Wen \ Mu Xin
Her parents divorced at the age of one and a half, she was harassed by a neighbor at the age of 5, she was forced to drop out of high school, and she suffered from cancer after a middle-aged divorce, as if all the bad luck had found her.
But this woman, who was ravaged by bad luck, relied on her own mental power to become better, and achieved a reversal in her life again and again.
After the divorce, in order to get out of the pain, she began to get in touch with healing knowledge, took the psychological counselor exam, wrote books, gave speeches, and trained.
Suffering from cancer at the age of 50, she used her self-created mind-body therapy to defeat cancer in 6 months, and continued her brilliant second half of her life, becoming a movie star at the age of 81 and appearing on a talk show.
She is the writer Louise, who wrote her first book, The Reconstruction of Life, in 1984, using her own experience to inspire readers and share that as long as one wants to be better, there are ways to change life for the better.
The book was an instant hit, reaching No. 1 on the New York Times bestseller list for 50 consecutive weeks, and some readers even bought the book 20 times to give it to friends and family.
This book is really great, and after reading it, you will be blown away by Louise's powerful telekinesis, and convinced of the miraculous power of changing your mind and changing your life.
Really, the signs that a person is getting better can be summed up in three words: want to get better. Let's take a look at how Louis grasped the idea of "wanting to be better" in his heart and counterattacked step by step when he encountered difficulties in his life.
01 You can't enjoy life, often because the past was too painful, and you want to jump out of this cage
In the recent hit drama "We Are Not Kind Enough", the heroine Jian Qingfang has been living in the obsession of her husband living with her ex in her heart for 12 years, and she is so depressed that she wants to go crazy.
Jian Qingfang, not to mention enjoying life, is even unsustainable in a normal life, because of a little thing, she has to encounter cold violence from her husband.
Louise's past is much worse than Jian Qingfang's, and she is also trapped in the pain of the past and can't extricate herself.
Harassed by her neighbors at the age of 5 and testifying in court, Louise lived in fear that her neighbors might seek revenge on her when she was released from prison.
The house leak happened to rain overnight, and after her mother remarried, her stepfather often abused her, causing Louise not to believe that good things would happen to her.
In the fourth grade of primary school, the school gave cakes to the children. Louise's long-term "sense of unworthiness" made her subconsciously stand at the back.
When it was her turn, the cake was gone. Louise didn't fight for it, but blamed it all on herself, feeling that she really didn't deserve the food.
Even though she was fortunate enough to work as a model under the banner of a famous designer, Louise still refused to recognize her good looks, but was more critical of herself and criticized herself.
After marrying a wealthy businessman, Louise's life spanned several classes, and she and her husband met royalty and were invited to dinner at the White House.
But she still lives in the low self-esteem of the past, and she is distressed by this, and finally through hard practice, she finally gets out of the way of her demons. But when things got a little better, her husband cheated on her and filed for divorce, and Louise broke down again.
At the age of 50, she was diagnosed with cancer and her life hit rock bottom, and she had to face the pain and think about where she came from and where she went.
In "The Reconstruction of Life", Louise exhorts readers with her own feelings:
"Please always remember that the past is only the past, it only hurts or torments us, and nothing else. ”
A bad past doesn't do life any good, except for bringing painful feelings, torturing physical and mental health, and ruining our already small enthusiasm.
Life is to plant melons and get melons, plant beans and get beans, rooted in pain in the heart, good things want to come to the door, but can't come in, and the heart is rooted in happiness, good things squeeze through the door, and want to come in.
If you can't enjoy life all the time, it's because your past is too painful. We are not robots without feelings, and we should allow ourselves to feel emotions, but it is important that you try to break out of this cage and let the "past" be the wisdom of "passing".
02 "In the past", we must "get by"
"The Reconstruction of Life" mentions:
After Louise's divorce, her self-esteem, which had improved a little bit, collapsed again. During her days of depression, she realized that she had to do something to divert her pain.
By chance, she attended a meeting of the Scientology Church in New York City. Louise was so interested that she forced herself to absorb new knowledge, and even passed the exam and became a full-time counselor.
Soon after, Louise was diagnosed with cancer. The experience of psychological counseling has taught her that cancer is a physical illness caused by long-term pain and resentment.
The past that can't be passed blindly is with her body and mind, and Louise feels that it's time to let the past and become the past.
