When we are in love, we always feel that life is beautiful. Hopeful for the future.
It turns out that falling in love and getting married are two different things.
After marriage, you marry into the man's family, you have to adapt to the personality of each of them, you have to change yourself for the in-laws.
The habits you have developed in your mother's house, in your mother-in-law's home, you also have to fully adapt to the new environment,
First of all, because of the shift in focus of life, it is no longer like falling in love, boys revolve around you in all directions, and everything satisfies you.
When it comes to marriage, it is all about changing. Their family's living habits are unlikely to change for you alone.
It's about changing yourself for them.
So a lot of women will say that they regret getting married.
Because after marriage is a real life, the life of marriage is a material life, and everything is inseparable from economic expenses.
Therefore, all kinds of stress troubles will affect the harmony between husband and wife.
Husband and wife want to get along more harmoniously, do not compare with others, than the upper deficiencies, more than the bottom, think more about each other's benefits, think more about each other's advantages.
This not only deepens the feelings of the two people, but also releases the pressure of each other.
No one is perfect, you are not used to others, empathetic thinking, others are not accustomed to you.
People are mutual, don't always think about changing each other, many things have to go from their own reasons to find problems.
If you want to change the other person, first make yourself excellent.
If you become better, your wife will follow you to change yourself.
Such a marriage will grow rapidly, as a man you must give your wife enough security, the wife will work together with you to build a better common home.
In the process of running marriages and building families, husbands and wives also have a new understanding of each other.
If you want to have a better married life, you must pay attention
3 truths after marriage, to young people to wake up!
1. Husband and wife should tolerate each other.
Many people spoil their girlfriends like babies before they get married.
After getting married, all kinds of problems also revealed the horse's feet.
Therefore, husband and wife must understand that husband and wife are tolerant and considerate of each other, and there is no absolute understanding.
The so-called love at first sight, naturally there are no perfect match for two people, because marriage is a child from a different family.
In life, it is inevitable to encounter some setbacks,
If couples encounter things between them to keep their opinions,
Can't swallow this breath, then the love for the other party will naturally lose points.
There is a lot of backlog of bad emotions if they are not released in time.
After a long time, there will be a lot of noise.
Although there is no absolute understanding between husband and wife, there are ways to resolve it.
When a husband and wife encounter difficult things, they should be guided in a timely manner, communicate and deal with them in a timely manner, and do not hide them. There are many things that couples can endure while loving, and if you really can't get used to each other, you use him as a tool to make money. It may be much more comfortable to think like this.
As long as he is not out of line, life will still be lived, and there is no obstacle that cannot be passed.
Don't make the relationship too idealistic. There are many things that couples can communicate and deal with.
Communication is the only way to increase the relationship between husband and wife.
Couples who have passed the run-in period are also used to it, and no one can do without anyone.
Life is a lot of unsatisfactory, it depends on how you face reality.
Know how to put it down, know how to cherish the people in front of you, and the future days will get better and better.
2. Women rely on coaxing
Seeing this question, some netizens asked me a question, don't women coax them?
If women don't coax, your girlfriend will think you don't know her and don't trust her.
When you have a conflict with your girlfriend, your task is not to reason with him, if you reason with her, she will think that you don't love him enough.
Even if the girls are wrong, many girls are hindered by face, it is not good to admit their mistakes to your face, many things have been seen through, and they cannot be said to be clear.
Girls will base their mistakes on your feelings for her.
So as a man, you have to have a belly and don't argue with women about mistakes.
Many girls don't think they're wrong and will transfer their mistakes to you.
As a man, if you are still reasoning with her at this time, your girlfriend will think that you are sophistry and will think that you are a straight male cancer.
There are many things not to show your eloquence in front of your girlfriend.
Many women don't want you to reason with her, but your attitude towards women's love at this time.
The woman's mind is hidden deep enough!
Have you ever heard this song?
The overall meaning of the song "Girl's Mind Boy Don't Guess, Guess And Guess You Can't Understand" is that women are the place to talk about love, and women's minds are best not to guess. Otherwise you will misunderstand that your love for her is not deep enough.
With the lover, the main purpose is to talk about feelings,
Emotion comes first, and reason comes later.
Tie it up and persevere.
3. Men don't be too greedy.
Especially excellent men, some of them committed peach blossom luck after marriage. This kind of man is particularly greedy, as long as it is a woman who meets a heartbeat,
No matter what the situation at home, he wants everything,
He couldn't figure out what he wanted.
He only knows that after getting it, he knows how to be satisfied.
If a woman finds that her husband has committed peach blossoms after marriage,
You have to negotiate with men quickly to solve the problem quickly, and men should not be too greedy.
As long as women are tough, many men will return to the family.
As a wife, you have to quickly find out why your husband is guilty of peach blossoms.
Is it the husband's fault, or the woman doesn't know that the man has a wife.
If it is a woman's problem, you need to quickly find out her address, it is best to ask her out, and everyone will communicate and deal with it in person. If you can return to normal, you can minimize unnecessary trouble.
As a man, you must stop the loss in time and must return to the family, otherwise you will pay an unnecessary price.
If the man turns back in time, the feelings between your husband and wife are still very harmonious.
So don't use extreme methods to resolve contradictions.
At this time, what you have to do is to improve your own values, start a modern life, dress yourself up fashionably, and women must live out their own lives.
Only by making yourself more excellent, your husband will spoil you as a baby,
On the contrary, if you look down on yourself and don't know how to dress yourself, how can your husband cherish your love?
Emotional Classroom Editor's Notes,
In this world, no couple can be perfect,
All newlyweds should know that feelings are not once and for all,
Newlywed couples should always pay attention to, as long as one does not get along well, the marriage smoke will deviate from the right track, as long as the woman is off the track,
If you want to keep a relationship again, you have to pay a big price.
After five years of marriage, you will find that marriage smoke is like that!
Couples who have passed the run-in period are like their own left and right hands, and they can't do without any one.
So married women, there is nothing to regret,
Since it starts from strangers, to people who are related, and then to the hall of marriage smoke.
This is a wife sent by Heaven, as long as you cherish it,
It will definitely be the happiest person.
Life is normal, and you can take the path you have chosen steadily.