Text | Kitagi South · Sound | Zhi Han
The hit drama "Little Minjia" has finally ushered in the grand finale.
During this time it was searched for almost every day.
Because many people see their own shadow in the emotional story of "Xiao Min's Family".
The four marriages in "Little Min's Family" hide the naked truth of feelings.
Unmotivated men
It is a cancer on marriage
The first marriage was between Liu Xiaomin and Jin Bo.
Xiao Min once said: "Her marriage to Jin Bo was the only failure in the first half of her life." ”
When Jin Bo was young, he was handsome and handsome, and his family was well-off, his father was the factory director, and his mother was the director of women.
He is the second generation of the rich of the Eight Classics of Zheng'er.
Marrying a man from such a family is a dream desire of many women.
In the end, Liu Xiaomin, under the arrangement of his parents, married Jin Bo and gave birth to a son, Jin Jiajun.
Jin Bo was born into a wealthy family, spoiled from an early age, and was idle and idle all day.
After his father was laid off and died, he was like a pool of mud that could not support the wall, in the face of family changes, he never thought of taking on the courage of the family, but drank and bought drunk and went crazy all day long.
At this time, Xiao Min completely realized that she had married the wrong person.
Such a rotten person is not worthy of love.
Xiao Min resolutely chose to divorce, no matter how others persuaded, this marriage finally divorced.
In the end, Xiaomin went to Beijing to study, obtained a doctor's qualification certificate, and became the chief nurse.
My son was admitted to Tsinghua University, and the family was reunited happily.
Day by day, the days are getting better, and her ex-husband Jin Bo has broken into Xiao Min's life again.
Jin Bo gambled and owed a bunch of debts. He used his son to borrow money from Xiaomin, and kept saying bad things about Xiaomin in front of his son.
What's more, he still lives in Xiao Min's house, eating and drinking.
Jimbo's greed, laziness, selfishness, indifference, hypocrisy... Let the audience grit their teeth in hatred, saying that he is the most hated person in the whole play.
Such a man is a cancer in marriage and will torment you day by day.
Marrying such a person requires a lot of risk.
He is lazy and does not think of making progress; he blames his own fault on others, never reflects on himself, and does not understand gratitude.
This kind of man is not only poor, but also poor in heart.
Once a woman encounters such a man who has no responsibility and no sense of responsibility, it is not worth losing her life.
Controlling men
It is a time bomb for marriage
The second marriage is Liu Xiaojie and Xu Zheng.
In fact, Liu Xiaojie has had two marriages.
Her first husband, Tong Bing, was a mommy boy:
There is no opinion of their own, all listen to the mother;
Indecisive and unmasculine;
When you encounter anything, you are on your mother's side.
In the end, Liu Xiaojie chose to divorce.
She met her second husband, Xu Zheng.
Xu Zheng, a talented person, is a lawyer with a good family.
He understands romance, has a sweet mouth, and frantically pursues Xiao Jie, and fascinates Xiao Jie.
In the end, the two got engaged.
After being together, Xiao Jie discovered that Xu was a person with a strong desire to control.
Xu Zheng said a sentence: "How can I not control you before, but now you are my fiancée, we are about to get a license, you are so intimate with other men, are you worthy of me?" Liu Xiaojie? ”
The background of this line is that Xiao Jie went to a classmate party and took a group photo together after eating.
Xu Zheng saw Xiao Jie and the man taking a group photo together, and suddenly went crazy, slammed on the accelerator and rushed out, and finally crashed.
Afterwards, he used sweet words to say that he loved Xiao Jie too much and was afraid of losing Xiao Jie.
He also pulled out a ring, apologized to Xiao Jie, and proposed.
Xiao Jie was immersed in sweet words and could not extricate himself.
The two married in this way, and Xiao Jie's nightmare began.
Xu Zheng did not allow Xiao Jie to contact any man, and secretly deleted the opposite sex friends in Xiao Jie's WeChat.
No matter where Xiao Jie went, he had to report to Xu Zheng and interfere with Xiao Jie's freedom of life.
Finally, he locked Xiao jie in her home, confiscated her mobile phone, and prevented her from contacting anyone.
In Xu Zheng's view, everything he did was because he loved Xiao Jie too much.
But Xiao Jie, unable to feel love, only felt control, repression, suffocation.
It's not love, it's bullying.
Men who are too controlling are a time bomb in marriage and may hurt you at any time.
What is true love?
You will not be controlled in the name of love, you are snuggled up to each other, but also independent of each other.
There is a saying that goes: "Love is not easy to come by, you have to leave a little gap before you can breathe with each other." ”
If a relationship makes you feel unable to breathe, you can choose to run away.
This is not ruthlessness, but self-preservation.
Get a person's true heart
Can't be measured in money
The third marriage is Li Ping and Hong Wei.
