It's the New Year, and the family members who have worked hard for a year can finally get together and have a lively reunion dinner.
However, for thousands of years, it has been the case in many families that daughters spend the New Year in their in-laws' homes after they get married.
If there are many children in the family, it is not obvious that there is anything, but for some families with only one child, if the daughters are in the in-laws' house for the New Year after marriage, then only the parents are left with four eyes facing each other and spending a cold Chinese New Year's Eve.
This scene, whether it is a daughter or a parent himself, feels a little desolate. Especially in some families, the daughter works in the field and does not return home for many years, and the mother-in-law is in other cities, and the parents of the girls are more worried about their children.
What do you usually do about such a situation?
Aunt Li next door has only one daughter, who stays in a first-tier city after graduation, where she gets married and has children, and her husband's family is in the countryside of another province.
Daughters and sons-in-law are only children, and every New Year's Day, the spiritual torture comes: go to the in-laws' house or go back to the mother's house?
The two young couples did not have less conflicts because of this problem, but each time Aunt Li took the initiative to reconcile, saying that the two couples had hands and feet, and when they wanted their daughter and grandson, they could fly over to see them.
In addition, the city where the daughter is located is relatively close to the in-laws, and it is more convenient to drive back. It is also because of the tolerance of Aunt Li and her husband and wife that every New Year, the daughter and son-in-law's family go back to the in-laws' house.
However, in the past two years, due to special circumstances, Aunt Li and her two families have not seen their grandson for a long time, so they flew to their daughter's house before the New Year.
However, the results of everyone's discussion came and went, and the son-in-law still insisted on going back to his parents' house for the New Year. As a last resort, Aunt Li and her family of three drove to their relatives' home.
Along the way, the son-in-law talked about how interesting the family is for the New Year, how many New Year goods the parents have prepared, and how lively the whole family is sitting around.
After arriving at her own home, Aunt Li found that she was very different from what she imagined. Before leaving, the son-in-law called to tell her parents-in-law that they were going to go to the New Year together, but when they entered the door, they felt that they were not prepared for anything.
It was a mess, the living room was full of stuff, and there was no place to get off the feet. The family laughed and said that it was the New Year, too busy to clean up.
When it comes to hunger, the few plates brought by my mother are greasy and greasy, but they are cold.
The daughter looked strange, put down the luggage and began to pack, took the initiative to boil water to make tea for her parents, and then went to the kitchen to prepare meals for them. Aunt Li felt that her heart was suddenly blocked.
They had met with the couple when talking about marriage, and they saw that the mother of the family had a board and an eye, and was a Liso person, and the rest of the understanding was not deep.
When the daughter gave birth to a child and sat in confinement, the mother was not in good health and could not serve, and she also called Aunt Li specifically to say that she did not want to go.
At that time, Aunt Li didn't think much about it, thinking that when anyone didn't have a bad health, they were older, and she could understand. Besides, whose daughter was distressed, she and her wife personally took care of their daughter for more than three months before leaving.
Nowadays, it seems that the family is playing with their own eyes. When I first picked up their luggage, my hands and feet were fast, much stronger than I looked.
Aunt Li couldn't sit still in the living room and went to the kitchen to see her daughter.
In the small kitchen, there are things piled up everywhere, and there are bowls in the sink that have not been brushed after eating.
Watching the cold water freeze her daughter's hands red, her heart ached. Her daughter has not spoken of herself since she was a child, but she is also a treasure in the palm of her hand.
When her daughter's family returned to her home, she never let them do any work, just sat and waited to eat. I didn't expect that my daughter, who had been married for several years, had never complained to herself, and she had silently endured all this.
The daughter looked at Aunt Li with red eyes and pushed her out of the kitchen, saying that she would soon cook a hot soup and let her rest in the living room first.
Aunt Li, who was lying in bed at night and couldn't sleep, couldn't help but regret her hasty promise to marry her daughter.
I still remember that at the wedding, the son-in-law vowed that after marriage, she would spoil her daughter as a princess and not let her suffer any hardships.
However, along the way, the daughter who changed cars with her son-in-law, after running nearly 1,000 kilometers to the in-laws' house, she couldn't help but do all kinds of work, while the son-in-law hid in the sofa and talked with her parents.
The in-laws did not think there was anything wrong with the daughter-in-law going to the kitchen as soon as she arrived at home, it seemed that this was a habit that had been formed. Thousands of miles have traveled to visit them, but even a hot meal needs to be done by hand.
Aunt Li felt that one of her hearts had been crushed, but she did not dare to tell her wife her thoughts, because her heart was not very good, and she was afraid that he would be even more upset, but she just tried to help her daughter do something she could.
However, the big Chinese New Year's Eve really made Aunt Li collapse, and there were many relatives in the family, but the kitchen was still busy only the daughter.
The son-in-law seems to have become another person, between everyone's conversation, no one thinks that the daughter is cooking alone is not normal, and the most that the family says to Aunt Li is a sentence of "Dear family, you sit and rest!" ”
How is it possible to rest? The daughter was busy in the kitchen, and if I remember correctly, she was still in her menstrual period before leaving.
Aunt Li held her breath in her heart. After all the dishes were put on the table and the people in the room were eating and drinking hotly, Aunt Li pulled her daughter, who had been tired for two days, to sit down next to her.
She felt that some words could no longer be heard in her heart, and then she stood up and said to everyone, "My daughter, getting married is not a free nanny, you can eat these dishes with peace of mind, but I can't eat them." ”
The daughter tried to dissuade Aunt Li one by one, but she couldn't care about anything, she only felt full of anger and couldn't bear it for a moment.
She said of her son-in-law: "You promised to treat my daughter like a princess, but she was still in her menstrual period, so you let her wash her in cold water for two days." ”
At this time, the daughter's mother-in-law came over and said, "Dear family, where do you want to go?" In our case, the daughter-in-law should be like this, this is the old rule. The son-in-law also responded to the peace. Aunt Li couldn't listen to anything.
If you don't go to your family's home, perhaps in Aunt Li's heart, the son-in-law treats her daughter well, and the in-laws are reasonable.
But I personally experienced this experience, but I found that under the bright surface of anything, I don't know how much unknown bitterness there is.
Aunt Li did not know what kind of impact she had on her daughter's marriage after such a drama, but she did not regret it, and she hoped that her daughter would be treated fairly.
It is not to go to the in-laws' house and do nothing, nor to be spoiled as a princess like in the mother's house, but not to push everything on her alone, as if she does not go back, and the family will not be able to live for many years.
New Year is not a one-person affair, if everyone can reach out, even if the daughter does more, she will not think too much. But this fact, she really can't accept.
Aunt Li regretted that her daughter had married too hastily, and she had not been able to properly control the situation before marriage to understand what the situation of her in-laws was. But now, what should we do?
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