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After experiencing vicissitudes, Fan Zhongyan wrote such a poem "Book Fan Shows the Doorman":
A school of green mountains scenery, the former people in the field and the later people harvest.
Posterity receives Hugh rejoicing, and there are also reapers behind.
Roughly speaking, this green mountain wilderness, the scenery is so beautiful. The fields and money that the predecessors worked hard to get will eventually be accepted by the descendants. However, the descendants who own these fields and the money should not be too happy too soon, because there are still people who receive the money from these fields.
To put it bluntly, we always think that if we have a few houses or some money, we can pass it on to future generations forever. As everyone knows, everything will be reduced to ashes and then replaced by others.
In ancient times, there were two families in the village, the Liu family was particularly rich, and there were many fields. And the Li family? Although it is a little down, it will not be without rice to open the pot.
But after forty years, all the fields of the Liu family belonged to the Li family, and the family business that the Liu family had struggled for generations had finally become a passing cloud. Who knows all this?
Everything is not long-lasting, and it is not absolute. Thirty years of Hedong, thirty years of Hexi, everything will change. Therefore, when people reach a certain age, they should see through the truth of "inheritance".
02
On the Internet, someone raised a question, when people are old, how many assets should be left for their children to be reliable?
Someone replied that how many assets are not reliable, and things that are not made by their own efforts will always be squandered.
In real life, many people feel that when people reach their old age, they should keep more houses and money for future generations, hoping that they can pass on these houses and land forever.
But what they don't know is that it is unreliable to inherit materials. After all, there will be a day when the materials you have worked so hard will reach the hands of others, and your children and grandchildren will still live in confusion.
Take Cao Cao's Cao family and Sima Yi's Sima family, cao Cao left his descendants a state of Wei with two of the three worlds, thinking that they could unify the world, and even if they were not good, they could wait for the opportunity, and Cao's descendants would always be Emperor Wei.
Unexpectedly, the foundation that Cao Cao personally worked hard was seized by Sima Anderson. It can be said that making wedding clothes for others is the helplessness of Cao Cao and his children and grandchildren.
This illustrates the truth that leaving assets to future generations is a temporary guarantee, not a long-term guarantee. What really allows future generations to live a stable life should be to inherit the concept of "struggle and positivity".
Just think, when a family has only material things and no spirit, then the family is too dry after all.
03
The best destination for a person in his later years is to be able to pass on the correct concept.
Huang Yanpei did not leave anything for the child, but he left 48 words for the child:
Reason must seek truth, and everything must be true; words must be kept, and deeds must be steadfast.
Do not be idle, do not panic; if you have words, you must believe, and if you have no desire, you will be rigid.
And if the spring wind, the solemn autumn frost; take the image from the money, the outer circle and the inner square.
These 48 words are the conceptual guarantee for a person to continue to struggle. Children and grandchildren will not lose the temperament of struggle because of a comfortable life, and they will not know how to continue to soar because of the protection of their parents.
Later, Huang Yanpei's child Huang Da Neng sighed, and his father always told them that our Huang family could not cultivate a noble son.
And Huang Daneng naturally achieved extraordinary achievements, quite high status, and achieved great success in his career.
In fact, this is the influence of family concepts on children, and it is also the influence of parents' thoughts on children. Just think, if Huang Yanpei only left some money for his children, but not some spirit, then wouldn't his children only have to live more and more unhappily?
The destination of a person in his later years should be to leave everything that is best for himself to future generations. And the best thing referred to here should be a spiritual concept that can be "long-lasting".
Matter will eventually disappear one day. Only ideas and ethos can survive forever.
04
Do you remember who had several properties and who opened big companies? No one remembers. For the times will wash away all materialized things. However, we still remember that the phrase "take the image from money, the outer circle and the inner square" was said by Huang Yanpei.
This at least shows a truth, for a person, the greatest blessing is not only to live happily, to live a dashing life, but to let children and grandchildren also accept the baptism of correct concepts.
For example, he is a rich man, but he lets his children see that they are either supporting their lovers or abandoning their wives and children. In this way, even if others leave countless assets to their children in their old age, they and their children will not be happy.
Why do we often say to "lead by example"?
It is because of the influence of example and ethos that it is enormous. Just as you are a filial child, then your children will not be far behind.
Before our children are filial to us, we should let them know the concept of filial piety. When there is a house and a car, we should let the child know that it is not easy to "fight".
You make a lot of money, understand that life is not easy, that is useless. When one day, your children also feel the same way and inherit your concept of hard work, then your life will not be valuable?
Zhuangzi believes that what is passed on from generation to generation should not be a tangible substance, but an invisible spirit.
Therefore, a person who is happy in his old age must be a person with correct concepts, profound spirits, excellent moral character, and a visionary and patterned person who can benefit his children and grandchildren a lot.
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