Text/Qian Duoduo, Jiang Zuo Meiniang
There is a saying on the Internet:
"Life is like dumplings, whether it is dragged into the water, thrown into the water, or jumped into the water yourself, not being burned by life for a while, even if it is not mature." 」
Life in the world, never smooth sailing, will always experience some wind and rain thunder, after going through thousands of sails, reading countless people, you will gradually understand what detours there are in life.
And people in middle age, really smart people, most of them understand the "three no's law", if they do not understand these three truths, the old age will be very desolate.
01. Don't understand that health cannot be overdrawn when you are sick
There is a problem in Zhihu:
"What happened to those young people who were desperately trying to make money?"
A high praise replied:
"Those young people who exchanged their lives for money later exchanged money for their lives."
Usually always overdraft the body, do not pay attention to maintenance, then the disease will take advantage of the void, wait until the illness, regret is too late.
Writer Liu Na once wrote about one of her brothers.
The elder brother is the "roll king" of the unit, busy every day, not only to complete his own KPI, but also to lead the team to complete the company's new projects.
Overtime to the middle of the night is the norm, even on weekends do not rest, often dozens of hours of continuous rotation, so just over 40 years old, he suffers from high blood pressure, high blood pressure can sometimes soar to more than 200.
However, he was so busy that he didn't have time to check and treat, and sometimes he got so busy that he forgot to take antihypertensive drugs.
His family often told him that he could not only take care of work, must not forget to take medicine, and pay more attention to his body. Every time he replied perfunctorily, "I know", but he was still busy.
It wasn't until later, one night, that he worked overtime until the early hours of the morning before returning home. When he went to the toilet, he suddenly suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and collapsed on the ground. By the time he was admitted to the hospital, it was too late to rescue him. In his prime, he was in his 40s and passed away.
We always have a fluke mentality about health, always feel that we can carry it, can bear it, even if the body is somewhat uncomfortable, even if it is in a sub-healthy state for a long time, we don't care.
There was a survey: "When high salaries and health conflict, what do you choose?" ”
The survey results show that 71% of netizens are willing to ignore their health and choose high salaries.
Not long ago, the "2021 Young People's Overtime Report" released by 36Kr also corroborated this result, and the proportion of young people who worked overtime and often overtime every day accounted for 76.1%, and more than 30% of young people never left work on time.
66% of people in the workplace will take their computers home to work overtime, and only 10% of young people never work overtime after work. We often work hard to make money, but we forget that health cannot be overdrawn, and sometimes once lost, it is difficult to come back.
Writer Daisaku Ikeda:
"No matter how talented and powerful, no matter how insightful, once bedridden, life will be gone."
Yes, only when you are really sick will you suddenly wake up to the importance of health. At that time, no amount of glory was meaningless in the face of disease.
It can be seen that a healthy body is the most expensive "real estate", so do not exchange "life" for "money", it is not worth it.
02. Don't wait until the fate is dispersed to understand that feelings cannot be disappointed
The writer Qiyannian once said:
"In this world, people who are really good to you, when they meet one, there is one less." Don't lose someone who treats you well; don't live up to a heart that treats you sincerely. ”
Cherish the person who is good to you, once missed, it is irretrievable.
The other day, a friend asked me what I could do to save a person.
He once had a gentle and virtuous girlfriend, and his heart for him was "jealous" even to us outsiders.
She will remember what he loves to eat, even if she takes a detour, she will buy it for him; she will accommodate him in everything, always taking the initiative to take on the housework such as cooking, washing dishes, mopping the floor; she will match the clothes he has to wear every day in advance to save him time in the morning; she will also give his parents gifts in his name on New Year's Day...
At first he was flattered, very grateful, and felt that it was good to have her, and later, when he got used to her goodness, he began to take it for granted, not only no longer grateful, but also often felt that she managed too much.
Once, his girlfriend bought a lot of things at the supermarket downstairs, including a 20-pound bag of rice, and called him to pick it up, but he let her carry her upstairs by herself while he played games at home.
