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Unmarried at an older age is a more serious topic in modern society.
The reasons for choosing to get married are always similar, but the reasons for choosing to be single are different. In life, everyone has everyone's choices, and everyone's pursuits, and it can't be the same for everyone. Speaking of marriage, some people think that when they are old, they would rather be appropriate than be pointed out, while some people think that being able to insist on being themselves is the most important thing.
To be honest, whether boys or girls, most people actually have a lot of prejudices and speculations about the group of older singles.
People especially like to associate them with pickiness.
The so-called picky is actually a word with strong subjective initiative. After all, everyone in this world, when looking for the other half, more or less will have corresponding requirements, it is impossible not to be picky, this requirement is either simple or complex, most of them are based on their own actual situation, a certain measurement. However, people sometimes like to have a common disease, that is, it is easy to overestimate their own strength.
I have found in life that there are a small number of people who may not be able to find the person they are looking for, and the most real situation is that the person they are looking for is not the kind of person they can match.
I have a cousin of a classmate, she is 34 years old this year, the conditions are good, the job is stable, there is a car, a house and a deposit, and the life is also tasteful. It was her marriage that has always been the heart disease of her parents at home. As parents, no matter how much success their children have achieved, many people still regard marriage as the most important step in life.
She said that in the past few years, she also introduced some people, but they did not succeed, and later her cousin did not want to meet much, and now most of them choose to directly refuse.
I had met her cousin twice, and I felt like a very gentle girl, and it just so happened that I knew a single boy who was a year younger than her cousin, and I wondered if I wanted to introduce her. When I proposed it, my classmate politely refused, saying that her cousin probably didn't like it.
She explained why, and why her cousin had never been able to find the ideal marriage. When she was 26 years old, her cousin knew a boy, and the two of them fell in love, and the boy had a very good family, which could be said to be a rich and handsome man, and he was also very considerate to her cousin.
Her cousin originally rushed to get married, but later when she was 29 years old, the boy split his legs and quietly joined another girl with better conditions. When her cousin found out, although she was sad, she still did not hesitate to propose a breakup. Originally, I thought that this relationship was just a small episode, and the marriage of a long life in the future, another choice would cover all this. No one expected that this boy would become one of the stumbling blocks in her cousin's later marriage.
Because of the people she met later, her cousin would always subconsciously compare, wanted to find someone who was not worse than him to marry, and use his standards to find a husband. But compared to coming and going, the people I met later, no matter in which way, were no better than this boy.
All in all, there is his handsome not as high as him, there is his high conditions are not as good as his conditions, the conditions are not as understanding as he is, in order to find a person who is like him in all aspects, balanced development, no obvious shortcomings, it is too difficult.
Her cousin was actually a very reasonable person, but it was in this matter that she was particularly stubborn and tried to prove something in such a way.
It's just that life is not a TV series, and it will not send a Prince Charming disguised as a knight to redeem you when you are frustrated. Life is life, life is ordinary and realistic, and even some unrealistic dreams may be hidden in the whipping of life.
Life, always have to look forward, no matter the original unwillingness, for what purpose, or want to achieve what requirements, if you realize that this requirement is unreasonable, you should adjust your strategy in time.
Life is like that, and so is love.
To be honest, in a situation like her cousin's, I have seen more than one case in reality, that is, the overall level of the ex is too high, so that it affects all my next choices.
One of my college roommates went on a blind date, she was 164cm tall, and as a result, she was disliked by boys for being short, disgusted with being fat, the key is that the boys themselves are only 170cm tall, and she is a normal figure, really not fat.
Later she understood the reason, the boy said that his ex is 168cm tall, the figure is particularly good, you can go to the model type, he still wants to find one like that. The appearance of his predecessor directly raised his blind date standards. However, he has been on several blind dates, all of which are far inferior to this ex.
The roommate suppressed his displeasure and asked him: If she is so good, why did you break up with her?
Answer: It was she who insisted on dividing, not me.
To put it bluntly, in fact, love and marriage are two different things, you can meet people who are one level higher than yourself on the way to love, everyone has walked a long way together, this is very normal, love a lot of times do not care so much, each other is happy. But marriage is not the same, marriage is more about equality, is the door to the right, is hello I am not bad. If you are already in a low position in the relationship and think that meeting each other is lucky, then in most cases, you will not be able to get married.
Because, there's a good chance you don't match. You have to recognize this reality, people are valuable in self-knowledge.
Everyone has the psychology of pursuing beautiful things, which is a normal thing.
It's just that this pursuit should be realistic and combined with reality, rather than allowing your own imagination to blindly weave a dream, especially when choosing the other half, whether boys or girls, after watching idol dramas, you should properly let your ideas land.
Of course, I would like to say that this situation is not a common phenomenon in life, most people can still see themselves clearly, and do not want to climb high, so I have always opposed those indiscriminate remarks that only link the two words of old age and pickiness, which is naturally extremely one-sided.
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