The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
In fact, the original intention of the bride price is only a symbol of the in-laws' family in order to show their strong strength, indicating that the girl's parents can rest assured that they can entrust their daughter to their own family, and they have enough strength to protect her.
It was only in the subsequent development that the bride price gradually lost its original intention, and even became a vassal of the marriage for a time, and to some extent, the bride price became one of the necessary factors to determine whether the marriage was established or not.
In today's life, there are many couples who are unhappy because of the bride price, and many daughters do not interact with their parents because of the bride price after they get married.
Therefore, whether the bride price really has a meaning or not has become something that many people have thought about.
01 The bride price has become a necessary part of marriage
In Dan Dan's heart, she has always thought that her parents love her very much, even though she has a younger brother, but in so many years of life, she has not felt that her parents have a partial love for her brother, and whenever there is good food in the family, it is the two brothers and sisters who share equally.
Therefore, even when Dan Dan got married, his parents asked for a dowry of 200,000 yuan, and Dan Dan never questioned his parents' decision, because Dan Dan believed that no matter how much the parents wanted the bride price, when he finally got married, he would definitely give it to himself as a dowry.
Although over the years, Dan Dan has also seen many parents use their daughter's bride price as a son's wife, dan Dan does not think that this kind of thing will happen to him.
Therefore, after the boyfriend's family prepared a suite, and then took out a 200,000 dowry to dan dan's parents, this family affair can be considered to be determined.
In fact, at the beginning, the boyfriend also discussed the bride price with Dan Dan, thinking about whether it could be less, Dan Dan also considered the actual situation of the boyfriend's family at that time, and discussed this matter with his parents, but the parents' attitude changed from usual, and they did not ask the boyfriend's family to take out the bride price, otherwise they would not agree to the marriage.
Seeing that the bride price has become an indispensable part of the marriage, in desperation, the boyfriend only needs to find relatives and friends to help him, and only then can he make up enough for the bride price.
02 Everything was lost at the time of the dowry
However, on the day of Dan Dan's marriage, his parents did not mention anything about the bride price, and the dowry was only a few quilts.
Dan Dan thought that his parents had forgotten to marry, so he returned to his mother's house on the third day after marriage and asked about his bride price.
However, I did not expect that the reply given by my parents was to leave these dowries to Dan Dan's brother and daughter-in-law, and finally said: We thought you would agree.
After hearing his parents' words, Dan Dan really couldn't understand, but then he thought about it, it seems that from the beginning, his parents never promised to bring back the bride price, and all this was just his own wishful thinking.
However, when he heard that his parents wanted to leave the dowry for his brother to marry his daughter-in-law, Dan Dan was not calm.
Dan Dan asked, when did he say that he agreed to leave the bride price to his brother and daughter-in-law?
And the parents are only vague and can't say why.
Seeing the appearance of his parents, Dan Dan completely understood this matter, it turned out that his parents did not intend to keep the bride price to themselves from the beginning, but everything they expected when they got married, now it seems that they have all failed.
In desperation, Dan Dan had to return to his home disheartened.
03 The younger brother did not arrive at the wedding and did not return to his mother's house for three years
When the husband saw Dan Dan return home frustrated, his heart instantly understood, he did not speak, just gave Dan Dan a warm hug.
Dan Dan looked at such an understanding husband, and the shame in her heart instantly increased by a few points, especially when she saw her husband and a large family exhaust all their savings for this family affair, she was even more incomprehensible to her parents' behavior.
After returning from that time from his mother's house, Dan Dan never went back, even if his brother got married later, Dan Dan did not show up.
And Dan Dan's parents also blamed Dan Dan for not understanding things, after all, it is a younger brother, as an older sister, to pay something for his brother that should be taken for granted.
And Dan Dan's response to his parents is: being a sister can help her brother, but she should not exchange her sister's happiness for it, do you know how I spent the time I just married?
When the parents listened to Dan Dan's story, they were silent.
Dan Dan did not return to his mother's house for three years.
During this three-year period, DanDan's parents also developed remorse, they began to feel guilty because of their actions at that time, and began to call Dandan continuously, trying to repair this broken family relationship.
However, as Dan Dan, even though her parents have nurturing grace for her, she is reluctant to transfer her gratitude to her parents to her husband, because her parents have no affection for their husbands, and since they have been married for so long, their parents have never treated their husbands as relatives.
It is also based on the responsibility for her husband that the distance between Dan Dan and her parents is gradually drifting away.
But in the end, it is still Dan Dan's parents who are at fault first, to borrow a phrase: if you knew this, why did you have to do it in the first place.
Conclusion: Even if you are as close as a mother and daughter, in the face of the marriage of your children, you should fulfill your responsibility as a parent, if you hurt your daughter's heart at this time, even if you want to make up for it in the follow-up relationship, it is not a simple thing.