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The Spring Festival of 2022 is approaching, and returning home for reunion has become the biggest thing for people who are working outside.
Whether there is money or not, whether it is mixed well or not, as long as you can go home and see your relatives who think about it day and night, you will eat a Chinese New Year's Eve meal with your family, which is a custom and a year-round thought.
Obara is no exception. Xiao Yuan was married far away, before getting married, she discussed with her husband, and then returned to her mother's house every other year for the New Year, after all, she was so far away from home, she usually did not have the opportunity to go home.
The husband is a filial man, filial to his own father and mother, and filial to his father-in-law and mother-in-law, naturally agreed to Obara.
This New Year's Day, Obara's husband also spent more than five thousand yuan to buy a trunk of New Year goods for his parents-in-law, and the wine for his father-in-law alone was almost two thousand yuan.
The family of three drove towards Xiao Yuan's mother's house three days in advance, and the road was stop-and-go, and it was about the next morning.
When she thought of going home, Xiao Yuan was very excited, last year when she returned to her in-laws' house for the New Year, she couldn't help but cry when she videoed with her parents, even if she was an adult, she would miss her parents after not seeing her parents for a long time.
After arriving at her mother's house, Obara did not rest, taking advantage of the gap between her mother and the neighbors, she began to get busy and prepare to cook meals for a family of eight.
Although it was not Chinese New Year's Eve rice, Obara also prepared very carefully, a total of twelve dishes, with fish and meat.
By the time she was done, she washed her hands and came out of the kitchen, and everyone was already seated and had already begun to eat.
Although no one greeted Ohara, Obara didn't care. In her mother's house, the master, did not have to be greeted, she moved a stool and began to eat.
After eating, she began to pack up the New Year goods she had brought to her parents, ready to gather up and think about what to do Chinese New Year's Eve meal.
It was at this time that she heard her daughter calling out to her that she wanted to drink a bag of strawberry-flavored yogurt.
Obara remembered that there was a box of yogurt in the New Year goods he bought, which was strawberry flavored. So she hurried to find out for her daughter.
But when she went to the door of the room where the New Year goods were placed, she found that her mother was carrying the box of milk under the bed.
Obara was stunned. Originally, she thought that the mother was going to take the milk out for her daughter to drink, because the house was not big, and the mother should have heard that her daughter wanted to drink milk, but the mother turned around and hid.
This surprised Obara and asked his mother why she was doing this. The mother was stunned, laughed and took out the box of strawberry-flavored milk, unsealed it, and handed Itahara a bag.
Ohara didn't think much of it, but the things that made her sad were still to come.
When the mother's grandson, the son of The Great Brother Obara, arrived home, the mother held the box of milk and brought it directly to her grandson.
Not only this box of milk, but also various snacks at home, began to be put on the surface.
Ohara looked at the picture of her mother looking at her grandson smiling and giggling, and stuffing all the delicious food into her grandson, and the tears fell.
On the day her daughter came, her mother had never smiled like this, nor had she ever brought delicious food to her niece, and she felt very cold.
In the past, her daughter always told her that she thought her grandmother didn't like her, and she didn't care, but now she finally understood why her daughter said this.
She only knew that her daughter and son were different, but she never thought that in her mother's eyes, her grandson and niece were also different.
Ohara couldn't bear to see her daughter being treated differently here, so he shouted at her husband and daughter that day, and returned to her in-laws' house despite her mother's obstruction.
The rice was made by her, the New Year goods were bought by their family, why should the mother treat them differently. At the beginning, the mother was partial to the eldest brother, she did not care, and now she was biased towards the son of the eldest brother, and she could not accept it by treating her daughter differently.
Obara secretly swore in his heart that from now on, he would never return to his mother's house in the New Year. Of course, if the mother needs her, she can be filial as she is.
When Xiao Yuan told me about this matter in WeChat, although I advised her, the old man was probably like this, after all, it was her grandson, the old man preferred the grandson more than nothing to blame, as long as he did not mistreat his niece, it would not be impossible to spend the New Year. But Obara insisted on leaving.
Through this incident, I think we can get two lessons.
01 There is only one kind of relative in this world, that is, people who care about you and hurt you
The relatives in this world are not only defined by blood relations, but to see if he really cares about you and hurts you.
Just like Obara, she was treated differently by her parents since she was a child, everything was used by her eldest brother, and even when she was in college, her parents did not pay her a penny, before she had children, she did not care about her parents' preference for sons and daughters, and was willing to be filial to her parents.
But when she had a daughter, she suddenly recognized something. She didn't want her daughter to be like herself and to be inferior until now.
At that time, she had suffered and suffered in order to earn tuition fees, and she did not want her daughter to experience it again, and she did not want her daughter to contact such a grandmother.
Think of her mother-in-law, from marriage to unconditionally support their small family financially, when she was pregnant, confinement, mother-in-law changed the pattern to make her food, for her and her husband to share the pressure, treat her as a daughter.
She understood that in the future, she would definitely return to her mother-in-law's house in the New Year. This is her home.
In her mother's family, she has always been a dispensable person, no matter how filial piety, it is not as good as the eldest brother's favor.
Evening Affection said: "Regardless of whether you are related by blood or not, there is only one kind of relative in this world, that is, people who care about you and hurt you, and vice versa." ”
Deeply.
Whoever is good to us, we are good to whom, and those who are not good to us are not qualified to let us be good to her. This is the eternal truth.
02 We can't choose our parents, but no matter what card we are given, we have to play it well
Keigo Higashino once said, "Everyone wants to be born in a good family, but you can't choose what kind of cards your parents give you, you can only try to play it well." ”
truly. Being born in a patriarchal family is the sadness of every girl. But we can't choose our parents, and we can't avoid this sadness.
We cannot break the jar or be homogenized because of this sadness.
When we suffer from unfair treatment by our parents, we should strive to be stronger. The so-called knowledge changes destiny, no matter what, we must struggle to move forward, do not abandon or give up, play this is not a good card.
Don't hope that such parents will one day change their minds, and don't dwell on why your parents treat you this way, all you have to do is be as independent as possible.
Of course, it is true that your parents gave birth to you and raised you, and for this nurturing grace, you can do your duty to support them, but you don't have to be too good to them.
You don't have to live in your conscience, when they treat you differently, they are doomed to have such an ending.
What we should cherish are those who are good to us and worthy of our cherishing.
In 2022, may everyone be reunited with their families, safe and smooth, healthy and healthy!
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