We often have the failure of others to manage our feelings, which affects our original correct attitude towards marriage. But forget that others are always others, and you are still you, brave to take the first step, maybe marriage will bring you a lot of real beauty.
Marriage is a major event in life, whether it is happy or not, the choice of mate is very critical.
Today, Xiaobian talks with you about some of the wisdom of Mr. Oniguzi, about mate selection, he gave these 2 warnings: do not marry this 2 women.
1. Can't marry a "woman without tolerance"
There is a saying that "like is a chess opponent, and love is a bow to the wind."
Deeply believed, in the feelings, the party who knows how to love is often willing to play the one who loses.
In life, two people together, more or less there will be disagreements, differences of opinion, if both parties are not willing to bow their heads first, or even quarrel for a trivial matter, then, each other will only step by step to the brink of separation.
"If a person is not Yao Shun, who can be perfect?" Life is not smooth sailing, so men are working outside, there must be opportunities for trial and error, as a woman should try to tolerate his mistakes, which will also make the husband more fighting spirit.
At the same time, being able to tolerate some of the "shortcomings" of the in-laws is also a manifestation of a woman's tolerance. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes, and only by knowing the mistakes can they be corrected.
If women cling to men's mistakes, then there is no tolerance, so men must not marry such women.
2. Can't marry a "woman who doesn't honor her parents"
Home is the house, parents are beams. No beams, no houses, no kindness, no home. Parents are the softest place in everyone's heart and the most proud treasure. Parents are our roots, and the old saying goes, "If you don't filial piety to your parents, it is useless to worship the Buddha." ”
Parents are the greatest blessing in the world, and treating parents well is a person's greatest blessing.
Women play a key role in family relationships. A good woman can make the family happy and harmonious, and can make the husband's family and the in-laws get along harmoniously. As the saying goes, "Harmony makes money, and home and everything is prosperous." "Women, if they can maintain family harmony, are the greatest contribution.
The most important factor in family harmony is "filial piety." A wise woman will filial piety to her husband's parents as if they were her own. The daughter-in-law can be filial to the in-laws of the family, the husband is naturally grateful, and the relationship between husband and wife will become better and better.
However, in real life, the most difficult thing to deal with is also the "mother-in-law contradiction". If the wife and her parents do not get along well, three days a small quarrel, ten days a big quarrel, as a son and husband, it is difficult for men to deal with. If it does not change, there are only two consequences: first, living separately from parents; second, continued quarrels, family discord, and family paths.
The Book of Filial Piety says, "Filial piety, the scripture of heaven, and the righteousness of the earth." "Parents are the ones who nurture us, and it is of course a matter of course to honor them. If a woman who can't even be honored by her parents, it's best to forget it.
The above is just the knowledge I learned in "Ghost Valley", people in this world, it is worth reading the book "Ghost Valley".
Oniguzi is revered by later generations as a "saint", not only good at power planning, but also good at psychology, understand health, and has the wisdom of the whole world.
The book "Ghost Valley" contains his lifelong wisdom and is known as "the forbidden fruit of wisdom and wisdom".
Human nature is complex, in this society, the human heart is also the most difficult thing to guess, you do not learn to control the human heart, then others will control you!
Or read the wisdom of "Oniguzi" and get a strategy from it, there are also many people who misunderstand Oniguzi, thinking that it is full of conspiracies and calculations, in fact, it is more like a tool book, teaching us how to do a thing.
"Oniguzi" is a strange book produced by the "Axial Age" of human civilization, and its ideological content is very rich, and it has made important contributions to the theoretical construction of the Zonghengjia doctrine. The wisdom and strategy it provides still have a guiding meaning for all aspects of real life today.
Its fields cover management, shopping malls, workplaces, dealings with the world and other fields, presenting the wisdom and strategy of Oniguzi with wonderful stories.
As a summary of the experience of The Taoists, "Ghost Valley" integrates the essence of Ghost Valley's lifelong academic research, and its value is self-evident. This book was later called "The Forbidden Fruit of Wisdom, the Book of Wonders".
"Ghost Valley" is the only work of Mr. Ghost Valley, the only classic book handed down by the Zongheng family in the Warring States period, and the world's earliest public relations theory work.
The art of wisdom and power it reveals has always been studied by ancient Chinese military experts, and modern people have widely used it in the fields of internal affairs, diplomacy, war, economy and trade, and public relations.
After watching "Ghost Valley", I found that our usual communication skills and "unspoken rules", in fact, Mr. Ghost Valley Zi has already explained clearly.
In our lives, it is not okay not to understand a little strategy, after all, human nature is complex, in this society, the human heart is also the most difficult thing to guess, you do not learn to control the human heart, then others will control you! If you are too kind, others will be malicious to you!
Some people say that as long as there is a place where Chinese, there will be the situation described in "Oniguzi". Whether you're waiting for someone in a car, going to the toilet at home, or meditating before bedtime, you can take it out and take a look.
These five sets of books are a collection of oratory skills, human weaknesses, and the essence of psychology, which are required for bosses, businessmen, and professionals. The book covers many classic cases, each of which has an analysis and introduction, teaching everyone the survival rules and wisdom strategies for people to deal with the world, borrowing the experience of the ancients and taking many detours.
Learn strategy, learn psychology, these five books are enough, can benefit you for life, understand many ways that can make your life usher in a turnaround in the world, why not enjoy it?