Manjun talked about a boyfriend some time ago, this boy is very tall, handsome and sunny, and had dinner with us.
But Manjun has always had a very grumpy point. It was this guy who broke up with his ex-girlfriend and was with Manjun less than a month ago – the boy's window was too short.
When Manjun's friends once talked to Manjun about the short period of his boyfriend's empty window, Manjun always said with a hint of anger: "Don't talk about it, he is not that kind of person, and I will be his special person!" ”
Two weeks later, Manjun and her boyfriend broke up.
The boyfriend sent a large message to Manjun, which probably means that he has recently considered it for a long time, and feels that the identity of the couple is not suitable for the two of us, and it will be more uncomfortable to continue to drag.
Manjun is dumped because she falls in love with a person who is extremely unsympathetic to feelings.
The empty window period is important, it is a respect for each other and the future. We will fall in love with many people in this bustling life, and we will be separated from many people. The empty window period is an important criterion for testing whether a person is serious about feelings.
Having loved a person deeply, it must be a very painful time after that person leaves, it will be easy to lose sleep, and unwilling emotions will often occupy the hearts of two people. And at this time, people who are serious about feelings will appear very resistant to another person coming into your heart. Therefore, their emotional window is often very long.
In fact, the wounds in the hearts of people who are serious about feelings are difficult to heal. People who are serious in their feelings will treat their partners as if they were marriage partners, always thinking that they can get married in the future, work together to save money, and buy a car and a house together. After this beautiful hope is shattered, it is easy to create a deep gulf in the heart.
Such people only superficially talk and laugh, as if they can talk to anyone, but they cover up this scar. If someone wants to enter their life, to be their new partner, it is tantamount to tearing off the disguise of their wounds and pouring salt on their wounds. It hurts, so they resist. This is also that people who are serious about feelings often have a long window period.
I once had a college friend who was in college and had a first love that was ruined by a long-distance relationship after two and a half years, and it probably took him nearly a year to re-opt for a relationship. During this year, he was always afraid of his attitude towards falling in love. A student sister wanted to chase him, and all the good words and bad words were exhausted, but she couldn't see a trace of starlight in his eyes.
You know, loving someone can be pretended. For those veterans of the love scene, they are very accurate in the details, and you can hardly tell whether they really love you. But when you are deeply trapped in their gentle country, they are about to withdraw. We can't judge which people are extremely unserious about feelings, and the empty window period is really a very important criterion. People who are serious about falling in love often have a long period of empty windows, and falling in love with such people is called really rushing to love.
It is precisely because many people are extremely unserious about their attitude towards love when they are in love, and they use the perspective of fun to fall in love, so many people will pursue sincere love. Loving someone is pure, just let the other person know that I love him, and the other person will confidently tell me that he loves me. Such feelings are the most worthy of the envy of others. And if you want to achieve such pure love, you must find a person who has a serious attitude towards love to fall in love, and you must be wary of people with a short window.
Manjun's story has become an accident, but don't have more stories like Manjun, when the window of love is too short, you need to consider this person's attitude towards love.
Of course, we dare not say that all people with a short window period are people who are not serious about falling in love, but people with a short window of love are often not very serious about their attitude towards love. There are lessons from the past, not necessarily there will be no later overturners. Don't just listen to the story as a story, if you are not careful, you become the person in the story.
(The materials in the article are all based on real cases)