The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth remains in the heart
Behind every unhappy marriage there is an unreasonable person, and it is precisely because of his ignorance that the originally harmonious family has fallen apart.
Xiao Li's ex-husband suddenly found himself, originally thought he was in trouble, did not expect the first sentence to open the mouth is to tell Xiao Li to give her mother 6,000 living expenses every month, Xiao Li heard this but was angry and laughed, she smiled and asked her ex-husband: Do you know how long we have been divorced, three years, you now let me support your mother, do you think it is appropriate?
The ex-husband did not get angry because of Xiao Li's words, but also listed many reasons, Xiao Li saw her ex-husband like this, can't help but be disappointed, three years later, his phoenix male characteristics have not changed.
Xiaoli and her ex-husband met through the introduction of a matchmaker, and later after a period of getting along, the marriage between the two was put on the agenda.
Xiaoli just met her husband when she was young, her husband showed meticulous care for her, no matter what will go along with Xiaoli, this experience of being pampered once made Xiaoli have a feeling of finding true love, in Xiaoli's words, "I have never found someone who cares so much about herself", it is based on this that Xiaoli decided to entrust herself to her husband.
However, after the establishment of the marriage between the two, Xiaoli gradually felt that her husband did not seem to be as concerned about herself as before, before, whenever there was a need, her husband would appear in front of her for the first time, but after the engagement, the husband would always find various reasons, either busy, or temporarily unable to walk outside and perfunctory Xiaoli.
And gradually, the husband in the relationship with Xiaoli, the status slowly prevailed, because the husband is through his own efforts to live a happy life, but he has a "phoenix man" quality in his bones, always look down on the people around him who are better than him, and Xiaoli is a native of the city, after completely getting along with each other, sometimes Xiaoli can detect a little from her husband's tone that he looks down on his family.
However, at that time, Xiaoli was already engaged to him, and there was no reason to regret the marriage without major changes, and Xiaoli believed that she would slowly change her husband's temper after marriage.
But the reality is that Xiaoli obviously overestimated her own ability, and after marriage, Xiaoli not only did not change her husband, but was also angry with him.
In the first year after marriage, Xiaoli took her husband back to her mother's house, and before returning to her mother's house, Xiaoli said to her husband: This year is the first time we return to our mother's house, we must bring more things.
But the husband did not think so, he said: Your family is a city person, there can be less things in the family, I think it is better that we bring some fruit, go to your house for a meal and we will come back.
Xiao Li couldn't help but be a little annoyed when she saw her husband so casually: After all, this is the first time we have come home, where is the reason for such a casual?
But the husband was not moved, and when he turned around, he took Xiaoli to the fruit stall, weighed a few pounds of fruit, and dragged Xiaoli to her mother's house.
For the arrival of their daughter and son-in-law, Xiaoli's parents are naturally very happy, they prepared a table of hearty meals, just to entertain Xiaoli and her husband, and the second elder did not dislike the son-in-law only brought a few pounds of fruit, on the table, Xiaoli's mother has been giving the son-in-law a dish.
On the way home, Xiaoli asked her husband: We only brought a few pounds of fruit with us, and our mother left us to eat a meal and gave us a gift, do you think it is appropriate?
But the husband did not feel ashamed, but still thought that this was what Xiaoli's parents should do.
It was through this incident that Xiao li found that she was powerless to change the quality of her husband's "phoenix man".
Later, the contradiction between husband and wife was also deepened because of the quality of her husband Phoenix Man, and eventually Xiaoli and her husband embarked on the road of divorce.
Xiaoli is a soft-hearted person, even after the divorce, she is still because of the old love, sometimes with the ex-husband more contact, when the ex-husband encounters difficulties, she will also do her part to help him through the difficulties, although Xiaoli nian and the old love will help the ex-husband, but in Xiaoli's heart, clearly understand that there is no possibility of recovery between herself and her ex-husband.
However, what Xiaoli did not expect was that his heart was soft in the heart of her ex-husband, but it was deserved, he accepted his help every time with peace of mind, until once, the ex-husband actually took the initiative to find himself, and the first sentence after meeting "I am now encountering difficulties, you want to give my mother 6,000 living expenses every month."
Xiao Li was stunned after hearing this sentence, and the ex-husband's expression was reasonable, it seemed that she was fully sure that Xiao Li would not refuse. Xiao Li couldn't help but sneer when she saw this situation: Do you know how long we have been divorced? It's been three years. Let me give your mother living expenses, I'm afraid I'm not joking.
After saying this, Xiao Li turned around and left, that is, from then on, Xiao Li decided not to be soft-hearted and would not have any contact with her ex-husband again, because her phoenix man's quality would not change at all, and everything she did was in vain.
Conclusion: Phoenix man is ultimately a major reason for hindering the happy relationship between husband and wife, just like Xiao Li's experience, even if Xiao Li has made more efforts, she still can't change the characteristics of her husband Phoenix man, so if you want to be happy in marriage, staying away from The Phoenix Man is the most critical step.