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01. Preface
The writer Hemingway once said: "Three years to learn to speak, a lifetime to learn to shut up." ”
In interpersonal communication, the contradictions caused by "evil coming out of the mouth" are the norm. On the road of life, learning to speak is a science, and learning to control your mouth is a kind of cultivation.
In particular, in the old age, people will learn to control their mouths and be a "tight mouth" person, which will be more blessed.
Zeno of the Stoics said, "The reason we have two ears and only one mouth is for us to listen more and talk less." ”
In life, reduce complaints about trivial matters and reduce nagging about children. "Tight mouth" can protect yourself in your old age, and at the same time you can also restore your own inner peace.
In interpersonal communication, the expression of language is very important, but shutting down at the right time can save yourself from a lot of trouble, and can leave others with the impression of being cautious and humble.
People are easy to annoy people in old age, and if they want to live a leisurely life, they must learn to talk less.
Being a "tight mouth" person and opening up the pattern of dealing with the world will make your life smoother and more comfortable.
When people are old, be a "tight mouth" person and avoid "misfortune in old age".
02, other people's things, don't talk about it
In their old age, people keep their mouths shut and don't talk about right and wrong.
In the TV series "Xiao Min's Family", Chen Zhuo's father, Chen Tianfu, is a self-righteous person who never cares about the feelings of others. Even after three failed marriages, there is still no remorse.
Xiaomin's mother, Wang Sumin, knew that her daughter and Chen Zhuo were in a relationship, and although she had some worries in her heart, she did not interfere too much, and often helped the two people to take care of housework.
The first time Chen Tianfu met Wang Sumin, he saw that she was dressed relatively low-key and simple, so he thought that she was an hourly worker at home, and asked a lot of questions, and even said bad things about his future daughter-in-law Xiaomin.
Although the misunderstanding was later lifted, Chen Tianfu's habit of "talking too much" caused a lot of trouble for Xiao Min and Chen Zhuo, making the lives of the two people jump.
In life, it is common for people to express desires, but learning to listen is also a kind of cultivation.
When a person can't control his mouth and talk too much, it will bring trouble to others. When people are old, keep their mouths shut, be a "tight mouth" person, don't talk about other people's affairs, don't damage other people's reputations.
Unobstructed mouth is taboo in social life.
At any time, don't talk too much, don't talk about the rights and wrongs of others, and keep your mouth shut in order to keep your blessings.
03, no matter how successful, don't talk about preaching
In old age, at any time, keep your mouth shut and don't preach to people.
In the TV series "Female Psychologist", the students professor Ji once taught like to go to him for advice, because although Professor Ji is highly respected, he never teaches.
Treat those who come as if they were their own children, very approachable. Therefore, he has always lived a relaxed and comfortable life, and is loved by students.
Everyone has their own perception of the world and will have their own directions to explore. So, there's really no need to preach to anyone.
Because, your experience, is only your own life.
Others, there are their own paths to go, and life to explore. There are some detours that others must take.
And if a person interferes with other people's ideas and decisions with his own experience and experience, and scorns the innovation of others, it will only make others angry.
When people are old, no matter how successful they are, don't preach to anyone. Because, preaching, may block the development of others.
When people are old, be good at themselves, be a "tight mouth" person, be humble to others, and be gentle with others.
04, at any time, do not complain and cry poor
People are old, don't complain, don't always cry poor, adjust your mentality.
Romain Rolland said: "There are some things that cannot be told to others, some things that do not have to be told, some things that cannot be told to others at all, and some things that you will regret immediately even if you tell others." ”
What kind of life a person can have is directly proportional to his own efforts and struggles.
On the road of life, if a person can seize all opportunities, not waste every minute, and work hard, he can stand out among all sentient beings.
People are old, if they are not satisfied with their current situation, they should always complain, try to calm down and analyze the crux of the problem, find a way to quickly improve themselves, and implement it step by step.
Complaining all day or crying to others may gain some sympathy and some comfort, but the road ahead still needs to be walked by yourself, and the responsibility of life still depends on yourself.
When people are older, they must understand that life is a hard journey. The amount of effort you put in, the amount of reward you get.
People are old, low-key forward, compared to pouring emotions to the outside world, doing things in a down-to-earth manner, is obviously a more effective way to eliminate negative energy.
05. Summary
When people get old, get along with people, and learn to be a "tight mouth" person, they will live more blessedly.
Goethe said, "Whoever does not eat bread with tears does not understand the taste of life." ”
When people are old, be a "tight mouth" person, and consider the consequences of what you say. Straight-talking and fast-talking will make people suspicious.
Only by managing yourself and mastering the sense of proportion in interpersonal relationships can you avoid "misfortune in your later years".
For people to live in the world, more words will be lost.
Learning to "shut up" is a kind of wisdom, but also a kind of cultivation. People are old, keep their mouths shut, don't let yourself live too cheaply.
"Tight mouth" is to be kind to yourself and to others.
Keep your mouth shut, let your heart become calm and calm, and let your old age be free from right and wrong complaints, so that you can grow old happily.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.