Diderot effect: In a relationship, the other party has the psychological phenomenon of "living more and more unsatisfied", no matter how much you pay, it is difficult to match his inflated desire.
This is called his greed and ambition, and no amount of effort you try to satisfy. In a family, if a man has such thoughts and actions, no matter how much a woman gives, it will become a joke.
In particular, women's efforts are still based on the subsidies of their mothers and parents, and it is easier to raise white-eyed wolves. After all, who will cherish what can be obtained effortlessly?
01, get married and have children, the in-laws do nothing
When Hermione and her husband talk about marriage, the in-laws are completely strangers and watch from the sidelines, neither giving a bride price nor taking a down payment to buy a wedding house. Although Hermione did not care too much about these material things, the in-laws did not take themselves seriously, but it also made Hermione feel very wronged.
When getting married, if there is really no penny dowry, even the wedding is simply simple, casually fooling around. Parents feel aggrieved for their daughters and try to persuade their daughters with poverty. But Hermione comforted herself that she was not marrying her in-laws, but her husband. As long as the husband is good, the rest is irrelevant.
After marriage, Hermione took out the 100,000 dowry given to her by her parents, and then borrowed 100,000 yuan from her parents and bought a house with her husband. With the house, the couple is more motivated.
But at that time, the decoration money was not enough, and Hermione urged her husband and in-laws to borrow 100,000 yuan to turn around. As a result, the mother-in-law said that they had worked hard to raise their son, and buying and decorating a house was their business, and they could no longer come to nibble on the old. Their money still has to be kept for the elderly.
Hermione was full of bitterness and grievances, and felt that he was just begging for food. In the end, she still went back to her mother's house and borrowed 100,000 yuan from her parents, which was successfully renovated and moved to a new home. Six months after moving, Hermione was also pregnant, and the family's life was getting worse and worse.
02, the wife does not help the mother-in-law to pay off the debt, but the monthly filial piety to the parents-in-law 5,000
Just when Hermione was about to give birth, the in-laws who had not been at the door for a long time came uninvited. As soon as the mother-in-law came, she said straight to the point that they owed 100,000 foreign debts in order to buy a marriage house for the little uncle. Now that they are old, they can't afford to repay the 100,000, and I hope that Hermione's two sons can pay back the money.
After saying that, the mother-in-law also said that if they did not have money, they could let Hermione go back to her mother's house to borrow. Hersman's family is in business and has money. Afraid that Hermione would not agree, her mother-in-law also took the initiative to open her mouth, the main Hermione was willing to help repay the 100,000 foreign debt, and then Hermione's confinement and children, she would take over.
Knowing his mother-in-law's intentions, He Min's liver hurt with anger. When you get married and buy a house, your in-laws can't get anything out. The little brother-in-law got married, but they borrowed money everywhere to buy a wedding house. The same son and daughter-in-law, but since the treatment is different, who can accept this?
He Min naturally did not agree to help her in-laws pay off their debts, this is not the debt they owe to buy a house and get married, and they are not willing to accept their in-laws to serve the confinement and take care of their children, who knows if they will ask for money to subsidize the little uncle in the name of taking care of the children?
But her husband was different, he thought that his parents had never asked him for anything. Although this time it was because of the debt owed by his brother to buy a house, but the father's debt was repaid, he could not stand idly by and watch his parents gray their hair for the 100,000 foreign debt.
In addition, the husband also thinks that He Min honors his parents-in-law 5,000 a month, and he has not said anything, so it is natural to help his parents pay off 100,000 foreign debts now. As soon as he opened his mouth, Hermione subconsciously retorted.
03, take out the bill husband's face is lost
Hermione turned and took out her mobile phone, spreading out all the records of her parents' transfer to her husband and in-laws. She said she gave her parents 5,000 a month, but that's what they deserved. Buying a house borrowed her parents 100,000 yuan, and the decoration borrowed another 100,000, a total of 200,000, and her husband never took the initiative to mention that he wanted to repay the money. Although her parents do not urge, this money cannot be repaid with a clear conscience.
Hearing that the daughter-in-law borrowed money from her mother-in-law's parents and had to pay it back, the mother-in-law jumped up at once, saying that your parents have good economic conditions and are not short of these 200,000. They don't ask, naturally there is no shortage of money, why are you in a hurry to repay the money? There is really money and no place to make, loser ladies.
Originally, after listening to Hermione's words, her husband felt that his face was lost. Now that the mother-in-law has said these words again, the husband is even more self-conscious. Without waiting for Hermione to speak, the husband began to express his position, saying that the debt owed by his brother to marry and buy a house would let his brother pay back, and his eldest son had the obligation to support his parents, but he was not obliged to support his brother.
Looking at the eldest son who rebelled, the in-laws did not look at him with a good face, saying that he was a strict wife and a white-eyed wolf, and then scolded and grinned and left. Although the in-laws are gone, the husband does not dare to mention the matter of helping his parents pay off the debt, but looking at the entangled and hesitant husband, He Min still can't help but chill.
If it is not his firm position, will your husband be blindly foolish and unclear? Who helped them buy a house and build a small family in the first place, did the husband forget everything?
Today's Topic:
Do you think the eldest son is obligated to help his parents pay off their debts?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!