The 72-year-old mother cried: The thing I regret the most is to only save money for the elderly!

A 72-year-old aunt Zhong in the nursing home saved more than 400,000 yuan for herself and lived in a very good nursing home, people think she will be very happy, but she cried secretly not long ago:

The most regrettable thing in my life is to save money for myself to retire, if I can start again, I will definitely not choose such a pension method again.

Why does Aunt Zhong, who is rich and has a good life, regret the idea of saving money for herself for the elderly? Let's hear what she has to say!

Narrator: 72-year-old Aunt Zhong

At the age of 72, I have a pension and a lot of savings, and even a son and a daughter who have already started a family, which is a very superior condition for my peers, no matter what, I will live a very comfortable and happy life in my old age. But I am not as happy as people think, but now I can only describe it as desolate!

Why I became like this, in fact, has to start from many years ago.

When I was 45 years old, my husband died of illness, leaving behind a son and a daughter who had just entered high school. Fortunately, my husband also has a younger brother, and I don't have to worry about taking care of my in-laws. However, it is not easy for a woman to raise two children, in addition to doing a good job of stabilizing my job, I will also do some extra money to supplement the family.

At that time, my children worked hard, never let me worry about studying, and I was admitted to college. And reading well, farther and farther away from home, the cost of life is getting bigger and bigger, and the heavy financial pressure weighs me down. At that time, many relatives and friends around me advised me that the family conditions were so poor, I should not let them go to college, which was painful for themselves, and the future would not necessarily be rewarded by their children.

At first, I thought that those people were all red-eyed, and they couldn't see that my two children were excellent, so they deliberately provoked me, so they didn't listen to their ideas, and no matter how tired they were, they also provided for their children to finish college.

However, when my children graduated from work, I gradually felt as if I had fulfilled what my relatives and friends said, and my children began to become less and less likely to go home, and the contact became less and less, and I wanted to go to them, but I was often rejected, either saying that I was busy at work, or saying that it was inconvenient, or that they would come back to see me. However, during the New Year's Festival, he often does not go home.

Later, I watched more news on TV and found that throughout the country, there were many cases of old people working hard to raise their children and supplementing their children with their savings, but in the end they were old and were not supported by their children.

This shocked me, how can I become so "thin- and thin- Gradually, there were a few friends around me, and it was a similar case, so I began to worry at that time, thinking that I was an old widow, and when my children did not support me in my old age, then I was lonely.

In order not to let my old age live so badly, I began to save money for my own pension plan, thinking that I had money in my hands, and only in my old age could I be guaranteed and have the right to choose.

So I became harsh on my children, and they asked me for money, and I gave them nothing, and I told them that since I was an adult, it meant that I had to be independent and self-reliant, and I would never spend money to supplement them.

At first, the children who had just started working were able to understand, and they felt that it was time to live on their own. However, after several years of social experience, their mentality has changed, and they are dissatisfied with me, thinking that I am selfish and do not look like a mother.

The daughter is fine, relatively independent, after work to earn their own money to spend, there is no attitude, and the son is different, as soon as he encounters someone who needs to spend money, he will immediately come to me.

When I first went out to work, I wanted me to buy him new clothes, and I wanted to buy him a motorcycle, and it was nice to have a clean set of clothes or a bicycle to ride in that era, and I wanted so much demand. In this way, I rejected my son.

But the son was very unhappy, thinking that he was very selfish, and he knew that the family had this money, but he refused to spend it. Moreover, he also talked about other people's parents, saying who is whose parents, how to subsidize their children, buy cars and watches, and even take money to live for their children. Why is it that when I come to this place, I am so miserly and do not feel sorry for my children at all?

But my son's words did not convince my heart, because I listened to more tragic cases in my old age, and saw more people around me, coupled with the attitude of my children to me after work, I felt more and more that in my old age, I had to rely on my own savings to retire!

Therefore, I was very harsh on my adult children, especially my son, who originally studied well, had been working for more than a year after reading the specialty, and he still wanted to take the entrance examination, but I felt that the specialty in that era was already very good, and he could be a teacher when he came out.