Li Ping loves vanity and always wants to marry a rich man and live the life of a rich wife.
Ex-husband Chen Zhuo is a bully, capable, but has no ambitions, just want to live a down-to-earth life.
Not willing to be mediocre, Li Ping chose to divorce and married Hong Wei, who was rich and powerful, and lived the life of a noblewoman as she wished.
Hong Wei gave Li Ping the life she longed for: status, money, identity, romance, love.
Hong Wei is also really good to Li Ping, obedient to everything he says, and never speaks loudly to her.
Li Ping has always wanted to give Hong a healthy child, but Hong Wei said this:
"We don't want children in this life, and I can't see you suffering from that sin."
Li Ping was very touched and wholeheartedly accompanied Hong Wei to help him fight for his career.
In the end, Li Ping became pregnant with the child, but accidentally miscarried.
Later, Hong Wei was imprisoned for tax evasion, and Li Ping learned at this time:
Hong Wei had an illegitimate child abroad, born not long after marriage.
That is to say, Hong Wei had an affair and raised a woman abroad.
Li Ping couldn't believe that the man who loved her as much as she usually loved had an illegitimate child.
She fell from a rich lady to a poor middle-aged woman, with a broken marriage and rebellion.
At this time, only her ex-husband Chen Zhuo reached out to her.
At this time, she understood that no amount of glory and wealth could match a true heart.
Some women, who have a dream of being rich, want to be held in the palm of their hands, want to be pampered forever.
Having money is indeed a plus for a person, but it is not the most important one.
In addition to having money, you also have to look at a person's responsibility, sincerity, and responsibility.
You can marry someone rich, but you can marry someone who has money.
I would say that the real ideal partner:
Don't be rich, but always be positive and optimistic.
It doesn't have to be good, but the heart that loves you can stay true to death.
The biggest scam of marriage is that someone has it.
Truly precious love is something that money cannot measure.
Every marriage is flawed
You have to learn to understand and be tolerant
The fourth marriage is Liu Xiaomin and Chen Zhuo.
Xiao Min and Chen Zhuo rely on each other, and the thin water flows for a long time, which makes countless people envious.
In fact, their love is also very bumpy.
They are both second-married and each has a child.
At first, they fell in love without everyone, and finally the children knew about it and had to break up.
A year later, when they met, Chen Zhuo confessed to Xiaomin through wine, saying:
"I miss you a lot, in fact, I have to know that this year is so difficult, and I will not break up with you when I die."
The implication is that I regret it and I miss you so much.
Chen Zhuo then said, "Xiao Min, that, I'm almost fifty, if you think it's okay, we will continue to be together." I don't want to miss you again. If you don't think it's okay, I won't bother you in the future. ”
Xiao Min replied emphatically, "Let's get married, Chen Zhuo." ”
The love that runs in both directions makes people sweet to the heart.
As netizens said: "Forgive the distance from heartbreak to starting over, not as far away as imagined, like crossing a road, the most important thing is that there is someone waiting for you across the road." 」 ”
They, with the blessing of their friends and family, married in a bright and upright manner.
But at this time, Chen Zhuo checked out cancer.
In order not to drag Xiao Min down, Chen Zhuo proposed a divorce, and Xiao Min said firmly: "I will not divorce you." ”
Their marriage never put love on their lips, nor did they have much passion and romance.
But when the other party faces danger, they always understand and tolerate unconditionally, feel sorry for each other, and are reckless.
A good marriage is like this, each other's heartache, I understand your powerlessness, you understand my pain.
Even if you don't say anything, you can understand each other tacitly.
Yu Hua once said: "Love, not how rich I am, how much wisdom and achievementS, but I give you everything." At critical moments, shield you from the wind and rain. ”
The perfect love we seek is nothing more than:
There is always someone around, accompanying around, sharing the fate, and the support and affirmation.
This is a husband and wife, quarreling, not dispersing, living together for a lifetime.
"Little MinJia" uses the stories of several families to uncover the truth of marriage for us.
There are stories in TV dramas, there is life in stories, and I think about my own life in the stories of others.
Li Bihua once said: "It is probably ten million people who can only have a pair of Liang Zhu to transform butterflies." The others are only moths, cockroaches, mosquitoes, flies, scarab beetles... It's just not a butterfly. ”
A happy marriage is two reliable people, moving forward hand in hand, and any one person who has a problem will stagnate.
I've seen a beautiful dialogue:
F: "What kind of life would you want to live without me?" ”
M: "What's wrong?" ”
F: "Nothing, I just don't want you to be wronged." ”
M: "Having your days is the day I want to live." ”
Marriage can't define our lives, but love can.
Marriage is not easy, but it is worth the effort.
May you have a wonderful marriage from beginning to end, never abandoning.
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