Another time, his girlfriend had a fever in the middle of the night and wanted him to accompany him to the hospital, and he said unhappily: "It's so late, tomorrow I still have to go to work, can't you go by yourself?" After saying that, she turned over and fell asleep, and the girlfriend had to take a taxi to the hospital by herself.
He came home late after working overtime, and his girlfriend sent him WeChat and called him, but he hung up impatiently. Go home and face your girlfriend anxiously to ask, that is, a perfunctory sentence "Overtime is not like this, are you bothered"...
At first, the girlfriend often expressed dissatisfaction, and gradually, when he did not change at all, she did not say more, directly became silent, and finally simply proposed to break up.
It was also after the breakup, when he no longer had the care and restraint of his girlfriend, that he felt how comfortable it was to have her around before.
He begins to miss his girlfriend and wants to get it back, but finds that her girlfriend has blocked him and deleted all contact information.
Half a year later, when he happened to be in the mall, he saw his girlfriend and another boy holding hands and laughing, and he found that they could not go back, and he really regretted it.
Getting used to each other's efforts ignores each other's feelings.
Lin Huiyin said:
"The biggest regret in life is not that you miss the best person, but that you missed, the person who wants to be good to you the most." 」
We always think that people who are good to us will always be there. But I never thought that once you get a response to your efforts, others will leave you.
In this materialistic world, people who can give their heart to you are the most rare. Therefore, please do not live up to this sincerity, do not wait until the fate is dispersed, and then regret it.
03. Don't understand that human nature cannot be overestimated when it is at a low point
Mr. Yang Dai once said:
"When you are in a high position, all you see is flashy spring dreams, and when you are in a humble place, you have the opportunity to see the truth of the world."
Friends when the spring breeze is triumphant are not friends, and only at the low point can we see who is the real friend.
In the TV series "Xiao Min's Family", Li Ping, played by Qin Hailu, is a proud and good-looking person. She struggled with her husband Hong Wei, saved a huge family business, and often "trenched" inhumanity.
For her daughter's birthday, she invited a group of business tycoons to the dinner party, champagne and wine were intertwined, and even English simultaneous translation and drone performance, everyone gave her enough face.
On weekdays, the relatives and friends from her hometown who came to ask her and Hong Wei to do things, and the people who asked for cooperation in the mall were innumerable.
Unexpectedly, after Hong Wei was arrested for suspected economic crimes, these people disappeared.
When Hong Wei was imprisoned, Li Ping was in a hurry, she ran in many directions, found many people, and made countless phone calls for help. As a result, these relatives and former friends in their hometowns avoided them. Either they don't answer the phone or meet, or they are worried about money and unwilling to help. The wall fell down and everyone pushed, even if the "social master" Li Ping, can only give up asking for help.
Later, only Li Ping's ex-husband, Chen Zhuo, was able to patiently listen to Li Ping's complaints and take the initiative to help. Although Chen Zhuo's financial help was only a drop in the bucket, li ping was still very moved.
Zhihu once had such a question: "Which moment makes you feel that the world is hot and cold?" ”
One high praise replied: "When you are in the darkest moment of life, but the people around you are looking at it coldly." ”
In this life, there will inevitably be ups and downs, and the lows are like a "mirror of the demon", allowing us to see clearly who is sincere and who is hypocritical.
The so-called human nature, which is the nature of human beings, is usually not easily exposed, but when encountering things, there is often nothing to hide.
People who are full of friends when you are beautiful may not be able to send you charcoal in the snow when you are down. Therefore, when a person is at the peak, he should not be proud and complacent and profligate, but should be modest and cautious, make sincere friends who are truly worth cherishing, and do not understand the ugliness of human nature until the trough.
04. Mei Niang said
Mr. Ji Xianlin once said:
"Everyone wants to fight for a full life."
When people reach middle age and go through thousands of sails, we finally find that losing health is equivalent to losing everything, so we must take care of our bodies; if we miss a moment, we may miss a lifetime, so don't lose the person who really loves you; deep in the trough, we can understand human nature, then we must accumulate energy and reserve real connections at the peak.
Nine times the world is unsatisfactory, but when you understand this "three no's law", then you can live forever in the sea and the sea.
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