Text/Wu Que
Recently, the hit TV series "Xiao Minjia", starring Huang Lei, Zhou Xun, Qin Hailu, Tang Yixin, Tu Songyan, Liu Lili and other actors, finally ushered in the grand finale.
In the play, it is not only the middle-aged love of Chen Zhuo and Liu Xiaomin that affects the nerves of countless audiences, but also the performance of Chen Zhuo, Xu Zheng and Hong Wei in the play towards their beloved women, as well as their respective emotional endings.
I once read such a sentence on the Internet:
"Bad marriages turn people into lunatics, good marriages turn people into fools, and best marriages turn people into children."
When I was young, I naively thought that whoever married me was the same, and lived around chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea.
However, as I get older, I know that it is really different from who I marry.
In my opinion, these 3 things are enough to see a man.
01 Will you suffer in order to have children?
Li Ping has always longed to become a rich wife, but Chen Zhuo only wants to live an ordinary life.
The marriage of Chen Zhuo and Li Ping, who could not give Li Ping's ideal life, naturally came to an end.
He married Hong Wei, who could satisfy all his fantasies, but the two never had children.
Although Hong Wei said on his lips, "We don't want children in this life, I can't see you suffer that sin." ”
However, my heart is very eager to have a child of my own.
In order to fulfill Hong Wei's wish, Li Ping, who saw all this in her eyes, disregarded her age and played ovulation injections for 3 years, and finally became pregnant.
At first, he thought that Hong Wei took good care of Li Ping because he was distressed that she was an elderly mother, and because he truly loved Li Ping.
However, the more he looked back, the more he found that all of Hong Wei's concern for Li Ping was just hope that this child could be born smoothly.
Moreover, when Li Ping's child miscarried and Hong Wei rushed to the hospital, what he was most worried about was not Li Ping's body and the recovery situation behind him.
Instead, in a reproachful tone, she questioned Li Ping about how the child fell, and said that she only had Chen Jiajia in her heart, not the child who had been lost.
Later, Hong Wei was imprisoned for economic crimes, and Li Ping found out that Hong Wei had a 5-year-old illegitimate child in marriage.
She already has a child, but she still selfishly wants the elderly Li Ping to have another child.
When a man truly loves you, even if you can't have children because of your age and health, he won't let you have children because of his own selfish desires.
Because your feelings are more important than your own selfish desires.
Therefore, a man who really loves you will not and is reluctant to let you suffer in order to have children.
02 Control over you, or let you be yourself
Su Qian once said such a sentence:
"A person who wants to die or live wants to get you, this is not love, but possessiveness." 」
In a few words, the Tao broke the true meaning of feelings.
In the play, the most heart-wrenching and frightening thing is the marriage of Liu Xiaojie and Xu Zheng.
Liu Xiaojie, who has just flashed marriage and divorced, has not yet eased up from the previous relationship, and he has met Xu Zheng, a sunny boy who is 5 years younger than himself, handsome and handsome, with good family conditions and very rich.
After encountering him again and again, as well as romantic pursuits, Liu Xiaojie and Xu Zheng came together in a hurry.
If it is impossible for us to love someone without possessiveness, on the contrary, the more we love a person, the more possessive we will be.
However, when the degree of possessiveness is not well controlled, it will gradually become a desire to control.
For Xu Zheng, this is the case.
After he and Liu Xiaojie came together, he did not let Liu Xiaojie and Qian Feng, who secretly liked her for many years, and even when he knew about Qian Feng's participation in Liu Xiaojie's classmate party, he was full of jealousy.
While waiting for Liu Xiaojie outside the restaurant, he found that Qian Feng put his arm around Liu Xiaojie's shoulder during the group photo, and angrily drove to chase the back of Qian Feng's friend's car, and asked Liu Xiaojie to delete Qian Feng's friend.
Not only that, he also did not allow Liu Xiaojie to have other friends of the opposite sex, and would secretly observe her every move when she met with the author.
When he found out that Liu Xiaojie and Qian Feng had met, he indiscriminately blamed Liu Xiaojie and pushed her down and self-harmed.
She was placed under house arrest the next day, taking her cell phone and computer without her consent, and asking her company for annual leave, tricking her sister and mother into traveling.
There is a passage in the book "Love Lesson":
"Maybe I don't know what love is, but I know, love is not. Love is not a need, not a demand, not possession and control. ”
That's true.
True love is allowing the other person to be themselves in the relationship.
If you want to see a man, see whether his love for you is always in control of you, or let you be yourself and live the life you want to live.
03 At the critical time, there is no you in the heart
Chen Zhuo and Liu Xiaomin met at a party, and the love of middle-aged people is not as scrupulous as the feelings of young people, and they pay too much attention to conditions, but pay more attention to feelings.
The two got along day and night and came together.
Although they did not disclose their relationship to the people around them, they were so good that they were like a pair of midlife crises.
Until, Liu Xiaomin's son came to Beijing to re-study, met Chen Zhuo's daughter Liu Jiajia, and after the relationship between the two was exposed, they were separated for a year for the sake of their children's future.
Fortunately, after going around, they finally came together and received a marriage license.
However, the good times did not last long, and Chen Zhuo found out that he had cancer after a physical examination.
After chemotherapy, he actually proposed the idea of divorce to Liu Xiaomin.
On Douban, some netizens commented: "Chen Zhuo does not love Liu Xiaomin, if he really loves, he will not think of divorcing her because he is sick." True love is working hand in hand with each other to get through difficult times. ”
I disagree.
There is a saying in the Warring States Policy:
"Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans."
Similarly, when a man truly loves a woman, he envisions a future for her.
Chen Zhuo's love for Liu Xiaomin is like this.
Because Chen Zhuo loves Liu Xiaomin too much, he will worry that if his illness is not controlled and he dies, he will choose to divorce her without delaying her.
If he really didn't love anymore, he would selfishly leave Liu Xiaomin by his side.
So, if you want to know if a man really loves you, whether he is really reliable, it is better to look at his choices at critical times.
When you are in trouble, do you choose to abandon you or share happiness and suffering with you?
When he is in trouble, is it for your sake everywhere, worried that he will drag you down, or want to drag you down and suffer with him.
04
There is a saying that is very true: "Love and coughing cannot be hidden." ”
Similarly, a man is unreliable and cannot be hidden.
Lu Suwei said:
"The path of life is so simple, you choose, give, get."
What kind of man you choose, what kind of life you will live.
In order to make your future marriage happy, you must keep your eyes open before getting married.
And to see a man clearly, it is enough to look at these 3 things.
Encourage your friends.
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I am Wu Que, a freelance writer, a ten-point reader, a book signing author, a multi-platform original author, and I am working hard to meet a better version of myself. If you like me, you can follow me and work with me to meet a better version of yourself.