cater to, do not cling, and calmly and firmly manage their feelings and life.
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