Zhuang Di Xiaomeng / Seeing the essence through the story
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It is becoming more and more difficult for older men to get off the list, but "sister-brother love" has gradually developed into the current trend.
Everything is unexpected, but it is reasonable.
According to data from the Civil Affairs Bureau, China's "sister-brother love" marriage has reached 40%.
Unexpected.
Although society is becoming more and more open and people's thinking is becoming more and more progressive, the concept of "men and women" has lasted for thousands of years, and it is difficult to change deep-rooted ideas in a short period of time.
As a result, even in the 21st century, most people are more accepting of the marriage model of men and women.
In the face of 40% of sister-brother love marriages, many people feel incredible.
Reasonable.
The reason why everyone feels surprised is because the three words of "sister-brother love" often give everyone an alternative feeling.
If the age difference between the couple is not large, everyone will naturally not feel so surprised.
According to data from the Civil Affairs Bureau, 95% of the age difference between married couples in China is within 4 years of age.
Combined with the data of sister-brother love, it is not difficult for everyone to come to a conclusion: although the marriage between sister and brother has reached 40%, the age difference is not more than 4 years old.
As long as the age difference is not large, there will be no generation gap between husband and wife, and there will be no feeling of inappropriateness.
Under such circumstances, the existence of "sister-brother love" is naturally reasonable.
Contemporary women are becoming more and more fond of young men
People's minds will change with the changes of the times, and women in the past were more fond of your own older men, but now women are mostly fond of young men.
One of the proofs: "small fresh meat" has become mainstream
I remember that a few years ago, "Uncle" was popular for a while, but that time was too short for many people to forget.
In recent years, small fresh meat has always been the object of everyone's chase, especially in the entertainment industry, small fresh meat has become the mainstream.
Star chasers are all women, so the popularity of small fresh meat symbolizes the aesthetics of contemporary women.
It is precisely because girls like young and handsome men that the small fresh meat of the entertainment industry can become the top stream.
Evidence two: the prevalence of "sister-brother love"
In real life, sister-brother love can be seen everywhere, especially sister-brother love with an age difference of between 1 and 4 years old, which has often been regarded as the norm.
The civil affairs bureau data is the most powerful proof that this can never be falsified.
The main reason for this result is the change in women's view of mate selection, where women used to be only willing to accept men who were older than themselves, and now many women prefer men who are a few years younger than themselves.
In this way, the sister-brother love will naturally increase.
It is inevitable that older men are less popular than younger men
The subtext that sister-brother love has become popular is that older men will have a harder time getting rid of singles, older women like men younger than themselves, and young girls like men of their own age.
As a result, the probability of older men taking off the list will naturally become lower and lower.
In the matter of marriage and love, men's competitors are always men, and the reason why older men are not chosen is often because they have the following disadvantages compared with young men.
First, the appearance disadvantage
As we all know, women are all appearance associations, which is the main reason why small fresh meat is popular.
In the matter of appearance, no one can survive the years, and the contrast between men in their 30s and men in their 20s is obvious.
They will have signs of age on their faces, some men will even have beer bellies, and even more have begun to lose their hair.
Second, ideological disadvantages
Why are more and more women starting to like younger men? Because they find it easier to get along with younger men and are more likely to be cared for and respected.
Different birth ages, different living environments, naturally different ideas.
Many older men have the idea of emphasizing men over women in their bones, they are macho, do not know how to understand women, and even think that washing and cooking, taking care of in-laws are all women's business.
Young men do not have this kind of thinking, not only do they not have many harsh requirements for women, but they are also very good at housework and can take good care of their wives.
In this contrast, women naturally know what choice to make.
Third, the crisis of middle-aged and elderly people
The biggest problem with older men is the crisis of middle age and old age, which is something that cannot be changed in real life.
1, there are old and low pressure collision
When men are older, parents cannot be young, they cannot help with children, and it is easy to increase the burden on the couple because of old age and infirmity.
It is the responsibility of the child to support the parents, and everything is reasonable, but if the child is still very young at this time, the husband and wife will face great pressure.
2, the child has not grown up he is old
This is a relatively terrible thing, after all, men can't do it, all the pressure will fall on the shoulders of women, and women may not be able to pick up the beams.
If a man chooses to get married around 35, he's already 50 when his kids are in junior high school.
The child is in a rebellious period, and when he needs to spend money and discipline, his energy and financial resources cannot keep up.
This is a relatively distressing thing for both adults and children.
Women love young men and are a sign of social progress
1. The result of women's ideological emancipation
The popularity of sister-brother love is entirely due to the change in women's thinking.
Women in the past had low self-esteem and did not dare to accept men younger than themselves, but now women are confident in marriage and will choose their other half in a very rational way.
Women's mate selection is no longer limited to age, and can accept men who are a few years older than themselves, and they can also accept men who are a few years younger than themselves, which is the progress of thought.
2. The inevitable result of the increase in independent women
One of the fundamental reasons why women in the past did not dare to accept sister-brother love was that they did not have the ability to be independent.
They fear that one day they will be rejected or abandoned, but unlike contemporary women, they are highly educated, have stable jobs and incomes, and marriage is no longer their only dependence.
After having independent capital, women can choose the other half according to their own preferences.
Women have such a change, in fact, it is the progress of society.
There are more and more independent women, and women's choice of mate is not limited to age is the true embodiment of equality between men and women.
Original author of the Zhuang Di Xiaomeng/Emotional Column
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