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A friend asked me, "Why don't women like older men now?" Is 'sister-brother love' that good? ”
I really didn't know how to answer this question for a while.
In recent years, the data of "sister-brother love" couples has continued to soar, and by 2021, "sister-brother love" marriages have even exceeded 40%.
When I saw the data released by the Civil Affairs Bureau, my first reaction was surprise, but then I felt that this was a very normal thing.
The prevalence of "sister-brother love" is the inevitable result of social development
With the development and progress of society, women gradually came out of the boudoir, and they gradually became independent women who dominated life from pleasing men at the beginning.
Women no longer have to cling to men.
In the past, women could only rely on men to live, so women usually had no choice when it came to marriage.
Men like young women, so "male and female" marriages have become the norm.
And now women have the ability to be independent, no longer have to please men as before, be chosen by men, and now marriage has become a two-way choice problem.
Women's status has increased and they have more choices.
Women become autonomous because of independence, they have a great deal of choice in marriage, and once a person has the ability to choose, he will definitely choose the type he likes.
Women naturally like young and strong men, so they start looking for a partner in the group of men younger than themselves.
In this way, the older leftover men gradually lost the market, and "sister-brother love" has become a norm.
The "leftover man" wants to reverse the situation and has to fight hardware conditions
In a contemporary society where there are more men and fewer women, women do have greater choices than men, but this does not mean that men can only be elected.
Men with good hardware conditions, even if they are over thirty years old, are still very sought-after objects in the marriage market.
First, height, looks, temperament
People are all appearance associations, and I believe that most people have experienced this.
A man's appearance is a natural advantage, as long as he is tall and handsome and temperamental, even in his thirties can attract many women, including young girls in their twenties.
Everyone has a heart for beauty, but who in this world does not yearn for beautiful things?
Second, family circumstances, parents, and material conditions
Marriage is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families, so a man's family situation is very important.
What kind of work parents do, what kind of status they have in society, and what kind of material conditions they have, these are all parts that girls care about very much.
A man with a good family, excellent parents, and outstanding material conditions does not lack girlfriends, even at the age of the leftover man, he is also the object of many girls' pursuit.
After all, marriage is a relatively realistic thing, everyone wants to change their fate through marriage, and everyone wants to have a better life.
Based on this, the material superiority of men has become the important part of many girls.
Third, education, work, income
Women are all Mu Qiang, they like to find a sense of worship in men, and the men who can make women worship will not be too bad in their own conditions.
They are highly educated, have a good job and are well paid. This type of man is often called a quality man in real life, and a good man can usually have a lot of admirers.
This type of man is popular in real life because they can be appreciated by a lot of women.
Men's age disadvantage needs to be balanced by hardware conditions
Men often say that men don't care about age, only material conditions, as long as they have money, even if they are 50 years old, they can marry a little girl in their 20s.
There are indeed cases like this in society, but let's take a closer look at what kind of men they are? Those men are conditioned enough to beat 95% of men, and that's the capital they can do whatever they want.
They can marry little girls not because they are men, but because they are people who stand at the top of the pyramid.
This truth must be understood, the gap between men and men is very large.
Although everyone has the same gender, they are in different classes and live a life that is very different.
Men with superior conditions do not care about age, but for ordinary people, age is often very lethal.
In the 20s, even if you are destitute, you have the opportunity to find a girlfriend, but once you pass the age of 30, the age disadvantage will gradually become obvious.
At this time, everyone who wants to marry and have children must fight hardware conditions, and the age disadvantage only needs to rely on many conditions to balance.
If your hardware is in good condition, then getting married is a very simple thing for you.
But if you are just an ordinary person, it may not be so easy to step into the palace of marriage.
Some people marry a little girl in their 30s, and some people marry a woman with children in their 30s, and the main difference between the two is the hardware condition.
The best way out for the average man: get married as early as possible
It is often said that choice determines life, and this statement is not false at all.
What kind of road you will take in the future and what kind of life you will live depends entirely on your original choice.
If you are just an ordinary person, then starting a family first and starting a career must be the most correct decision in your life.
Don't always think that you will become rich when you get older, in this world, most people are very ordinary in life.
There are indeed some people in the world who have become late in life, but that is rare after all.
Ordinary people do not have strong hardware conditions, do not have the capital to offset the age disadvantage, should take advantage of the young age to solve the lifelong event as soon as possible.
Otherwise, after the age of 30, you will find that you have neither become rich nor a family of your own, which is the most terrible thing.
In order to avoid such a thing from happening, everyone should make plans for themselves early.
I am Shadow, an original author who focuses on the field of emotion.