In recent years, there has been a lot of talk about "sister-brother love".
Not only are various film and television dramas emerging in an endless stream, but there are also many in real life. Share a few sweet sister-brother relationships~
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@Rabbit teeth
My husband is five years younger than me!! But especially empathetic, always very understanding of you! Resolutely stand by my side when things go wrong! You can feel that he is thinking of you at all times, it is simply milky and fragrant!
It is a special love to spoil, need to hug him at every turn, kiss him, and then go to do housework again!!!
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@ not bitter
Before I was with him, I refused to be in love with my sister and brother, and I scoffed at the kind of one, punching my face and punching my face
I remember one of the confessions that touched me the most:
When I was majoring in Braille, he said I like you. Dot by point, character by character. It seems ridiculous but heartwarming, and then we are together, as if we are in love and do not feel that my brother is any different.
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When I was a child, I waited for me to finish school, gave me all his snacks, and said to me, "Sister, when I grow up, give you all my things."
Now that the child is older, he whispers in my ear in a muffled voice, "Sister, I want to see you every day."
Oops, the old aunt also broke the defense in an instant, and had to say: really fragrant ~
Is sister-brother love really becoming a mainstream trend?
Back in 2013, a dating site called Older Women Dating interviewed 3,000 heterosexual women in the United States, and 42 percent of them said they wanted to socialize with men younger than themselves.
Li Chunling, a researcher at the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, also mentioned in a 2017 study that in the past decade, the proportion of marriages between "big women and small men" in China has risen from 14.37% to 40.13%, with a proportion of up to 40%!
Why do the beautiful and sassy sisters love their younger brothers more and more?
PART.
Behind the sibling love
Hidden in the true needs of contemporary women
Milaine Alarie, a sexologist at The National Academy of Sciences in Canada, first proposed the concept of Age-hypogamy: a relationship in which a woman is more than five years older than her partner.
Why did you choose a younger brother than yourself?
Through interviews, the researchers found that they generally mentioned the following reasons:
NO1.“ I enjoy being respected more than being taken care of."
Once the girl is over 30, being urged to marry is simply a nightmare, and there are always people who are bitterly persuaded:
"Find someone to take care of you, and your parents will be relieved."
"Find a backer early and suffer less."
These people habitually place women in the role of being cared for.
So who can take care of women? People who are bigger than themselves and have resources.
But in fact, when women become more and more excellent and no longer need to rely on the mountain, they will feel suffocated by "being over-cared for".
In the previous "Goodbye Lover" that has been popular all over the Internet, Zhu Yaqiong is a typical example.
(Image source: Screenshot of "Goodbye Lover")
When she met Lao Wang at the age of 19 and was ignorant, she had to rely on him for almost everything, even looking for a job, which was Lao Wang's relationship.
But when she reached her 30s, she realized that what she wanted was not to be taken care of, but to be respected.
"I'm not looking for a dad, I'm looking for a partner who can communicate with me on an equal footing," she said. ”
NO2.“ After experiencing loss, I am more eager to take control of a relationship."
Psychological research has found that women who have experienced emotional twists and turns such as divorce, separation or widowhood are more likely to choose to enter a year-old relationship than women who have never been married.
Because women who have experienced emotional twists and turns will have a great change in their view of mate selection.
They care more about their own voice in love, rather than the external scenery and romance.
NO3.“ Enjoy the satisfaction of sexual relations, nothing shy"
The first to carry out the study of the annual love was the sexologist.
In one survey, more than 60 percent of older sisters said they were more able to be honest with their younger brothers and be satisfied when they were with men of the same age or older than with men of the same age or older.
(Image source: Internet)
In this kind of sexual relationship, they are not a passively satisfied tool person, but a protagonist who can actively grasp the rhythm.
This sexual initiative is more important to women than the physiological conditions themselves.
Emotional value
It is the core competitiveness of contemporary intimate relationships
Carefully pondering the reasons why sisters choose sister-brother love, in fact, behind it reflects a core idea, that is, emotional value.