And if my son goes to college for two or three more years, he will have to support me, and the consumption of this big city will require me a month's salary for two months, and I can bear it. In this way, my son reluctantly became a primary school teacher.

Within a few years, my son's resentment toward me grew, saying that because I didn't give him an undergraduate, he wanted to run for any director, but he was not qualified, and he could only be a subject teacher every day.

At that time, in the face of my son's complaints, I was also a belly fire: I am an adult, and I am worried about my own affairs, isn't this normal? I didn't sponsor you to go to undergraduate, and now you have been working for two or three years, and you have money, and you can go to undergraduate study yourself! Why are you yelling at me?

Later, my daughter got married, and my family gave me 200,000 yuan in dowry money. When my son saw so much money, he suddenly filial piety to me, and the purpose was to buy him a house, saying that it was easy to find a girlfriend, get married and have children. But I didn't give it to him, but saved it myself.

Because my son has not handed in much money to me since he started working, and he has always eaten me and used me when he lives at home, I think my son may be unreliable in the future.

And the house we lived in at that time was also very large, married to the daughter-in-law and had two or three grandchildren is enough to live, why do you have to spend so much money to buy a house outside, this is not a waste of money!

In this way, I once again ruthlessly rejected my son and told him: I will solve my own life events, who is in other people's homes, and I still marry and have children without money and no house.

My son, on the other hand, was very angry with me because he didn't have a marriage room, which led to him getting married at the age of 32. Later, my son gradually contacted me less and less, he seemed to have always been disgusted with me, before the New Year's Holiday, or on weekends would come back with a family of three to live with me for a few days, and after I retired, gradually less, twice a year, and then once every two years, and then later, I did not contact him, he did not contact me.

The more indifferent my son is, the more I feel that my decision is right, people are old, my son is not old, and he has to rely on his own savings to retire himself. After the friends around me knew my attitude, they also said that I was a bit desperate, saying that no matter what, my son was still his own child, and he was also his future dependence, how could he treat his son like this.

But I said to them: When you are old, you will know that if you don't save money selfishly now, you will only live a very helpless life in your old age.

However, years later, I was punched in the face by reality. Those friends around me, although they don't have as much money as me, they are still good enough, with children to raise and children to be filial piety. But I don't have a single relative around me, and I feel that my life is very lonely when I have money.

Especially at the age of 69, I unfortunately fell, resulting in paralysis in the lower half of my body, and I had to rely on people for the rest of my life. Although my son had filial piety, he only served me in the hospital for a few days, so he found me a nurse, and after he was discharged, he also asked me to find a nanny to take care of me, saying that he could not serve me.

At that time, I began to regret that it was best to have relatives around me to take care of me, but I took out the savings I had saved for half a lifetime to give to my son, but I could not exchange his company. He said: Didn't you say that you can save money for the elderly? Isn't it time for you to use money to give yourself a pension, what do you want me to do?

Before, I thought that the money I saved was very enough for the elderly, but as soon as I was paralyzed, I instantly felt that my little money was not enough to maintain my life. It costs 5,000 yuan to hire a live-in nanny, which is 60,000 yuan a year, and my 400,000 deposit can support 7 years at most, which is not enough.

Helplessly, I chose to enter a nursing home and retire with a group of paralyzed elderly people. Because this kind of nursing home only needs 4,000 yuan per month, it can be wrapped up. With pension money and pensions, you can survive for at least ten years.

Although I was placed in the nursing home, life was able to proceed normally, but I never felt a trace of happiness in my heart, I was taken care of by the nursing home nurses as "livestock" every day, I ate and slept on time, and there was no emotional communication, and I was surrounded by a group of elderly people who could not take care of themselves, or suffered from diseases.

During my three years in the nursing home, I also deeply regretted my idea of saving money for the elderly. If given the chance to do it all over again, I really wouldn't choose this path again.

epilogue:

In old age, it is important to have money in their hands, but it is equally important to have children and daughters. We can learn to support ourselves, but we can't hurt our relationship with our children.

You know, no one can go through this life alone, especially in the old age, the companionship of affection is better than money and all benefits.

Some people say that having money can buy more intimate services than children, but the service without temperature and no family relationship will only make us live a very bad life and meaningless! Are you right?