After surgery to remove the cancer cells, if you don't change your old mental patterns, your disease will return. Louise didn't want surgery, so she immediately took responsibility for her own healing.
In the book, she shares the practice of letting go of the past:
"Which paragraph do you want to let go, write it down. Do you really want to let go? Feel your true voice and record it. What do you need to do to let go of the past? Are you willing to do it?"
Write down the past when you want to let go, and feel the voice of your heart that is eager to let go. Memories can't be erased, and we can erase the painful feelings caused by memories.
Then, Louise slammed the pillow and roared loudly to vent some of the anger that had been stagnant in her heart.
From the stories told by her mother, she pieced together the childhood of her parents, felt the pain they suffered, and the limitations of how they did things, and relieved them of the harm they had done to herself.
This is not enough, she also started the road of self-recognition 400 times a day: throw away "I'm not good" and replace it with "I recognize myself".
Positive psychological stimulation became a part of Louise's daily routine, and with a healthy diet and physical therapy, when she went to the hospital for a follow-up examination in 6 months, all the cancer cells were gone.
Wu Zhihong said:
"We need to recognize our current desires, understand that they must have come from the past, and then try to let go of them. When you are able to let go, you can see the essence of what is happening, and then that insight will automatically tell you what you should do. ”
In other words, when you are truly willing to let go of the past and forgive those who have hurt you, you have the wisdom to live in the present.
Yes, based on the present, forgiving others, letting go of others, and then affirming yourself and accepting yourself, this is the golden key to unlocking change.
Once change is in your heart, the essence of things is clearly revealed to you, and your insight will drive your thoughts and turn your situation in a better direction.
03 You have to believe that if your mind changes, your situation will be completely different
People think differently, and you can be surprised by the change in circumstances. Louise, the author of "The Reconstruction of Life", has been able to overcome cancer with a change of mind, and she will be more confident about her future.
When she decided to leave New York, where she had established herself, and go to Los Angeles, where she had a better environment, she no longer trembled as she used to, and she was convinced that she could have a world in a strange city.
In Los Angeles, Louise didn't know anyone but her mother and sister. She still confidently took her debut novel "Heal Your Body" to various parties and introduce herself.
In just half a year, Louise was invited to give lectures in many places, and her work became more and more. Within a few years, she had a comfortable home in Los Angeles and hired a nanny to take care of her elderly mother.
In 1984, Louise wrote the book "The Rebuilding of Life", which was translated into more than 40 languages, published in more than 100 countries, and sold more than 50 million copies worldwide over the next 30 years.
Louise's situation is still getting better, and at the age of 81, director Michael Guchan made the film "The Miracle of Life" based on her story, and invited Louise herself to play the lead role.
When the film was released to critical acclaim, Louise described the letters she received for it as like snowflakes. Immediately, the talk show invited her to the stage twice to talk about "The Reconstruction of Life" and the film.
As a result, more than 20 years after its publication, "The Rebuilding of Life" is once again on the charts. An unprecedented best-selling miracle, Louise did.
Her life was much more than that, and until her death at the age of 91, Louise's life was still undergoing new and wonderful changes.
Louise uses her own experience to illustrate the book's ideas:
"Anything can change. When the mind changes, the situation will be completely new. ”
We can create change, or rather, we are change itself. If you change your mind, the people and things around you will change with you, and you will get closer to the ideal world you want.
If you look at people who have achieved success in their careers, you will find that their ideas must be positive and enterprising.
Even if they encounter setbacks or even be deceived and pitted, their pain is only temporary, their ideas change quickly, and the speed of turning over again is naturally far beyond ordinary people's expectations.
04 Mei Niang said
How much change can a change in your mind come about? The answer is beyond your imagination, if you don't believe it, just look at Louise, she relied on her inner strength to pull herself out of the quagmire of life.
From an outcast of fate, to being called "the queen of the new era" by the New York Times, and even affectionately referred to by the media as "the closest to a saint".
Louise's method of change is not obscure and difficult to operate, in the book "The Reconstruction of Life", each of us can see our own shadow, and every heart disease can also find a corresponding panacea.
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When we heal the pain in our hearts, we will not only have a healthy physical and mental state, but also form a strong magnetic field to attract better things to us, and we can also meet a better self.
Perhaps, after you only read a page or two, the change began to happen, and countless readers have verified this, and I look forward to you after reading it, reflecting on the new life after the change!