What is emotional value in intimate relationships?
It refers to the difference between the perceived positive benefits and emotional costs when a person is with a partner.
Emotional value = positive emotions (benefits) - negative emotions (costs)
Simply put, finding someone who can make you happy is the most important thing.
The TV series "Rational Life" is like this:
Shen Ruoxin (Qin Lan), a rational and calm 33-year-old workplace "royal sister", faced with the pursuit of an elite male boss, as well as his mother's strong opposition and the gossip of people around him, he resolutely chose to be with Qi Xiao (Wang Hedi), the "mengxin" in the workplace.
(Image source: Screenshot of "Rational Life")
Because she understands well enough that she is more inclined to satisfy her true inner needs and make herself happy than to be confused and choose a marriage that can be seen at a glance.
With Qi Xiao, she will laugh unconsciously, will feel the sweetness of love, and will rejoice because the other party's eyes are full of herself...
"My sister has everything, and she wants to find someone who makes her happy!"
This point is actually worth reflecting on by contemporary men: Do you really understand the needs of contemporary women?
They are financially independent, mentally independent, and free in personality, and they no longer need to find a man to rely on as much as before! All they want is to make themselves happy.
Look at the men who haven't fully understood it now!
Still "I can earn money to support the family, give her a good life" as a golden rule in practice, it is no wonder that it is difficult to get the favor of girls.
With such a man, even if you get married, you are doomed to a chicken feather, which is the case with Shen Comet and Sheng Jiangchuan in "Our Marriage".
Fortunately, Sheng Jiangchuan woke up in time, understood what his wife really needed, understood and affirmed his wife's efforts, and had emotional resonance with his wife, so that their marriage did not go to ruin.
Therefore, emotional value is the core competitiveness of contemporary intimate relationships.
How to run a good sister-brother love
Sister-brother love sounds very sweet, but also to run well!
1. Effective communication
Under normal circumstances, girls in physiological development, psychological age and other aspects will be earlier than boys, and you are sister-brother love, many times boys think that they love you behavior will make you feel childish, immature, when the two sides can not communicate in time will produce contradictions.
At any time, communication is an effective way for both parties to quickly understand each other's demands. Especially in a sister-brother relationship, timely and effective communication can make you more able to get his love, and he can also better understand that you don't really think she is childish or immature, but you don't know how to respond, then the sweetness between you will rub up.
Second, bear the pressure of external public opinion
Some studies have shown that the biggest pressure on women facing "sister-brother love" is not objective age and physiological problems, but the discussion and even opposition of people around them.
"Women are getting old faster than men" "In the future, you will become an old woman, and the other party is just a flower, so you are not afraid that he will look young and beautiful?" ”......
This is still good, and the more ugly man's family will scold "don't make a face".
After all, for most of the seven aunts and eight aunts, the model of strong men and weak women is too deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
Therefore, whether we can put aside the voice of public opinion, truly respect ourselves and build self-confidence is the most critical.
Third, the psychological age is more worthy of attention than the physiological age
If he can carry everything, he is afraid that he will escape from the battle again, which is too sad!
Therefore, it is important to see people's eyes!
Successful annual love has a characteristic: although the man is young, he is mentally mature.
Because what really affects happiness is not physical age, but psychological age. You can find someone who is 10 years younger than you, but the other person can't be a boy, but a man. He is allowed to play with treasure, but not without responsibility in major matters.
Well-off jun bar boo
Rather than saying that sisters are more and more like "sister-brother love", it is better to say that they prefer the feeling of being respected, understood, and cared for, which is also a sign of women's consciousness awakening.
Whether it is "sister-brother love" or something else, if boys can make girls feel this, are you afraid that your relationship will not last long?
Let Xiao Kangjun see, can blow up a few pairs of "sister-brother love" of the pot friends, all come out to talk about Ha ~ single also talk about your views on "sister-brother love", maybe in the comment area to meet the three views of the same it ~
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