The mainland is an ancient civilization with a long history, and from ancient times to the present, there are many folk proverbs!
Some of these folk sayings are not only catchy to read, but also simple and easy to understand, such as: "Marry a wife and destroy three generations"!
Since ancient times, there has been an unwritten set of rules about the marriage and love of men and women, and it can be said that if the wife is wise and reasonable, then the family will certainly be steamed.
And once you don't marry a good wife, then for a family, there will inevitably be a lot of contradictions and obstacles, and even lead to a family, a family, towards decline.
However, the establishment of a marriage relationship is not only a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families, so whether a man marries a woman or a woman marries a man, the opinions of parents are crucial.
For the elders, they have experienced a lot of things, and sometimes with a little eye,they know if they can marry, or whether they should marry or not.
The son did not listen to his mother, and after marrying his wife, the family became a pot of porridge
After Xiao Zhang dropped out of middle school, he worked in a factory not far from home, and when he worked in the factory, Xiao Zhang met a "migrant girl" who had an assembly line with him.
The two often go to the same shift, one or two, it has become a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, last year's New Year, Xiao Zhang took his girlfriend home to meet his parents, ready to talk about marriage.
However, what people did not expect was that the parents, who have always been enlightened, did not agree to the marriage between Xiao Zhang and his girlfriend this time, according to the words of Xiao Zhang's mother: "This girl is a cruel character, you can't hold it."
But Xiao Zhang in love, which will listen to the advice of his parents, the girlfriend bride price to 110,000, Xiao Zhang's family is not poor, but not how rich, just think about whether it can be less, Xiao Zhang told his girlfriend, but was categorically rejected.
Later, the Xiao Zhang family had no way, borrowed from the east to the west, prepared the bride price, and got married.
But what I didn't expect was that a few days after getting married, Xiao Zhang's wife had a big fight with her in-laws, just because the food she cooked was a little cold, originally just a whisper, and then somehow quarreled.
Later, this kind of thing became more and more, and the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law became more and more tense, and Xiao Zhang also avoided overtime as much as possible because he had no way to do anything to his wife, and did not go home as much as possible...
Therefore, the matter of marrying a wife is very important for many men, if the wife is not virtuous, it will not only bring a lot of trouble to yourself, but may also have a great impact on your life.
Therefore, more and more mothers-in-law will have their own new standards when choosing a daughter-in-law, let's take a look at it.
Mother-in-law's new standard for choosing a daughter-in-law, 3 no daughters are included in the blacklist of marriage and love, which has nothing to do with the family room
1. There is no filial piety
Like mentioned above, marriage is not a matter for two people, but a matter for two families.
It is even said that after some families get married, they need to live with their in-laws, the so-called look up and do not look down, there must be some bumps in life.
If at this time, the woman does not have any filial piety and barks at her in-laws to drink five or six, then the family will inevitably become a miasma.
In addition, from ancient times to the present, the emphasis is on filial piety first, whether it is good looking or not, or whether the family is good or bad, in fact, it does not matter, filial piety to both parents, is the primary condition.
2. Lack of ability to live independently
Many girls, from childhood to adulthood, are spoiled by their parents into little princesses, clothes to reach out, food to open their mouths, have not done anything, and lack the ability to live independently.
And once married, it is chicken and garlic and chai rice oil and salt, a short time can be done, but over time, it is difficult to have a person who will take care of you everywhere, spoil you, he is tired and you are tired.
So marriage is the joint effort of two people, if they do not have the ability to live independently, then marrying the past, will also face a lot of problems.
3, there is no principle, incarnate as a brother demon, help the father demon
After a woman marries, the focus should be on running her own small family, if there has been no principle, blindly pay for her own mother's family, then her small family will suffer damage.
Especially some fudi demons, as well as fu daddy demons, obviously have married, but they still have to pay a lot for their own mother's family, and after a long time, how will their family's life be lived.
Therefore, to help the mother's family, there is nothing wrong with discussing the love points, but it is also necessary to stop in moderation, do not use the fragmentation of your own family in exchange for the happiness of the mother's family, really some gains are not worth the loss.
In real life, talking about boyfriend and girlfriend and marrying are two different things, talking about love, not involving so many things, once married, then at the same time, it is a family business, so it makes great sense to say that marrying a wife and marrying a virtuous person.
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